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166,199 Why is it so damn difficult to make a no-strings-attached charitable donation from my home?

I was looking online today for channels through which I could contribute a few hundred bucks towards earthquake relief in Nepal.  My country's national broadcaster has on its website a list of over thirty suggested charities, so I started checking them out.  I have certain criteria that will rule out some charities from my consideration, but there are still plenty remaining to look at.

The thing is, I just want to give them some cash, and get a receipt - paper or electronic - for tax deductibility purposes.  I do not want to give them my name, my street address, my email address, my telephone number, or any other personal details.  I don't want to be put on a "list", and I detest receiving impersonal phone calls from strangers whose only reason for calling is to try to coerce money out of me.  I will make donations if and when I decide to, voluntarily - and not under attempted coercion in my own home.

We have in my country a nationwide system (BPAY) through which you can pay bills online or by telephone to any business that takes itself seriously enough to register with BPAY.  It's possible for charities to register with BPAY so that you could make a payment to them - anonymously from their view - and get an electronic receipt for your donation.  I know, because I've done that once or twice over the years when one-off BPAY arrangements have been set up for receipt of donations in respect of specific natural disasters.  But take a look at the websites of charity organisations, and there's no option to donate (anonymously) through BPAY.  There are, however, lots of fields to fill in with your name, address, telephone number, and so on, before you can proceed to pay with a credit card, or maybe Paypal.

I've come to the conclusion that they're not interested in anonymous one-off donations.  No doubt advised by professional fundraisers, they're aiming for "conversions" instead.  Too bad.  I'd like to help out, but not at the cost of my privacy, so it looks as if my dollars will be staying in my pocket - again.



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166,198 I know this lady who has a toddler with Down's syndrome. I have come to the realization that I don't really like her, or her family. I feel bad for feeling this way because I worry I am being to judgemental. Her life shouldn't concern me but she's one of those people...the ones people talk about that mooch off the system. Those types. I can't help but notice this fact and that yes, these people do exist. Now, she's not lazy. She works really well with her special needs so and she does a lot in her household (except disinfect...ew.) I won't go to their house anymore, which is a small rental that always smells like urine and halitosis. Her teeth are covered in an icky film that appears as though it should be easy to scrape off, or brush off. I am assuming she's tried that however, unless she just doesn't brush her teeth. Her sons breath is rechid. He has the filmy stuff too, though I wouldn't know if that's specifically an issue that all Down's children have. Her husband sleeps all day. He is on disability. He is weird. He is NOT disabled. I'm so beyond this American disabled bullshit. He works part time and he's obese & YES-lazy. Aside from that, he is creepy & lets just say based on some of the things their 5 year old daughter talks about, I would never in a thousand years allow my child to stay the night there or stay there at all without me present. That was the last time I ever went to her house in fact...when the 5 year old starts talking about the fact that she has eggs inside her body but they just aren't ready yet. Then when we leave she proceeds to throw a full blown tantrum on the ground. My kid looked confused. This is every single time, & I don't have the time for it again, to watch a child who is so desperate for attention act out in such a way. I don't know if it's because she is ignored or what. Her special needs brother gets all the attention. Everything I see on Facebook is this mother praising her son with a disability (that they get $$$ for.) but the daughter? Nothing. How can a man just not fucking work and bring home money when his son has Down's syndrome?? Wtf is wrong with certain people I'll never understand. Maybe if he got off his fat ass and did something, anything-their family wouldn't suffer so much.
She posted something about "tax-mas." Seriously? You LIVE off disability & you get tattoos and your dreads dyed when you get your income tax return?
Jesus.



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166,197 I had a dream where I hired two gigolos two have sex with me. Im in a very cold nearly sexless marriage, so I was very excited for this dream. For some reason they were both Russian, usually not my thing but ok. One was older in his fifties, really good looking and sensual but he couldn't get it up. The other guy was 22, all raring to go but no technique. I didn't even orgasm. I woke up so mad, lol! I dont get a screwed properly even in my dream!?!



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166,196 I miss my friend. I miss the conversations; sharing whats going on in each others lives. But i know if i were to see or talk to her other feelings would resurface. Maybe it's for the best she is ignoring me. Her plate is full and mine is filling up quickly.



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166,195 "I'm absolutely convinced that a riot merely intensifies the fears of the white community while relieving the guilt. And I feel that we must always work with an effective, powerful weapon and method that brings about tangible results. But it is not enough for me to stand before you tonight and condemn riots. It would be morally irresponsible for me to do that without, at the same time, condemning the contingent, intolerable conditions that exist in our society. These conditions are the things that cause individuals to feel that they have no other alternative than to engage in violent rebellions to get attention. And I must say tonight that a riot is the language of the unheard. And what is it America has failed to hear? It has failed to hear that the plight of the negro poor has worsened over the last twelve or fifteen years. It has failed to hear that the promises of freedom and justice have not been met. And it has failed to hear that large segments of white society are more concerned about tranquility and the status quo than about justice and humanity."
That's what Reverend Martin Luther King Jr. would say about the Riots



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166,194 166187...marry me.



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166,193 I wonder what Dr. Martin Luther King would have had to say about the Baltimore riots. For the second time in recent memory, we've allowed people to destroy homes and businesses, steal personal property, and generally act like idiots because they're upset. Welcome to the new feel-good entitlement state, America: a place where kids get awards just for showing up, politicians pander to an entire voter base of people who live off the government, and it's OK to let people (of any race) destroy someone's life or livelihood because they resent a police action against someone they don't even know. Don't the rioting people have jobs? Families? Who's paying for them to eat while they're stealing electronics and burning down buildings? YOU ARE.


Maybe the next riot should come from people who, like me, are tired of working and sacrificing to pay for everyone who doesn't want to get a job. When do I get to riot? Do we get to appoint "community leaders" to drum up support for the plight of the middle class?


For me, it's not a race war - it's a commentary on what society will tolerate. Stealing a TV from someone in your own neighborhood, who is likely the same color you are, shows that the fight is less about racial injustice and more about taking advantage of a situation.



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166,192 My fiance lives in another state, and lately, we've been having some issues in our relationship. So, we decided to take a break for, at least, the summer so we can "find ourselves" and date other people for a while.
We agreed that we would take the last week before he left and spend as much time as possible with each other because we didn't know when the next time would be. Because of that, we've been having sex every night we have left. The sex has been pretty good, but really just a more intense version of the same stuff we usually do. Tonight was different.
We weren't intending to have sex tonight because it's finals week and I still have a lot of work to do, but he texted me from my bed telling me he was jerking off into a pair of my panties, and I couldn't stay away. At that sight, I climbed on top of him and proceeded to ride him like I usually would. The only difference was that I was taking charge and calling the shots when I'm usually the sub. Suddenly, out of nowhere, he asked if he could call me something new. This took me by surprise because we usually don't roleplay (despite my theatre degree, I'm terrible at improv in bed). He then proceeds to call me "big sister" and we jump into a detailed fantasy of our sexual relationship as brother and sister.
It was by and large the best sex we've ever had and we're already planning mother/son and father/daughter variations for the next few nights.



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166,191 5 years later, I still think it should be me holding your hand..



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166,190 For starters, Whites need to take a good look at themselves for a change for the racial injustice and discrimination they institutionalized in this country!
Secondly, I don't see the LGBT community "thriving" in this country either! Even just reading the comments made here on Bruce Jenner shows that we're far from tolerating members of the LGBT community! Kids with gender identify issues still are committing suicide! And I know quite few gay people who told me that although marriage is permitted in their state, the still don't feel comfortable "coming out" at work for fear of discrimination against them.
F/W



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166,189 I am disappointed in many people's response to the riots.  Yes, violence is bad.  However, instead of suggesting ways in which the privileged should root for equality, they are giving advice on how the poor and disadvantaged should go about being heard.  

Are you kidding me?  "Look at how women gained the right to vote.  They didn't go around looting!"  Do you see how that sage "advice" is backward?  The FACT that women were viewed as lesser beings is the problem.  

"Sweden was one of the first countries that gave women equality".  Well whoopty-doo!  Some ignorant prejudiced asshole decided ahead of others to stop acting like a bigoted fucknut?  Oh, what a great guy.  How do you think they felt the day/month/year BEFORE this great "favor" of equality was granted?

So no, black and brown people, THE MAJORITY OF WHOM ARE NOT CRIMINAL, should not have to riot/protest/do ANYTHING to be treated fairly.  You see nothing wrong with inequality and find every fault in those who refuse to take it.



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166,188 Or maybe it's time for US folks to realize that white privilege exists and that one shouldn't have to resort to violence to be heard. All because nobody would listen to them before when they did try peaceful ways.
But that's none of my business.



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166,187 I have a stock account. I've had it 33 years. My grandpop set it up for me when I was born. When I was 10 or so my Dad said there was $25,000 in the account. I've never asked about it again. My mother just reminded me I have the account. Neither of us knows what's in it. My Dad always kept track of these things. He died 12 years ago. Now I'm curious. Either I'm going to be disappointed to find out the $25,000 has turned into $1,000. Or perhaps I'll get lucky and the account has $10 billion and I'm richer than Bill Gates!



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166,186 I'm getting really good at office politics. People shouldn't mess with me.



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166,185 I despise gas pump hogs. Get your gas and then get your car out of there. Don't leave your car at the pump and go inside for coffee. Selfish!



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166,184 The LGBTQ community has created radical social and cultural change in the US, and they did it without having to throw one stone at a cop or loot a store. Maybe it is time African Americans took a good hard look at themselves for a change, that is the place to start.



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166,183 I wanted to switch over to Obama Care. I missed the yearly window. They said there was no way I could switch until the following year. I couldn't afford to wait that long. They said I could be granted an exception if something big changed in my life, like I got divorced.

Light bulb.

So I divorced my wife. I wasn't planning on a divorce. But okay, if that's what it takes. I got divorced and qualified for lower insurance premiums.

But really? Because of Obama, I had to leave my wife. I hear couples also do this when applying for financial aid in college. These rules we've created, so dumb.



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166,182 On January 14, 2000, a pretty well-known escort in the metropolitan area where I lived wrote this about me on the Internet escort site The Big Dog...

"Reviews are always written on escorts, and for some time, I wanted to write one on this December's stranger. When a door is on the verge to be opened, there is always some excitement. Who's going to be behind it? If it were just a job, I wouldn't do it. It wouldn't be worth it. A knock on the door which opened on this December's stranger. Nicely dressed, dirty blond hair, and a handsome face. After a certain age, your face is quite the mirror of who you are. Let's say that is just showed on his face. There was something wild in him, extremely tamed though, but still wild. I will not bore you with details that you don't care about. I had a great afternoon with this December's stranger. We talked like if we had known each other for some time. Everything was easy. It just clicked. I knew that he will not come back. It was not the type. He has too many girls to meet and too little time. I just wanted to thank this gentleman for this lovely afternoon. It always takes two to have a great time. When I saw him leaving in his little car, I just smiled. Thank you stranger."

That review changed a lot of things, both for me personally and for the entire local escort scene. But it's not really something you can share with your family and friends, is it?



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166,181 Obama Care is nuts.



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166,180 #166177 - Tell your wife about it, maybe she'd be into it too!



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166,179 And while I'm at it, I'm going to add this to my previous post: Maybe if African Americans had a strong leader, they would express their frustration differently. But every time they have a leader that stands up for them, the leaders get killed by Whites, like MLK and Malcolm X. Even JFK who saw the injustice against Blacks was murdered.



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166,178 I can never buy Bumble Bee tuna again. How can I eat it with that image in in my head?????



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166,177 When we are making love I picture my wife cheating on me and doing it with other guys. This makes me cum right away.



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166,176 I've got way too much on my plate right now.



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166,175 I just want you to hold me, but you never will. We're not even speaking. I miss you, and I wish I'd never told you how I felt about you.

You said you adored me, you thought everything about my personality was amazing and awesome. You said we had such a special connection, that you'd never had anything like it and it was precious and unique. You told me that you wanted us to be in each other's lives forever and we made so many plans for the future together. We had so much fun, leant on each other through pain and hard times, and each knock back only made our bond closer.

And yet, when I tell you that I love you, but I understand if you don't love me back and I will never jeopardise our friendship by making a move on you...

Suddenly you want nothing to do with me. First you said you didn't want anything to change, that you didn't want to lose the wonderful thing we had. But now you are avoiding me and acting like I never existed. I want to reach out, fight for our friendship, but I know I need to give you space and just hope I haven't lost the best thing in my life.

You fell in love with my personality - you admitted it. And it gave me hope that maybe that would be enough that you could overlook my physical imperfections.

It wasn't.

I should have known better. I was so stupid to hope that my looks wouldn't matter when everything else was such a perfect fit. Of course you are entitled to be attracted to whatever you like, and I don't blame you for not wanting me. I know I'm not pretty. I'm not disgustingly ugly either. Just slightly on the ugly side of average. But I really really hoped that all your words meant maybe you could see past that.

You loved the contents of the box, so why does it matter that the box itself is a bit scuffed and dented? I honestly thought there was a chance... I was so wrong, and I will never make that mistake again. You've broken me in a way no one else ever could, and you didn't do anything wrong; you just don't want me, and the fault is mine for even hoping you might.

I feel so betrayed. You once told me that I should remember that no matter what happens you would always love me, unconditionally. Now it seems you didn't even mean it platonically.

I have lost you, my best friend and my soulmate, because I dared to love you. I wish with all my heart that I'd kept silent and you were still in my life.



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166,174 166160 wow... your wife is so lucky, and doesn't even know it!! I envy her.... those vacations sound fabulous. ...



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166,173 My aunt's husband has quite a reputation for being man whore in his younger days. Among one of his many women was one who one day just left him for no reason. Or so he thought. Turns out she caught him with several other women and rather than confront and break up with him she just decides to disappear. Many years go by and they cross paths again, she confesses to him that she left because of his infidelity, and also tells him that she was pregnant and had aborted. Many more years go by and she contacts him, she was diagnosed with cancer and confesses to him that she did not abort, but rather went back to her hometown of Indianapolis, gave birth on September 22, 1982 and put the baby up for adoption. And that it was a boy. She says she needed to tell him so that she could die with a clean conscience.

Forward to 2015. I meet a guy. Things are good from the start. We start talking about stuff, eventually start talking about our families. And he mentions to me that he is adopted. His birthday is on September 22. Born in 1982....Indianapolis. I'm thinking, just a coincidence. Untill my cousin and I decided to make a collage for my aunt and her husband. Among the pictures was one of her husband when he was younger. He looks exactly like the guy i'm seeing. This aside they both seem to suffer from constant random headaches, and have similar mental issues... and very similar mannerisms. Now I'm thinking, this can't be coincidental.. and I'm also panicking... I don't know whether I should say something or not.

My uncle is a very family oriented person. He dedicates as much time as he can to his children, and to my aunt. He also mentioned that he would like to find that child he never got a chance to meet.

The guy on the other hand has said that he has no interest in ever meeting his birth parents.



So... My secret.... I think I'm Fucking my cousin.



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166,172 I've always hated shopping. But my wife and I creeated this pact.  I'll come along if at some point on the outing she shows me her pussy. It's tricky, but fun to find a semi quiet spot in the store where she can unzip her pants and briefly flash the goodies.

So far I've seen her pussy in Sears (in the clothing aisle because the store was empty), Macy's (dressing room), Starbucks (bathroom), Whole Foods (very briefly right in the middle of the produce section, very risky), and Costco (in the back corner with the cases of soda).

Now I like shopping. :)



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166,171 I just had a experience that could have been scripted from the movie doubt, within my fellowship.

I fell seriously ill as a result of a surgeon perforating my esophagus during a routine look-see. It nearly killed me, I ceased breathing several times, my heart missed beats and so on.

As a result my wife lost her job. This job is also a training programme to get us poor folks back on our feet. With this the woman in charge of the McKinney Vinto funding for our children's school is also a member.

Another member came to our hone this evening "a homeless shelter" and stated that the stories she hears never match with ours. I queried what, and who from had her ear. It would be conveniently inappropriate to gossip at tho particular juncture.

I argued, considering the loss of my wife's job, my children's inability to attend school, these stories transcend gossip especially if these "stories" were erroneous or libelous.

It reminded me of the movie, when the priest claimed a woman came to confession, and asked if gossip was a sin. Yes the priest said. He instructed the woman to go home, stand upon the roof with a feather pillow and slice it open with a knife.
The woman did as instructed. She relayed this to the priest, and he queried what happened? The feathers flew everywhere with the wind. NOW GO AND COLLECT EVERY SINGLE FEATHER! I cannot, there is no way to know where they've all gone, its impossible. Ah, so just like words.

No religion is perfect, because we are imperfect. But, after my anger settled. I understood, I was deeply hurt. Bing told to go to my church for help by a woman who's job it is to allocate federal funding for homeless children was one thing, one person. Now I see a network of gossip, and hear rumour of lies.

Forgive them God, and help me to do the same.



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166,170 Everyone claims destruction of "their neighborhood", are we not reminded daily that the ownership of even so much as the roads, belongs to someone else? Are those my stores, do they care when my family is hungry, would they rather not throw away good food, and prosecute someone stealing to feed a family?



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166,169 Setting fire/looting or peaceful demonstration, they got your attention, didn't they? They're using means available to them to draw attention to themselves whether you like it or not! And by the way, I think this whole racial discrimination issue reached a point where small group candle vigils at night in front of some church are not really getting the point across anymore; I don't think they ever did...



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166,168 I've watched my wife masturbate. She didn't know I was there and looking.



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166,167 I do love him.



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166,166 If a woman asks me not to come on her sheets, I don't. If she asks me not to come in her hair, I won't. If she asks me not to come in her pussy.... well scoring two out of three isn't bad.



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166,165 If we have a nice day and it looks like I might suggest my wife and I have sex, she'll go out of her way to find me doing something wrong. Like I only said the dinner she made tasted great, but I failed to mention the salad was good too. Then she gets mad and storms off. Any hope at sex is then dashed. What do you call that? Passive aggressive? Or just being a plain old bitch? Whatever. I'm so tired of her and her games.



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166,164 the cute hooker is coming to my house soon and she is going to let me fuck her ass. I cannot wait.



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166,163 The Race War is here. Glad I have my guns.



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166,162 IF YOU'RE RELIGIOUS PRAY FOR ME PLEASEEE



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166,160 I took my wife to the Sandals resort in the Bahamas. She complained it rained one day. She got really mad at me.

I took my wife on what I thought would be a romantic overnight Amtrak train ride to Chicago. She complained it was a waste of time. She said if we had flown we would have been there in two hours and could have gone to a fancy restaurant for dinner instead of eating in "some smelly club car on the train". She got really mad at me.

I took my wife to a fancy ski lodge in Vermont called Sky Top. She complained the maid left an ironing board at the far end of the hallway. She didn't want to see an ironing board when staying in a fancy ski lodge. She got really mad at me.

I took my wife on a trip to the southern coast of England where the plan was to hike along the cliffs and see the Moors. She complained the food was terrible and there was no place to shop. She cut the country part of the trip short and demanded we go back to London and stay in a fancy hotel. She got really mad at me.

I took my wife to Disney World. We stayed at the Yacht Club resort. She complained our room didn't have a balcony, but other rooms did. She demanded I upgrade. The hotel was booked and an upgrade wasn't possible. She got really mad at me.

I don't take my wife anywhere on vacation anymore. She doesn't understand why.



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166,159 I have pooped so much in the last two days my ass is bleeding. I feel so weak, but can't decide if it is from hunger or my excessive pooping. I can't call out of work much less afford emergency care so I had better get better by tomorrow. If not, my job will just have to stfu likewise with finals. Ugh.



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166,158 I saw a black man today in my white bread town. A rare sight. He was walking with a limp along the side of the road. The road is fairly steep and goes on for three miles until it gets to the center of town. I felt bad for him. I wanted to offer him a ride but I was in a rush heading in the other direction.  

Thirty minutes later I was returning.  I saw him again. Still limping up the hill. I again wanted to give him a lift, but I now had young children with me.

I dropped the kids off. It took me another twenty minutes. Then I circled back.  I was determined to help this fellow out.

I searched the hill road. Nothing. I couldn't find him. I drove all the way into town and then some. No sign of him anywhere.

I feel like I failed. God, or fate, or karma, was testing me and I failed.

Tomorrow I'm going to drive the road again to see if I can find him. I'm bringing along 100 bucks to give him, to make up for my failure today.  Don't worry buddy, and don't worry Baltimore. There are white people who do care.



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166,157 More than once I've been glad to be wearing a skirt. A little tug of my panties to the side and I can pee in the park without anyone realizing. Can't do it with pants on.



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166,156 On the floor at work? Bullfuckingshit, mama. He sleeps in someone else's bed; and for whatever reason, keeps you around For emergency t.p...
Don't buy his snake oil, it makes for a slippery slope in your mental well being.



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166,155 Gangs across the country have declared war on police.  It's going to be a bloody summer.



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166,154 I think anyone that roots for looting is an idiot. Black, white whatever. People see discrimination when they want to. Rooting for anyone to break the law and embarrass themselves is juvenile and pathetic. Get over yourselves! Rooting for people to break the law doesn't make you less racist, it makes you a loser. If those people really wanted to show respect for the deceased, a quiet but dignified rally would suffice. They are using any available excuse in order to steal. Hey, "white" people who support the riots....why don't you go on down, jump in to the riots yourselves and see how that works out for you! Hehe



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166,153 Why should anyone give a damn what my religious beliefs are ?  As long as it doesn't involve cutting your fucking head off - leave me alone.  P.S.  Mocking my beliefs by using your "superior rational intellect" - is the hallmark of a classless asshole.  Keep it to yourself.



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166,152 I too think that it's time that Blacks fight back!! It's enough already! But we, white people can't just sit back and watch this injustice prevail in our country. Do we, Americans want to be known around the world for discriminating and killing off our minorities?

F/White



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166,151 I'm rooting for the African Americans in Baltimore. I hope they don't get bored. I hope they keep doing what they're doing. I'm looking for heroes among them. I'm looking for brave young people who have had enough of discrimination. I believe in what you are doing.

50, male, as white and waspy as they come, but even I see the injustice of how police treat minorities.



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166,150 Whenever I hear someone use the word "retard/retarded", (obviously in a derogatory way) I instantly lose any and all respect for that person. I don't care who you are. My boss used that word once and I called him out on it. What a dick! His son is a special needs child too! The good relationship we had changed right away. That speaks volumes about the person. You would never say, "That dumb nigger/spic/chink/fag/honky, etc.",  because you would get crucified but putting down people with disabilities is deemed acceptable? To anyone that uses that word; you are an asshole, plain and simple.



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166,149 There are so many dissatisfied people discussing their marriages on here, that I will share a secret that hopefully helps: I have slept with dozens of married women - some were cheating on their husbands, some of their husbands knew, some of their husbands set it up with me.

Of the latter two types, it was by far the best arrangement if it was something they were doing for fun, and not for a kind of solution to a stagnant romantic relationship.

The difference between all three? Communication. Communication about your desires, your expectations in a relationship, and what will happen if either are not met.

The wives who cheated on their husbands, there was no open and honest line of communication between them; he was busy, or away, or she felt like she couldn't talk to him, or he had cheated on her so she was getting him revenge. All of this is a breakdown in basic communication and trust.

The couples who had a stagnant romantic relationship, inviting me in to their bedroom was never a solution to their problem. At times, it would provide them with the opportunity to openly discuss things they had never had a chance to discuss before ("You liked it when he did X, how come you've never asked me to do X before?" "Well, I thought you should just know how to do X, would you like me to tell you what I want?"). At other times, it allowed one or both to share a kink that perhaps they were too embarrassed to share. One or both people lacked the communication skills to say "No, I don't like this" or "I want you to do this because it is very important to me" in a manner that would be well received by his or her partner.

The couples who were both having a great time with me, a few things were always present in their relationships: Trust in each other and in the stability of their relationship; non-judgemental conversation about desire; the ability to compromise to find a mutually satisfying solution; an honest desire to see their partner happy; the ability to separate the physical from the emotional.

So if you're relationship is not where you want it to be, communicate your desires in a calm, solution-focused way with your partner during a time of relative peace in the relationship. Your will both be happier afterwards and it will make for a much more gratifying sexual and intimate experience for the both of you..... and possibly me too if you're in Toronto!



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166,148 Sometime soon, probably in the next few days, some dopey cop is going to do something stupid in Newark or Irvington or Camden. You know, one of the "colorful" neighborhoods. Then New Jersey is gonna burn just like in ཿ. It's going to be an interesting summer.



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166,147 Don't move to Minnesota! These are some of the dumbest people I've ever seen, and I lived in the NE, in the South and in the West too! These people are dumb! They are back stabbing, pretentious and super competitive! The interesting thing is that they often shoot themselves in the foot though! Like they don't have deductive reasoning. Probably it doesn't help that 99% are white! Over the years I've noticed that there is a better balance in the work place if there are at least some minorities mixed in the crowd. They drive crazy too on the roads, like often the can't decide which way they want to go and suddenly cut across three lanes in front of you. Absolutely crazy!
F/White



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166,146 It just takes a day, or night, to tear things down. It takes years to build things up. The citizens of Baltimore about to find this out.



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166,145 Why is it that some women only want a man when they think some other chick is after him?  

It could be a way to keep the guy from coming back so refrain from always thinking you are the "winner".  

Triangulation is a giant red flag saying " you don't love the man, you love the drama "  Women with any kind of backbone don't normally prefer a man who is in the mist of deciding which female out of the lot he wants to drag back to his cave.

I tend to go for the "I know what I want and will do everything in my power to get it" types.



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166,144 We still talk a few times a week. There's nothing you can do to prevent us from communicating. Even if I have to change my number. We still love each other very much. He's in a bind and I'm in love! I'll be seeing him in a month or so just for a short visit. Suck it b*tch.



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166,143 My husband was mean to me on our honeymoon.  Was that the "sign" that I missed?  

One morning after a fight, he left to go on a solo hike while I was still sleeping.  He took our rental car and left his cell phone in the room.  I had no idea where he was or when he was coming back.  So there I was in our hotel room in a new town halfway across the country by myself.  

He has never treated me well.  He must not love me.



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166,142 I have to beg my boyfriend to love me 😔



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166,141 So many people bitch and complain here about others. Did you stop to think you may be a contributing factor to how foul the world has become?

What separates Jesus from all the other pretenders is, his message of love, compassion, selflessness, and forgiveness.

Whatever it is that vexes you. Let it go. Someone out there has it far worse.

Being human is a hard road, one that we must take and avoid becoming hard of heart in the process, and none too quick to judge.



35/M Seattle WA



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166,140 I host an internet forum. I gotta tell ya, it's soooo satisfying to block the trolls. I block 'em and then they contact me and beg and beg to be let back on the forum. I never let them back in. Trolls, you gotta learn there are consequences to your actions.



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166,139 My boyfriend sleeps on the concrete floor of his workplace with no bedding rather than come home or answer his phone.



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166,138 I think my number is about up. I was in New Orleans on vacation and left 3 days before Katrina hit (our hotel was demolished), the year before that we were in Thailand and missed the Tsunami by 2 days (again the resort was completely demolished), now I have to go to CA for my daughter's graduation and they are predicting another "horrific" earthquake to hit (albeit in the future, so they say). If it happens and I miss "that" by 1 day I'm done. Coincidence? One wonders...either there IS a God that saved me or his aim is getting better. RIP to all the victims.



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166,137 We can still be friends even though you're with somebody.



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166,136 In my opinion, no, it doesn't matter at all. Be happy.



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166,135 I fucking HATE religion. Christian, Jewish, Muslim, whatever. Religion causes trouble, it doesn't solve it. THERE ARE NO MAGIC PEOPLE IN THE SKY!!!!!!



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166,134 I changed my mind about this confession and have subsequently deleted it.



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166,133 I'm trying to care the right way.



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166,132 so let me get this straight.....

the baltimore mayor told police that the area the people protested / rioted was a safe area to destroy?

am i missing something here?  WHAT THE FUCK!!!  the public will have to pay for the damage not covered in insurance claimes.

how can this be ok?   oh i know...black city/black mayor/black rioters whoops i mean protesters....

i guess black riots matter?



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166,131 When we were dating, I saw him a few times. We would get together, have a few drinks, and fuck.
I always loved him more.



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166,130 I'm not a chauvinist, but women should shave their arm pits. Anything else goes with me, except they must shave those pits.



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166,129 i really need to cum.



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166,128 I have this fantasy where I go to bar and meet a woman. We hit it off and she invites me home to her apartment. We roll around on the bed for a while kissing. When I slide my hand up her skirt I encounter a strange mound. On further investigation I'm suddenly surprised to find it's a cock. She's a man in drag. At which point I realize how turned on I was before knowing she had a cock, so I just go with it and we continue to have sex. Instead of sticking my cock in her pussy, I move an inch to the south and put it in her ass. Does it really matter? Still feels good.



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166,127 Veterans Day is for all vets, those who have died and those who are still serving/have served.
Memorial Day is a day just for those who gave their lives fighting for their country.



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166,126 I'm confused about the difference between Veterans and Memorial Day. I thought they are both days to remember Veterans who have died.  Then I was told no, Memorial Day is to remember workers who have died. But then don't we also have Labor Day to remember workers?

See the problem. We are trying to honor two groups, and for this we have three holidays. One too many.



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166,125 Why do earthquake hit poor areas? It's God sending a message.



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166,124 So it's been a few weeks since I've said anything. It feels good to get this stuff off my chest. It's really for my own sake-not trying to ruffle anyone's feathers. Forgiving and forgetting. It really works.



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166,123 Greek and Roman busts and statues are attractive! I know they're not accurate depictions of the things they depict. But damn. I would f*ck with a Greek statue real quick...let's hope the tiny d*ck part is just modesty​



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166,122 Really? Transgender is ok? Its ok my father wants to be my mother, or vice versa.... Are you going to tell your 10 year old child.."ummm Bobby, daddy has decided not to be daddy anymore, he wants to be mommy".....and thats NOT going to fuck up that kid? really?



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166,121 My boyfriend fucks me so little that I came to a point when having sex with him is no longer something I expect, rather than something I really hope he doesn't remember to do. Because I just know it will suck and leave me wanting more (that will never come)



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166,120 I gave you my heart and believed all the lies that came from your mouth. You broke me, but the saddest part is that I think you also believed all the lies you told me.
At some point, I will heal and move on. I feel bad for you because I fear you will be stuck in this endless cycle.



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166,119 I don't think I've ever seen a truly handicapped person get out of a car parked in a handicapped spot. Sure, they have the sticker. But they seem to have no trouble hopping out of the car and walking into the store. The whole handicapped parking thing is a scam.



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166,118 Leave me alone then. Stop searching for my name and give it up.



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166,117 The story of Israel is a great example to the world. It is a story of a people whose response to suffering has been to move beyond resentment and build a most extraordinary society, a vibrant democracy, a freedom-loving country with an independent and rights-affirming judiciary, and an innovative, world-leading ‘start-up' nation.



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166,116 I'm a gay guy in a relationship for 15 year.. and I cannot get the thought of a fling with a bearish trans-guy out of my head..



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166,115 My home is haunted (for lack of a better word). We don't see ghosts, things don't fly through the air, nothing like that. Rather, we hear barn yard animal noises. There are no horses or cows around. Once, at 3 in the morning, my wife and I each heard the distinct sound of a horse neighing. Just now, I heard a very distinct, if soft, moo of a cow. It isn't entirely scary, but it is very weird.



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166,114 Oh, there you are.  Good luck with that one.



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166,113 It just keeps getting better.  In no way did I expect you to be here when I got home today.  You knew what I had to do today - exhausting and back breaking work at my grandfather's. But I never thought you would be here when I got home!  Again, animals dealt with, floor swept, and a delicious dinner underway.
You laid out clean clothes for me while I was in the shower as we talked about the day. You helped dry me off and pulled me into your arms. Your lips on my neck and face, your hands pressing me against you...  and you said it again. Softly and so sincere, "I love you so much. You have made me feel whole. I love the girls and this house and you. Why did we let so many years pass us by?"
I do love you so very much.  For always.



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166,112 Where are you ex?



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166,111 You know what?  Go fuck yourself, you worthless piece of dog shit. The way you've been acting makes me wonder if you were ever really my friend in the first place. Don't you think I would have taken care of things if I could have?  Don't you think I'd do it now if I could? Do you understand I don't just have $2100 to give you?  Where is the compassion and understanding?  Did you forget everything we did for you?  And are you so far into your own delusions that you really can't see your part in it or are you just full of shit and trying to get me for anything you can?  You know what?  I'm THROUGH being upset about this. I will always care about you. It wasn't false on my part, BUT FUCK YOU AND GOOD RIDDANCE.



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166,110 I feel pretty frustrated and hopeless right now. I do everything I know how to do to make things better.  I work my ass off, get to work when I get home, get to work on my days off, I don't get to have sex hardly EVER and when I do, it feels really impersonal. I feel like I'm the only one putting effort into anything.



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166,109 I feel like sad worthless dogshit.

When someone that you have been caring with treats you like nothing. Always throws you away. Turns and walks out of your life everytime without blinking. How can I just not matter that much?!

I hate being the nice person. Its a disease. I wish I could just not care, but I do.



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166,108 Seriously Robles. You need to know what your bitch is up to. You have to discover this shit on your own, I can't just make a pamphlet for you. There is a reason she doesn't have any male friends right? Maybe that should extend a bit farther. i.e. Some internet sites....seriously dude. Open your fucking eyes.



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166,107 166099....totally agree. Thank you. I don't feel like as much of a bastard anymore.



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166,106 Waxing philosophically...I don't know if physical immortality/eternal youth exists. (A la Highlander or The Man From Earth) Probably not...I do believe in the spiritual immortality of the soul. If I could be physically immortal, I know I would use my immortality to help others and do good for humanity. I would become a doctor and go to places like Nepal and West Africa. However, I am not brave enough to do that now simply because I am a coward and afraid to die. I wish I could do more with my life because my heart and soul are truly in the right place with goodness. But I simply don't have the courage.



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166,105 My ex is a piece of shit and doesn't deserve to be a blip on my radar. Should have taken the hint when he said he's had to change his number because of his exes.

I hate him and just keep praying to find forgiveness in my heart for the way he treated me and all he put me through.

At this point, if he were laying bleeding in the road I would probably walk right by.

So I just keep praying for the willingness to forgive him.



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166,104 I wanna be friends with my ex and friends only.



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166,103 Liar.



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166,102 166098 You are the best kind of human.



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166,101 All I want is for you to leave me alone. You are so manipulative and while I took it for a while, now it just makes me angry. So stop while you are ahead, mmkay?



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166,100 My wife will let me do everything to her sexually except she won't blow me. She'll even let me fuck her ass, though she cries every time I do it, but I really just want to see my cum all over her face and that dazed and hurt expression she has when it is dripping off her chin and cheeks onto her tits. But the bitch has drawn a line and won't do it anymore. I will have to go back to my regular hooker to get my facial cum fix now.



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