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173,499 Don't take life so seriously, nobody gets out alive.



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173,498 If I were to die at this point in my life, no more history, no more future, I would be O.K. with that. I've thought about it and felt it, and I would not care in the least. I do like being alive and everyone in my life, my life I've built. For some reason, nothing has ever inspired me to value this life too much. Sure, there's awesome things I can do and experience all the time. I know that. But if you can just be put out of existence at any moment by fucking traffic or heart disease what the hell is the point? What's the point of holding on so dearly? This existence is not as great as everyone makes it out to be.



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173,497 I posted the secret about the bi-polar wife. I can see how this in my fault. I kind of knew she had issues when we were first dating, and as much as I knew this in my head, my libido convinced me it was okay.

First date, we went to a bar and had a few beers. I walked her home to her apartment. I said goodnight on the sidewalk. She asked if I'd like to come up. I said no because I had to get to work early the next day. She grabbed my wrist and tried to pull me into her apartment building. I was very nice about it but I had to ask several times for her to let go of me. That was weird and a big red flag, If I did that to her I'd get arrested for sexual battery. Her behavior wasn't lost on me. I didn't call her for a second date.

We worked at the same large company. Our paths didn't cross for another six months. But then I bumped into her late one evening as we were both leaving the building. We had a bit of small talk. I thought she seemed calmer. I asked if she'd like to grab a burger. I consider this to be date number two. This time I didn't offer to walk her home. I hailed her a cab. She asked if I'd like to come back to her apartment. I said no. She started crying. I still clearly remember her driving off in the cab staring out the back window with tears running down her cheeks. I tried to justify her emotional outburst. We were both older, in our thirties. I think she viewed me as her last chance to marry and have kids. My rejecting her was much more than a no. I think she saw it as a condemnation that she would be forever single.

See how that worked though? I was making excuses for her. I should have recognized she was single for a reason. She has serious emotional issues. But instead I made the excuse that she was probably sensitive about not being married.

The thing was, she was beautiful. And I wasn't dating anyone, mainly because I worked so damn much. This is the only reason I called her for a third date. It was stupid of me. All the warning signs were there. I ignored them.

I took her water skiing. I watched her all day prance around in a bikini. Afterwards, we were about to get back in my car. This was the defining moment. This is when she baited the hook and reeled in a fish. She said her bathing suit was wet and she needed to change into dry clothes. So right in front of me, while still carrying on a conversation, she pulled down her bikini bottom and futzed around in her bag. She had a beautifully trimmed pubic region. Blond. Landing strip. She then pulled out a white lace thong and put it on. In hindsight, I'm sure this was by design. She wanted me to see what I was missing.

It worked. When I dropped her off at her apartment she again asked if I'd like to come up. I finally said yes...

Then we were dating. She still acted "difficult".  For example, she needed to have her way on everything. Where we ate, what street we walked on, what movie we saw. I made more excuses for her and told myself it was worth it because I was dating a beautiful woman.

A year later we got married.

I've been so miserable. She's a nightmare. I eventually tried to stand up to her demands. Then she pulled a new trick. She said if she didn't get her way, she would kill herself. She used this a lot. Over stupid things. Should we walk or take a cab? She wanted to take a cab. She was willing to die for this. I backed down.

All my fault. I ignored the warnings. I made excuses for her. I'm not willing to test if she's serious about suicide. God, I need to be done with this. Believe me, beautiful or not, no woman is worth this much trouble.



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173,496 I had four major life-saving operations and the resultant scars so disgusted my husband that he had an affair...

And according to you, that is MY fault?


(And before there are any assumptions about just how extensive the scarring is - one big one, about 25cm long and 2-3cm wide, and three small 2x2cm X's. Unless I'm in just my underwear/naked, you can't see them at all.)



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173,495 The straw feminists must have written the book on family court law, or books rather. I'm disgusted by it in the name of equality, but, on the other hand, it seems to be the only present way to protect women and children from neglect and abuse.

Men usually are required to provide financial compensation in custody disputes. They are usually granted less visitation. They usually aren't considered good primary custodial parents. But, we've come along way baby,  especially since Kramer v Kramer.

I guess it's safe to say it's a very inequitable situation all around.



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173,494 I amazed by how much people can take something personally when it's not directed at them.

Some people go out of their way to be offended...



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173,493 "No one is free when others are oppressed"



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173,492 173465 - sounds more like borderline, the mood swings are too frequent and the black and white thinking, you are great then you are horrible is very textbook. Quick question, did you know something was wrong when you were dating her and just looked passed it. Or was this a complete surprise and turn of personality and behavior



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173,491 If you are cheated on, it's your fault. Every time someone I know got cheated on it was because they weren't good to their partner, either in bed or out of bed.



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173,490 Women don't just live in a bad and unjust world,we all do. We're all equals. This world is too corrupt and injustice will always be present.



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173,489 I didn't think about all that women have to go through until a good friend of mine was brutally raped, beaten and left for dead. It was tough to see my friend go through that. Her entire life was destroyed and she had to live the rest of her days with the trauma of being violated so badly. My friend pressed charges, but the guy didn't even go to jail. He moved away and lo and behold two years later he raped and killed a teenager. This is the reality of the world that women have to live in every day, it's so sad.

If someone did that to my daughter, or if my sons did that to someone, I would kill them with my bare hands.

47/M



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173,488 There are way too many women that diminish men,and not enough men that stand up for themselves.

f/37



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173,487 I'm a man and a proud feminist. The worst thing about my gender are those "men" (there should be another word for them, they're really subhuman) who can only feel better about themselves by attacking women. Luckily, there are plenty of us decent gentlemen around who actually respect women and would never do anything to harm them. We teach our brothers, sons and friends how to behave like good people, who recognize that treating people well and respecting them doesn't take anything away from others.



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173,486 He fingered me and I came. That's never happened before. God, I'll remember that forever.



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173,485 Feminists fight too hard to make women have more rights than men,instead of both genders having equal rights. Disgusting.



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173,484 Well, if I had known you were going to be so late showing up, I would have done a workout before I took a shower! And now you say you want to get Chinese food? Having a boyfriend is just too damn stressful. I'm sure you were really "helping an old lady" on the same day that you just happened to be "kept late at work". Thanks for nothing, cheater.



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173,482 To try to maximize women's problems and to minimize men's is sickening. Men and women are equals.



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173,480 In the US, a man is beaten every twelve seconds. Anyone who thinks gender equality means women should be hitting men is part of the problem.



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173,479 The Republican Party was basically formed out of a coalition of various political groups that were more or less opposed to slavery.  Now we have a modern Republican Party that somehow affiliates itself with that heritage, but the resemblance to the old party is basically negligible.  Whenever people start to discuss what it is that they stand for I start to feel a little embarrassed as though they were poking around in somebody's underwear drawer.  Some of the things that they say you can't really say loudly  without feeling a sense of shame which is why there so much backlash against  political correctness.  The Donald isn't really a Republican, even by modern standards of what they claim to be about. Anyone should be able to see that but many of you do not. I'm not sure though that it really matters when you have a political party that doesn't even really have an identity and may be dying off for all we know. Fiscal Republicans are the only ones that make any sense whenever they open up their mouths, Say things like "we will make things great again" or "it's going to be great" etc. isn't anything but a pile of fluffy feathers. You are either in on the joke or you aren't.



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173,478 In the US, a woman is beaten every nine seconds. Anyone who thinks gender equality means men should be hitting women is part of the problem.



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173,477 I think a lot of this bitchiness from women would stop if they just got clocked once in a while. Women seem so bold and willing to talk so much shit when they think there will be no consequences.  I'm a pretty big dude, and I feel like I could probably knock most women's heads right off their shoulders pretty easily. I don't advocate violence against women, or anyone else for that matter, but I also don't go looking for trouble.  For instance, I'd never go up to Brock Lesnar and call him a pussy, or start trying to provoke him. I feel like there may be some consequences to that particular course of action.



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173,476 My wife sent me a nasty email calling me a "shithead" and a "mother fucker" because I said we can't afford to join a country club for $80,000. She's done this before, sending me a belittling email because she didn't get her way. This last one though was over the top. My response, I forwarded it to her two sisters. My wife went postal on me. But she never sent me another nasty email. I think that's how to deal with bullies. Expose their dirty deeds. Let everyone know what a bully and ass she is. Good luck to you.



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173,475 Seeing people who have hurt and abused you be surrounded by love and success is the most painful thing.
Especially when the people who are supporting them are the people who used to be your friends.



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173,474 to 173468, if your wish happens more than just the oil industry will experience extreme pain. Better get rid of that 5/1 ARM otherwise you will be steamrolled, too!



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173,473 I've been diagnosed with bipolar, depression, PTSD and bulimia. I don't take my meds. The only times im functional is when I'm on something. Adderall, focalin, vyanese, bronkaid.   Any upper I can get my hands on to boost my mood, give me energy and kill my appetite. Weed , xanax and ativan to being me down. This is no way to live. But I can't seem.to find a middle ground. When I actually take the anti psychotic meds I gain weight, when I eat I purge. If I stop those behaviors with no meds I start drinking all the time and get fat anyway. If I take my meds I feel dead. I would rather have  it be this way. I would rather be a skinny pill whore than a fat bulimic drunk. This is the way it has to be.



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173,472 Some people like to be left alone , you should not take it personally. I'm those kind of woman who loves my time alone to recharge , I avoid certain kind of people if I know they are going to drain me (drama queens, downers, gossip etc..).    If I ever get married I would have to be a pilot or a guy who job requires a lot of travel . I can't stand being smothered or have someone in my face everyday . Idk why some people take things so personally , not everybody's want to be surrounded by people all the time .  There's a reason me and my ex are best friends and get along great most of time we even joke we should be married just for tax purposes without actually being together , he will stay in his home and I would stay in mine , he will date all he wants since we are not interest on having a sexual relationship . After all marriage is similar to a business contract and it should be treated as such.



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173,471 There are 19 people in my immediate family. 11 Republicans, 8 Progressives.

One Republican works in the private sector. The rest are either on SS, disability, or work for city, state, federal govt, or is in the military.

One Progressive works for the Federal Govt. The rest are all in private sector jobs. Most self-employed.

And none of them see the irony of it.



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173,470 I think my exneightbor is hilarious talking about other people's apareance . First of all you you should look in the mirror you look like a neo nazi thug, dress like a homeless and look way older than you are.  I might be close to 40 and overweight but I'm wrinkle free I don't any crow feet even when I smile and only 2 grays . In other words I look fabolous unlike you . Wrinkle and old looking , you just bitter because I never pay attention to you .  You are not my type and I'm not interesting on dating a kid . I stick with people my age or a little bit older, who knows how to speak properly have manner which you lack of and look presentable and that makes me a snobby bi$$$ so be it. Your opinion is worthless and as you calling me a gold digger , you are wrong I have always have money don't forget I used to have a 6 figure job and was raised on upper scale neighborhood with a housekeeper. So you can shove your ignorants comments about assuming all Mexicans that come here are poor and uneducated . My family have well paying jobs and are educated and live in a very nice area back home , nicer than your house .



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173,469 Every once and awhile I feel rather guilty because I am so happy and my life just keeps getting better and better.
I know I shouldn't but still, so much sadness in the world.
So I have stopped watching the news.
It helps.
I know I deserve to be happy and finally accepting this is what turned it all around.



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173,468 According to statistics, brain aneurysms are very rare. So I find it completely odd that three girls from my class in grade school all died from them.



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173,467 I hope the price of oil goes to $10 a barrel. It's almost there. Fucking greedy assholes have been ripping us off for 10 years. I hope oil collapses and everyone in the oil industry loses their job. It'd be one thing if gasoline cost $4 a gallon and the money was used to keep the oil wells safe from terrorists. That I could understand. But that's not the case. I know people in the oil biz. The money the oil people stole from us was used to buy themselves expensive cars and turbo charged McMansions. This was mankind and greed at its worst.



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173,466 I don't like when people stand too close to me when talking. Five feet is close enough. Absolutely do not lean in to my ear to say something. Huge violation of my air space.



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173,465 I'm convinced I'm married to a bi polar wife. She wakes up happy. She tells me she doesn't ever want to get out of bed with me.

Suddenly in the afternoon she's foul towards me. The issue, I brought the car to the garage for an oil change. At the same time the mechanic recommended we replace the back two tires because they are worn down. This angers her. She calls me cheap and stupid because I should have replaced all four tires. I pointed out the same mechanic replaced the front tires a few months ago. He's the expert. He said to now replace the back two tires. But none of this registers with her. She talks down to me and asks if I always do what others say. She tells me I have no backbone and I'm not much of a man. Ow.

As her bedtime rolls around, she's nice to me, giving me hugs and kisses. I'm not sure what changed to make her nicer.

In the middle of the night she wakes for the bathroom. As she climbs back into bed she tells me I'm a terrible father. I ask why. She says because I spend too much time discussing heady things with out son, like math, books, and science. I should spent more time throwing a football with him. She says she wished she married someone else.

In the morning, she get's up before me. There's a note on the counter saying she loves me and will miss me today. She drew a heart with our initials in it.

WTF? That's four major mood swings in less than 24 hours. This happens multiple times a week. There's something wrong in her head. It wears me out.



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173,464 There is a lot of conspiracy going on in my hometown and I complete agree with it.
Over the past 2 years or so, there have been 5 new cases of leukemia among kids from the same high school, all between 16-18 from when they first were diagnosed. I remember thinking back when one of my best friends was diagnosed last year that it seemed a little strange that so many people I knew were getting sick. My town isn't big enough where these things can happen and make sense statistically. Each graduating class has about 300 people. If you look at statistics, 3,500 children get leukemia each year, averaging out to about 70 per state, since I live in a bigger state, I'll say 100. I live in a mid sized town, so we should be getting about 1 case a year or so. It's at the point where it's weird that one town has so many cancer cases, but the other towns of same size surrounding me have nothing.
I didn't think it was a problem until my friend passed away. He was 19. We graduated high school together. Everything was fine a year ago. I now believe this is 100% environmental. Theres not any industry in this town though. There's no factory or power plant to blame things on. All I can think of is when they were building something, some toxic waste was leeched into the water supply. Kind of like a flint, Michigan thing. I want this to be the result of some greedy capitalist not wanting to properly dispose of chemicals to make a quick buck. Maybe this is a warning that we can't keep treating our environment like this.



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173,463 Everyone I know is crazy about Game of Thrones but I can't stand it. I hate the books and I hate the show even more. People feel so strongly about this that I've literally lost friends because I don't play into the hype (although it's not like they were really friends anyway if they stopped associating with me because I don't like the same book/show as them). I don't hate on people who like Game of Thrones, but I just really fucking dislike it.

My secret? I am a close blood relative of George R.R. Martin and he's kind of a dick to the whole family (I guess he writes what he knows).



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173,462 I fucked you well
The best you ever had
You said so yourself
I actually believe you
And I fucked you harder
Where it counted to you most
Your wallet

Glad you never knew I had a side piece of my own
You hurt me badly when you reverted to type
Hedging my bets might have been a not so nice move to some
But hells....
Sure soothed the sting
As I instinctually knew you were not to be trusted
Dirty dick mofo

Keep thinking that bent cock of yours rules the roost, sugar
Back then my passport had more empty.pages
And I once did truly try and love you



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173,461 I have a friend who started an online business where she sold gifty items like fancy soap and potpourri. It's been running for the last three years and to be very honest, I was jealous. I didn't want her to make money at the biz.

Last month she sent out an email to everyone saying the business is now closed. She failed after all. I'm glad.

I'm a horrible friend. But you know what? I'll bet all of you feel the same way about your friends being more successful than you.



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173,460 Of all the girls I dated, there was only one I loved. The really sad part, she wasn't the one I married.



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173,459 I dated a woman for about 5 years. It was a serious committed relationship. We lived together. We went on vacations together. Her parents loved me. I was considered to be part of her family.

But the entire time we were together, I was seeing other women behind her back. I'm not talking about just having an affair. I was seriously dating other woman.

Like I'd meet a woman. I'd ask her on a date. And a second date. And a third date, at which point we'd have sex. I'd send her cutesy things in the mail. I'd have coy phone calls with her. I'd arrange to go to fancy restaurants and shows and concerts. Like this was real dating. I'd meet her friends. Sometimes I'd get to meet her parents. They probably thought what a nice guy I was being so attentive to their daughter.

But the entire time I was going home to my real girlfriend.

And this didn't just happen once. I did it half a dozen times during the 5 year long term relationship. I'd date each woman a few months. Then break it off. I wasn't interested in a long term relationship with the other women. I already had one of those. I didn't need two. So I'd date for a few months and then try to make a new conquest.

And the sex, yikers. Typical scenario, after work I'd go out with the temp girlfriend. We'd have sex. Then the next night I'd have sex with the real girlfriend. Although there were a number of times when I had sex with the temp. I'd come home, take a shower, and have sex with the real.

You want really twisted behavior? A few times I had sex with the temp. I came home and starting to fondle the real. She was in the mood, so I got us both naked and I quickly inserted myself in her pussy before she could notice my dick was already sticky with pussy juice. This meant I was inserting the temp girlfriend's pussy juice into my real girlfriend's pussy. She had no idea. Imagine that. She was a fairly straight arrow. She had never done anything with another woman. Yet unknown to her, she had juice of other women in her pussy. There were even times I'd fuck her for a minute and then ask her to blow me. She would do it. This meant she had the other woman's pussy juice in her mouth. She didn't realize though. She thought it was her own pussy juice she was tasting. That was so fucking hot.

Another twisted aspect, on those nights I pulled off a double fuck, by the time the temp girlfriend was going to bed, she was probably feeling all warm and cozy knowing she was just laid an hour earlier by her dream man. She had no idea her dream man had his dick in someone else at that moment. And not only that, he was feeding the temp's pussy juice to another woman.

Someone said men are pigs. Absolutely right. I was the poster child.



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173,458 I'm so sick of my friends with mental health issues complaining about their mental health issues.  It's obvious that they're completely uncurable and will always live miserable lives, dragging everyone around them down.  I can't wait until they inevitably commit suicide.  Huge weight off everyone's shoulders.



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173,457 In elementary school, so many kids have nut allergies. It's a dominant force in the school's culture. No candy with nuts. No peanut butter and jelly allowed in the lunchroom.

But it's a miracle how Middle School cures nut allergies. Ya know what I'm saying? Just when the kids and parents figure out it's not cool to be in Middle School and sit at the "nut free" table in the cafeteria, well then the nut allergy goes away.

Science should look into this. Middle School cures nut allergies.



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173,456 Boyfriend picks you up makes a joke about looking good for him.
Misogynist.
Clearly.



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173,455 I don't thank people. Have pride in knowing you did a good job. Don't look to me for approval.



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173,454 I think my wife has checked out of our marriage. She doesn't care anymore. It's not that I'm mean to her or anything. It's that she's decided raising children and cooking and doing laundry isn't for her. So she doesn't bother with the mundane. She sits around reading magazines and eating bonbons. Mother of the year, wife of the year, she aint.



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173,453 My son is friends with a billionaire's son. The family seems pretty normal. Their kid plays little league, and gets mediocre grades on spelling tests, and sucks at playing the clarinet in band, just like my son. So yeah, they seem pretty normal. Except they are going to Paris for the weekend. Again. Except for that.



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173,452 My boyfriend was going to pick me up at the laundromat. I said I was going to the gym while I wait for him to get here and for my clothes to dry. He replied, "Are you trying to look good for me?". Yes, boyfriend. I only work out to impress YOU. I've been working out since before I met you, but that was only because I was waiting for YOU to come into my life, so I could impress YOU with my body. Riiight. He is so conceited. Are you kidding me? Like, dose my body belong to you? I'm pretty fucking sure it belongs to ME! I don't owe you a good body, and it's not fun feeling like you have to meet a certain expectation from your partner. Maybe I should call it quits with you. Oh, but then I wouldn't have a reason to work out anymore, right? There's no way I could be doing for my physical and mental health, and so I can look and feel great. No. It's all for you. Thanks for de-humanizing me. I'm really feeling the love.



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173,451 One thing learned from the popularity of Trump is this uncanny support for his run for the President. There must be some kind of connection to the poor and middle class white people  who connect with a racist, xenophobic, lying white billionaire. It's as if they find justification in their position when a rich white guy thinks and says the same thing as they are thinking, "Yeah homey, Trump says it. He's a rich bitch. Must be true. Rich people don't say s-h-i-t for nothing."



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173,450 We have leaders in the world that are crazy - Russia and Korea -real lunatics. I think we need Trump to become President as he is crazy enough to deal with these f*ckers.
How can Clinton or Bernie deal with these problems ?
They know nothing about money so let a guy that has made a fortune take the lead. I also like that he will not be impressed with the trappings of the White House and Air Force One like the Obama's. They think they are Beyonce and her man......on our dollar.
Get rid of the politicians-they are the problem! We need some fresh blood to make decision in this country and get rid of this outrageous debt we are living under!



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173,449 My grandmother raised me since I was a toddler. She was a terrible person, a sick, twisted bitch. She stole, lied, cheated the system, cheated on my grandfather, encouraged me to use my looks to get her cheaper/free stuff, lied to social services so we could get food stamps when we absolutely did not need them, lied to my high school to get a discount on tuition. She accused me of trying to sleep with my uncle, my cousins, even my grandfather! The list goes on and on. Not to mention, she abused me in all ways possible. I'll leave it at that. She disguted me, and I left home as soon as possible. Somehow I made it out of that house not only mentally stable, but with very high morals, values and ethics. The complete opposite of how she raised me.

When I was 22, married and pregnant, and caught my husband, red-handed, cheating on me, the only place I could go was back home, to her. Fuck that, she wasn't going to be anywhere near my child. So, I had an abortion, got divorced and moved clear across the country. I didn't speak to her again until she was on her deathbed, 8 years later.

Still, I feel guilty for speaking ill of her. I regret not inviting her to my wedding. I feel bad that I cheated her out of her great-grandchild. <--- and all of that makes me sick.



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173,448 2010 was the worst year of my life. I lost my everything.



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173,447 I spend all of my days mourning for 2008-2010, the best years of my life. I constantly think about how great my life was back then. On paper my life is much better now but I still can't stop thinking about those years. Instead of going out and living my life, I am stuck in the past and losing the remaining years of my youth. It's so depressing. Sometimes I wish that I didn't even have those good years at all so I wouldn't miss them so much. Nothing in my life right now holds a candle to back then. It's so sad.



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173,446 I felt relief when my mother died, too.  She was a good person, always concerned about her kids even though she didn't want to show it.  Very tough exterior.  That's why she held on so long after her cancer diagnosis.  She needed to know we'd be okay.  But she was a shadow of her former self when she finally gave up the ghost.  I was relieved when she finally let herself die.



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173,445 I got a FFH and no sex.  Yay me !  FML.



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173,444 I felt nothing but lingering relief after my mother died. It was like the cliche -- a weight being lifted. She was abusive and mean and she broke my spirit and she broke my heart. I hadn't spoken to her for years before her death and I made sure my children were not exposed to the craziness she put me through. Then she died and I almost feel guilty about not feeling at all guilty, about feeling nothing but relief, that she died.



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173,443 I texted a woman in a Backpage ad.  She told me to go to her free webcam so we could chat in private.  Sounded like a good way to make certain she was legit.  I had to put my e-mail in to get to the webcam.  Didn't work, but now I receive 30 more spam e-mails a day.  That was a dumb thing for me to do.



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173,442 My wife uses me. It's sickening. She uses me for money. She uses me to do her dirty work. I hate her and I hate myself for putting up with it.

About 10 years ago I was in New York City. I was waiting for someone while sitting on a sidewalk bench. I used the time to clean out my pockets. I had dollar bills and receipts and candy wrappers. I clean it all out and was about to put the dollar bills in my wallet when a homeless man came up to me. He asked if he could have one of the dollar bills. I gave some smart ass response saying if I gave him one, then all of his friends would want one too and soon enough I'd be out $8 million bucks.

He wasn't in the mood for funny. His initial calm demeanor turned mean and in a sinister voice he demanded I give him a dollar bill or he'd "stick me with a knife".

I immediately gave him the money. All of it. He walked off. I felt like crap. Not only had I just been robbed. I didn't do anything about it. I was a wuss. I just gave him the money because I was filled with fear.

This is what happens with my wife. I feel like I'm being robbed. I hate her for it. But I hate myself even more for letting her get away with it.



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173,441 I think the biggest regret I have is that I never had a long relationship, I am so envious of people that have been together for many many years. I know it was a long road for them, I get that. My regret is that I will never have that. As I am old and do not have enough time left to establish one of my own. I often wonder what happened to me to not be able to have this.
Just a regular person here.



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173,440 Even wonder how many people you know? Not just that you know their name, but that you are friendly with them. You know a little about them. You've have social conversations and interactions with them.

I figure I know about 1460 people. That's how many people I think I've become friendly with in life.

Here's how I came up with that number. I know 4 people with the same birthday as me.

- A friend from high school
- A woman I worked with
- The doorman in the building where I used to live
- A mother of my son's friend

For every 365 people I know, one of them should have the same birthday. Since 4 people have the same birthday as me, then I must know roughly 4 x 365, or 1460 people.

I came up with this calculation myself. Sounds reasonable to me. Don't know if there's a better way, but that's my logic on how to figure out how many people you know.



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173,439 I had a "friend".  She got so mad at me for not including her in the "details email" with regards to an event that I publicly announced to all the friends present that day and she showed no interest in going.  I know she knows about the event because her husband who sat right next to her said he wanted to go.  After the event (which her husband didn't attend - hmm... I wonder why), she confronted me that she was mad at me for not including her in the email.  I told her that I only included people who expressed to me that they want to go... that's just fucking logical.  Why would I send an email with date, time, place to people who didn't express interest?  I told her that if she's interested, she can just show up.  It's not like she didn't have the info.  Her husband has it!  Then she had the nerve to tell me to acknowledge that I hurt her feelings.  WHAT THE FUCK?!  I told her that I acknowledge her feelings were hurt, but I am in no way responsible for how she chose to feel in a very unreasonable fashion.  What an emotional bully.  Screw her.  I never talk to her again.  I don't need that kind of passive aggressive bullshit in my life



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173,438 I was head over heels for a girl for three years when I was in my early 20s.  Yes, I was an idiot, chasing her around and probably annoying her, but she was also a spoiled bitch.  Tells you how dumb I was - I would pine over her even though she was a mean person.  One day, I woke up and the first thing I thought was, "What the hell was I thinking?"  It dawned on me that she was a bitch, I was a fucking idiot, and I had wasted three years of my life.  She had treated me like shit, and I didn't want to be around that.

In the end, her life didn't turn out the way she expected it.  She had been engaged to a man in her early 20s who was poised to become a CPA and take over his dad's business, and everything looked like she was going to live a life of luxury.  But it all fell through, and then she remained unmarried until she hit 40.  She won't have kids, and her parents won't have grandkids (she's an only child).  She's seriously lost her looks, gained weight, and is just not attractive.  Life has not turned out the way she wanted it to.  I married an attractive, smart woman.  My two daughters are among the top in their high school classes and have guys bugging them constantly (I always tell them to be nice when they let them down... from experience).

You would think I feel some schadenfreude, but I don't.  Maybe it's the wisdom that comes from age - she made her choices based on ego, and she paid for it.  Maybe I'd feel different if I weren't as successful as I am.  I don't know.  It's just weird that given how mean she was to me, that I don't feel anything at how her life turned out.



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173,437 I don't understand my sister at all. If I ask her to hang out or do something, she always says no. Whenever I post of picture doing something with my friends, or other family members, on facebook, she comments on my photo "Thanks for the invite." She doesn't want to hang out with me, she just wants to be invited. She also calls me her "favorite sister" even though she and my other sister get along better. She sees my dad more than my mom even though my dad just yells at her for having a husband. I don't understand.



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173,436 My mom had mental health issues and has been a drug addict for all of my life. Last night someone called me and told me she had been in the hospital for 5 days and would require care for the rest of her life. I have to find out more today but I don't want to do it.
Horrible things happened to my brother and I when were children. My mom was never there for us, emotionally bullied us, allowed the rotating men in her life have access to us, and used us to fund her drug use. When I was in 8th grade we were taken away and lived with my grandmother.
My children don't have a relationship with her and never will. I don't trust her around them and I don't want her in my house. I don't have money to put her anywhere else.
It doesn't seem fair that I should even have to make any decisions for her.
I wish she had just a died, I know it's a horrid thing but it would be so much easier for everyone. Even her because the one thing I do know about her is that she has said several times she doesn't want to be bedridden or in a nursing home or a vegetable.



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173,435 I made a fool out of myself over a guy friend a few years ago. He's handsome, super smart, funny. He was on the rise and now he's successful. I adored him, loved how he talked about the world around him. We made out a few times but when I wanted it to be more, he acted like I was imagining things and being a total headcase.

I, a tall, muscular brunette, noticed that the next slew of women HE tried to make a play for were all tiny blondes. He kept telling people he wanted a real relationship, but it seems to me he wanted the picture of a girlfriend he had in his mind rather than a real woman who actually existed.

Now, I'm celebrating two years with a guy who fucking adores me and I'm having mind-blowing sex constantly and my ol' friend who led me on then played dumb about why I'd get the idea he might have been into me is still alone.

I know it's petty, but this makes me so satisfied. Mostly because he got what was coming to him: nothing. You give none, you get none, know what I mean?

(I still love him and I think he's paid enough penance. I hope he finds someone awesome soon. Can't help but hope she's a brunette, though.)



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173,434 173408 Thank you for being honest.



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173,433 This medicine really alters my feelings about moral standards. I love my wife but I'm fine with wanting to fuck one of my best friends.  People can and do get upset with me. fuck em.  Is this what being a sociopath feels like? I kinda like this feeling of liberation.



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173,432 Stuck at work, 1am. I can stay here a few more hours. I'm starting to hallucinate a little. Listening to Reflektor because the beeb is already playing the same stories over and over, something about a virgin birth in a shark at the British sea parks. Now the iPod happens to be playing  "you already know" it's the song after that that is my song. I thought I'd sit down for a minute and sip a beer, but I'm afraid I'll fall asleep in the jacuzzi. J'entends des voix, mais ce n'est pas moi. There's a field behind the house that I can't really see in the darkness. It's quiet here. I'll just lay down for a bit.



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173,431 I never want to find love again.



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173,430 You broke my heart. You broke my spirit. Both are healed now, but I had to let go of the love to find peace. I wish you the best.



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173,429 Why do I still want you? :(



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173,428 Diagnosed or not, we ALL have some kind of psychoses.  Seriously, what is normal?  There is no such thing.  People judge out of their own insecurities and inability to handle situations.  I mean, there is a website where people post their dark, ugly thoughts for fuck's sake.  Stop judging and start having more empathy and compassion... unless you're a narcissist, sociopath or psychopath, then you guys just can't.  I get it.



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173,427 I read an obit of a woman who died at 48 from cancer. What stuck with me, the obit, like all obits, tried to highlight the positive aspects of the woman's life. Aside from mentioning the names of her surviving relatives, on a more personal note it also said, "She liked to listen to the radio." That was basically all the highlights of her life. She had relatives and she listened to the radio. What an interesting person. What an intellectual giant....

When I kick the bucket, if this is the only positive thing people can say about me, then I'd rather not have an obit.



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173,426 Last year for my birthday I wished for a phone call from you, instead of your lame assed text.

This year, someone else sent me a surprise delivery bouquet to my work and blew up my phone...hmmm...

I know who I SHOULD want to fuck



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173,425 As a fellow female, I cannot stand my catty female boss

It's 2016 and my motto is "Nobody's bitch"
Time to work it now

I'll have my own menopause to ride out soon
Don't need to deal with hers

1) Learn to please regulate your emotions in the workplace
2) Be proud Queen Bee! For you are the ruler of a shit show of a family business...Enjoy all that wiping~



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173,424 My English professor was bi-polar and I loved him. Not in the way of "love" that we are accustomed to, but a love where I recognized him as such an amazing intellectual. He was fired by a boss who also happened to be a close friend. It was so devastating-- even I felt his pain. I also felt pain when he didn't show up to my graduation. While I understood, I was also partially crushed. He was the main person who helped me get to that point and worked me so that I could prove that I could do well in school.

So fucking what he was bi-polar. He was brilliant. Their loss. I won the life lottery being able to be under his wing for the time I was. I wish I could tell him.



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173,423 I don't think people kill themselves during the holiday season because of financial stress. I think it's because of all the love they see around them and not feeling like a part of it. Who wants to live in a world where everyone loves each other so much, but you're not involved in any of that love?

-Signed, depressed and left out.



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173,422 We need more Old Man Eagle's but he was put into a residential school and wore a dunce cap until he forgot his language all but his name



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173,421 I'm reading all these articles about how Donald Trump is "terrifying." He's bad, that's for sure, but he's no worse than most of the other Republican candidates. Ted Cruz, Marco Rubio, Ben Carson, they're all far more insane than Trump and have less reasons to change their platform if they get into office (goodbye women's rights, gay rights and immigrant rights). Trump will say anything and everything crazy to keep his name in the papers, I am sure his presidency would be much better than the alternatives.

That said, I'm not voting for him but in the event that he does become President I don't think he'll be as bad as the media is portraying him to be.



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173,420 I wrote the secret about PhD Boss this morning.  I have to rant some more.  One of the staffers just returned "comments" to a project because PhD Boss told her to.  The problem is, I don't think the comments are relevant.  But the process PhD Boss put into place is effectively allowing this staffer to go over my head (I'm a director) and now direct the outcome of the project.  I just can't say "I don't agree with this comment, so we're not changing things."  I have to change things because as far as PhD boss is concerned, I'm not a director, I'm just another student in his classroom.



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173,419 I just wasted the past 13 months playing Clash of Clans. My sister and dad got me into it, and I became addicted playing it every chance I got morning noon and night. I find myself thinking about it all the time. It is consuming me, constantly raiding, saving for my next upgrade, planning for wars ect...I mean, hard core hours per day every chance I get. Early mornings, on the toilet, in bed, late at night, checking my base every 15 minutes or so...my base is now a level 100 town hall 9. I am such a damn nerd. So in real life, this matters how? It doesn't. Clash is the biggest time waster ever. as of right now I quit. My family will be mad, but they are even more obsessed than I. I need to do something productive with my life than upgrading a virtual reality and attacking strangers bases.

If you are reading this and thinking of playing this game, don't. Its the dumbest thing ever. If you already play, get out while you can. Before it sucks the life out of you and you become a mobile game app zombie. My kids and other family who doesn't play look at me like I'm nuts constantly playing and talking about it. And I am not the typical gamer....I am a married mom of 2 in my late thirties who got hooked and obsessed ...now if i could just get my husband to quit playing. Yes he plays too lol! Not as bad as me, though. I am frickin certifiable.

The quitting starts now, wish me luck....



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173,418 went to a memorial service this am, saw my uncle and my three cousins, decided to catch up over lunch after.  Five minutes into our conversation he starts in on how my father must be so disappointed in me and and my siblings...huh?  I ask why, he responds that we are all not hard core republicans and conservatives...we span the spectrum.  My cousins start all chiming in that we are failures and the country is going to ruin due to people like us and that if we don't stop the money grubbing people sucking off the government tit, that America is doomed.  I sat there and looked at them, then asked what they and their spouses did for a living....shockers.
My uncle is on SS disability due to his uncontrolled diabetes (me must weigh 400lbs) his wife is a school secretary, his oldest son works for the state dpw, the middle cousin is a social worker for dhs and the youngest is a prison guard and all their spouses work for some type of government agency.
I point out that none of my five siblings or our spouses work for any tax payer supported job, nor do my 5 nephews/nieces who are out of college.
If this is the future of America I want out now, people who work for the government yet don't see themselves as part of the problem, but others who pay their salaries and are failures as they aren't die hard conservatives.
I tried to point out that they are complaining of our out of control public spending yet they all work in tax payer supported jobs but that went over their heads.
I was going to buy lunch for them when i walked in but after listening to them I didn't want to support their asses any more than I already am.



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173,417 A dozen years ago the schools in my town were ranked #1 academically in the state. We had better SAT scores than any other town. Oddly enough, this annoyed a certain group of parents - the parents of kids who didn't do well on their report cards, e.g., th sports nut parents. They thought it unfair that school was focused on making kids smarter. Imagine that, a school focused on education!

Since then a major shift has happened. The sports nuts parents have pushed their agenda. They insisted that more and more budget money go to sports, which meant less and less went to classroom activities.

As a direct result, language classes were cut. Computer programming gone.  Music and art were slashed. Math honors, science honors, all removed from the curriculum. It seemed that anything intellectual was on the chopping block.

But one honors class was added. We now have gym honors. Seriously. I've never heard of such a thing. Gym honors! LOL!

Our SAT ranking has collapsed. Fewer kids are going to good colleges. Fewer kids are going to college at all.

And why? Because the sports nuts parents were too lazy to help their kids with homework, so they insisted on dragging everyone else to the level of their own kids. This is America today. If you can't beat 'em, drag 'em down to the gutter so you'll have company.

I've put my house on the market. I'm getting out of here so at least my younger children stand a chance of getting a decent education elsewhere.



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173,416 Yea, you definitely have to be careful who you tell that you have any mental illness, bipolar or otherwise.  If it's depression, they generally just don't take you seriously.

Did you know you can develop psychosis from depression?  Depression can get so severe that you can develop psychosis.  For me, I had auditory hallucinations and they first diagnosed me with schizoeffective disorder.  Later, it was just called major depression with psychotic features.

But oh boy, does the word 'psychosis' terrify people.  The images that come to their minds are crazy people murdering others in showers, serial killers, and screaming lunatics chasing you with knives.  The voices are always telling you to kill people and there is no other conversation.

There are also always two responses: 1. They're demons.  You've pissed off God and these demons are going to drag you to Hell.  2. It's all in your head.  Because of that, you can just up and get over whatever happened to you, because if that happened to me, I'd do so much better than you.  I'd tell those voices to shut up like you didn't you pussy.  Also everything is absolutely scientific and there is no other way.  Either way with these two responses, they're right, you're wrong, and you're perfect evidence to fulfill their narrative.

I don't have BPD, but I feel for you guys.  Everyone measures you by the most enthusiastic, out of control BPD person they've ever met.  I know way more patients with BPD who have fine control over themselves than not.  But since I also have a mental illness, I probably get more people confiding in me than others do.

However you got your illness, whether it developed through genetics or environmental circumstances, you deserve to be treated with basic human decency.  If someone hates you or fears you for your illness, it's entirely their ego.  Their judgment doesn't diminish your value and it definitely doesn't diminish the fact that you deserve to feel better one day, and deserve the best environment to cultivate that.  You deserve a great life just like most of everyone else here on this planet.



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173,415 I could never see myself working for other people, I had in the past and while having a guarantee paycheck and benefits was nice once you work for yourself or become an independent contractor there's no going back.  I worked as an independent contractor for many years and it was great . I used to pick my hours and days I wanted to work and if I didn't feel like working certain seasons well I didn't . I send to take mini vacations all the time and the money was fantastic .



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173,414 I cannot stand people who used urban dictionary words trying to sound hip .  I'm sorry but they sound like idiots and yes I'm talking to you China mud , you sound stupid . You are the Asian version of a dumb blonde who loves to speak like a wannabe thug/rapper , fake and phony . It's funny how you always badmouth people including your so call "friends" , with friends like you who needs enemies.



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173,413 Do NOT tell your employer you have bipolar disorder. I made that mistake and it cost me my job. Twice.



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173,412 oct 2013 - you left in a hurry and moved on even faster. that relationship lasted 2 years (we had 5) and blew up on you. i havent had a serious girl since. going on 3 years now. i TRUSTED you. I MARRIED you. and you fucking broke me. I lost my house. I had to move home. years later im STILL trying to pay for your shit. I tell myself that once the bills are all paid, i will feel better.... I don't believe that shit however. im screwed. you cunt.
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173,411 I just started what seems to be a fantastic job. Great people, great workplace, procedures and policies that make sense, streamlined work system, love the hours--it's everything I wished for.

But they have mandatory overtime. I've explained briefly to the HR guy that I have a medical issue that makes me unable to work more than 40 hours a week. They seem receptive because I know they can tell I'm the real deal and I can do the job with excellence.

But I'm afraid I'll have to tell them what my medical issue really is. And once the word "bipolar" comes out of my mouth, that'll be the end for me. Even though my medication works great and I've been stable for 12 years now. Even though you would never in a million years guess that I have a mental illness. Still there's that stigma and I'm scared to death what would happen if I had to disclose my illness.



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173,410 I'm doing better with observing and reeling in my ego.

I'm glad to have a challenge with which I can see progress.

I'm grateful to those who inadvertently gave me a chance to practice.  Thank you.



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173,409 If you can, avoid a boss with a PhD.  I've had two of them.  They are all about bullshit.  Everything is a school assignment to them.  They act like they're the teachers and we employees are the students.

I've been in the office 16 hours so far this week.  5 hours have been spent sending him reports ABOUT my projects.  "What is the project's goal and mission?  What is the core question we are asking?  How does our initial data inform the questions?  Give me a report on this by Wednesday!"  It doesn't matter what else I have to do, now I have a report to write up in two days.

This has been a good week, actually.  I did a small survey of 30 clients.  10 questions about what computer systems they use, intended to help us understand how to shape our product to them.  I gave him the questions to review.

Good lord... the bullshit. "Do you think our clients will understand this question?"  They're fucking professionals, they're not stupid.  "Think about this question... this is something the clients will not be doing with their systems."  How do you know this answer before we even asked them the question?  Isn't this why we're doing the survey in the first place?  "We need to put this survey into a pre-testing environment first."  It's an environmental scan, it is meant to inform, not be scientifically accurate, which is why we're asking 30 clients and not all 6,000 clients.  Doesn't matter.  Off to "pre-test land" I go for my 10 question survey to 30 clients.  No client wants to pre-test the survey because they're too busy to waste their time with it.  "Give me a report on the outcomes of the pre-test."  What the fuck?  I called five clients, and none of them took the fucking pre-test.  So I fucking made it all up.  I wrote up a bullshit report with fudged information in it and fudged recommendations, and I sent it to him.  He won't read it, and if he does, he won't say anything about it.  It took hours to do all the bullshit, and now it's weeks behind.  

And another thing - the constant stream of bullshit philosophical comments he places on our drafts.  I guess that's what a PhD is - a Doctor of Philosophy.  He just makes comments to comment, with no hard recommendations, everything is this ethereal bullshit and I'm apparently supposed to read his mind about what he wants changed.  It takes hours to make his changes to reports.  Unfortunately, he's infected the rest of the staff with this mentality.  Now the staff is conditioned to just comment on each other's drafts.  It's impossible to get anything moved forward.  Every assignment in this office is late, and the staff is stressed because one thing piles on top of another.  The place is a revolving door for staff.

So, yeah, try to avoid working for a boss who has a PhD.



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173,408 My wife is somewhat fit and very healthy.  She's very pretty, with these large, brown eyes, she's not prone to outbursts.  She's perfect, really.

I still look at porn and go to strip clubs.

Ladies, it's not that you're fat or thin or you have small boobs, it's that we're men and we're pigs.



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173,407 I was listening to a story this morning about a woman who was targeted by a scam company that promised to make her a lot of money by helping her start a business.

First they started with filling her with fear. Then they went to filling her with ideas of how great it would be when she has all that money.

Took her for $5,000. then more, And more. Eventually she forked over $43,000.

All the while I am thinking, "Trump supporter". The scammers used the same exact tactics being used by Trump. Same exact stupid people fall for both.



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173,406 I love Trump because he is a fucking idiot. That is exactly what I want as a President of the US - a fucking idiot.



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173,405 I m struggling housewife



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173,404 Dear BPD person who posted:  I feel you.  I grew up in an extremely abusive household.  I tried to have a relationship with my family as an adult but made a hard decision to cut ties because they are toxic.  After a few failed relationships, I'm lucky to have landed on my husband of 14 years coming next month.  All my abandonment insecurities I had with my ex's (one of them was way bad because he'd frequent strip clubs every night with his phone turned off.)  I had a lot of triggers, a lot of PTSD anxiety and depression... Which I still go through periodically.

My husband is the most stabilizing person I'm lucky to have met and married.  He didn't mind that I have separation anxieties when we were dating.  He's a very routined individual... Some may consider it boring.  He goes to work, comes home at the same time, text me if he's delayed. I didn't ask for any of that, he just has very good and stabilizing habits.  I wasn't happy his ex was still calling him when we started dating so he cut her off without any further conversations about it.  Now, I don't have any insecurity issues or separation anxieties.  I call him my rock of Gibraltar, my guardian, and my healer.  I asked him why he puts up with me... He'd say "Because you're worth it."  He makes me feel loved and appreciated.  Granted, I did work a few jobs to put him through college and helped him get his first job and built his career.  BPD people feel things intensely.  I'm more than willing to bring the moon and stars down for someone who won't hurt me... I lucked out with someone as grateful as my husband.  He kisses me and thank me for another great day every night before sleep.  I thought my life is kinda boring especially reading these threads but I know I need boring and predictability as my stabilizing factor.  

I recognize not every man is like my husband and I'm grateful for him... Especially reading stuff on this site.  It helps me put things into perspective.



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173,403 173346- My story is exactly like yours, except I am exceptionally thin with a very small chest.  He looks at porn and works out of town a lot and loves the strip clubs. It doesn't matter your size. What matters is your self worth.  I am not worth anything.



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173,402 You folks are awesome. I love you all :)  



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173,401 It feels much worse to waste years of your life on a lost cause. Much worse. Call it what you will. Facts speak for themselves. I was naive, not narcissistic. I thought everyone's life was like mine. Now I know it's not normal to constantly live in fear. Not all situations are the same, but somethings just are what they are. Call it what ever you want if that will help, or don't. There is someone else who took up the mantle of caregiver, and more power to him. (He's going to need it)



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173,400 I gave up my fat frumpy housewife and regret it everyday. Realized much too late that her inner beauty made her a supermodel. I remember the movie Shallow Hal and how true the lesson of appreciating inner over outer beauty



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