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174,499 I'm not sure if my wife cheated on me. I think she did. The evidence is there. The worst part though is not knowing for sure. Even if she did cheat and at least told me, oddly that would be better than not knowing.

There's a lesson in there somewhere. If you really hate your spouse and want to be really cruel, cheat and leave some tell tale signs, but never tell them the truth one way or the other.



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174,498 No one likes me. I'm not sure why. It really bothers me.

I always think things are going well. I feel like I fit in. Then bam, I get my head handed to me.

I worked at a place for 6 years. I thought I got along with everyone. It was fun. One day I got another job offer and I took it.

A few months later I sent an email to one of my former co-workers just to chat. He mentioned the group was going out to dinner, just to be social. I asked if I could come along. He wrote back saying it was a bad idea, so no, don't come along. I asked why.  He said because no one in the office liked me. They only put up with me. So no, they don't want to see me at the dinner.

Ouch. To this day it still bothers me. How did I misread the situation for 6 years?

I have to say the thought is always swirling around in the back of my head whenever I'm involved in a social situation. Does everyone in the room dislike me and they are just tolerating me? I don't think I'll ever shake this.



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174,497 Some websites are very poorly designed. There is a service company site I go to every month to pay the bill.  As I login it asks if the site should remember my name and password. I put a check in the checkbox. Next time I come to the site, there's my name and password. But there is also the checkbox asking if the site should remember my name and password. It doesn't have a check. And if I'm logging in quickly, then by default it doesn't remember the name and password anymore so that when I come back again, I have to once again type my name and password.

Uhm, why not remember my name and password more than one time? Wouldn't that make sense? Why would the default be to delete everything the next time? I already said I wanted you to remember the name and password. Why do I have to say that everytime? It's dumb. It's poorly thought out. To me it says the site was designed by lackadaisical millennials who are too busy talking about the Kardashians.



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174,496 I've been reading the linkedin resumes of some people I used to work with. What BS. They didn't do any of the shit they claimed. I did all that stuff. They basically sat around complaining from 9 to 5. Then in the evenings they'd go home and watch American Idol while I was doing everything they should have been doing during the day. I wrote all the code.  Yet these guys are putting it on their resumes. Now I've seen it all.



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174,495 I ended up having phone sex with a woman I know in another state.  She's a bit of a slut, so it was not entirely unexpected.  But what I didn't expect was how long she started to cum with me.  All I'm basically doing is talking dirty to her while she rubs her pussy, and she begins moaning heavily for the five minutes it takes for me to cum.  She later told me that she couldn't stop cumming when she heard my voice.  She said there was so much fluid that she thought she had peed herself.  I didn't actually touch her.  Kind of a feather in my cap, I guess.



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174,494 I was close friends with a guy from 1960 to 1981.  21 years.  We met in elementary school.  We lived in the same neighborhood and saw each other almost every day of our childhoods.  I noticed the bullshit started in middle school, when he began making friends that he didn't want me to hang out with.  He told me that I wouldn't have much in common with these people.  But I always gave him the benefit of the doubt because we were friends for a long time, right?  We went to the same college, and it was more of the same.  He hung out with the people I met, which was fine... but I was never allowed to hang out with the people he met.  Finally, after a few other instances, I just had had enough.  I told him I didn't feel like hanging around him anymore.  I pointed out the bullshit.  I was done.  Goodbye.  35 years later, and I have not missed having him in my life one bit.  The only thing I mourn is the end of a 21 year friendship.  That's a long time to invest in someone.  Now that I think about it, it wasn't much of a friendship.



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174,493 I'm super suicidal.



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174,492 Trump claims the protesters are violating his constitutional right of freedom of speech. Ok, so what is it when you order one of your guards to forcibly remove a protestor who stands in silence from an event in a public forum... yeah that's right, it's violating their freedom of speech. Wake up, its fun now, laughing and raising your hands in solidarity pledging to vote for him....but what are you going to think when he gets in and cuts your food stamps all together....don't come crying to me....



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174,491 I'm done trying to make this friendship work you'd think after 26 yrs you'd care but nope.. Bye.



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174,490 I had the longest orgasm of my life today. His cock in me, his pubic hair stubble pressed against my clit, me on top. And every little movement made me spasm. Fucking incredible.

But the best part was the look on his face. That smile. That big, open-mouthed, eyes-not-quite-focused look of ecstasy. He let me know exactly how much he was enjoying it. He couldn't not.

That smile was the sexiest thing I've ever seen. It made me feel like the sexiest I've ever been.



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174,489 I want everything to go back to how it used to be.



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174,488 My bad marriage not only drained all my money, it drained all my ambition.



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174,487 I have no understanding why I'm here, why any of us are here. I think there is something we are supposed to do. I'm pretty sure it has nothing to do with going to work everyday and watching TV every night. There must be a purpose for mankind to exist. It can't just be so we procreate and create the next generation. Because then why are they here? I feel there is some mystery we are supposed to solve. There is something we are supposed to figure out. It's like someone is locked in a room. We are supposed to find the key and unlock the door. But we don't quite know that. Not yet. I keeping looking about though.



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174,486 I knew a really rich guy. He said he worked all the time. He never saw his own children except on rare occasions. He told me the story of how he came home early one evening. His 5 year old daughter was sitting at the kitchen table eating dinner. She looked up at him standing there and started crying, like terrified crying because there was a strange man in the house. If that wasn't bad enough, you know what he decided at that point? Not to come home early anymore. Rich yes, smart no, not really.



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174,485 I want to make sweet,slow love to a real and breathtakingly beautiful woman. Eating her until she orgasms over and over.



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174,484 I was in a relationship with a con artist (unbeknownst to me) for 3 years. I broke it up before fully realizing the scope of the problem but with an inkling that something was very wrong. Breaking up with that person and having them out of my life took 10 long, stressful months.

It's 6 years later and I just now realized that I have allowed the memory of that person to victimize me for twice the amount of time that we were effectively together. That is simply ridiculous and this is where the buck stops.



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174,483 I hate TN and GA. Not too fond of AL and FL either. But TN, oh TN takes the cake. And the biscuits and the gravy. That state is a disgrace. Here's to hoping the earth opens and swallows the entire Southeast.



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174,482 I want to blow my coworker.



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174,481 When I was diagnosed with Trich, it started with what I thought was a terrible yeast infection and then with the "green, frothy discharge" I spent way too much time online researching, and correctly diagnosed myself, before that damn microscope slide verification.. Dread verified.
We hadn't had sex in a bit...but still had within the ൜ day incubation period"...Things were strained between us and I felt the weirdness....and then this hit me like a...A really nasty, horrifyingly sticky liquidy and thankfully quite curable protozoan vaginal wake up call that we were through.
I thought of you today, Trichy...I was watching a "newsmagazine" show where I heard one man say of another, "He's a taxidermist, he'll mount anything!"



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174,480 You are a fool for leaving and you know it...



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174,479 I worked in the financial markets. People were making huge money. The funny thing was, I don't care about money. So why was I working harder than all of them? Just to beat them i suppose. I did beat them. For a while anyway. Then I quit. I lead a much simpler life now. I'm happy just being a dreamer. As for the people I used to work with, they just kept on going. It's been two decades. Now I see many of them are filthy rich. Like hundreds of millions. Good for them. I hope it makes them happy. Somehow I think it doesn't though. They are still working. Who makes hundreds of millions and then still works? Obviously the money didn't make you happy. Whatever. I'm happy.



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174,478 I slept with another man's wife. They ended up getting a divorce because of me. For this I am deeply sorry. I will never sleep with a married woman again.



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174,477 I broke up with my boyfriend this week. We met today to talk it over. I talked about my feelings and how I felt betrayed. He talked how much he loves me and wants to marry me, and that I shall reconsider my decision to break up. In two hours after the conversation he sent me a message how cute I am, using "fishy" dating app. Even if I had any doubts, now I'm certain that my decision to end our relationship was the right one.



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174,476 i want to text my younger sister and tell her to go fuck herself. She thinks she has me roped into spending Saturday night at Mom and Dads and then going to church with them Easter morning. I don't go to church. I don't believe in God. I was guilted to death with that shit for 38 years. I keep it to myself but I think my sister senses that I don't buy into it. Her and her Husband go on couples retreats with their church.  Me and my wife go off to the beach or the mountains and get drunk and fuck like teenagers. I am fine with going to dinner and bringing some food or whatever. My older sister was smart. She moved to bum fucked Egypt.



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174,475 Ladies, wearing leggings with visible panty lines showing looks terrible. Either wear nothing under the leggings. Or wear jeans with you panties.



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174,474 I dated a woman for 7 years. She works as an editor for a magazine. Near the end of the relationship I started cheating on her with a woman who coincidentally works as a freelance writer for magazines. After I broke it off with editor, I started dating the freelancer. This lasted for 3 years. They never knew about each other. Neither knew I dated the other. Neither knew I cheated. Neither knew each other in the working world.

A few years after I was no longer dating either of them, they did managed to cross paths in the working world. Now the editor routinely hires the freelancer to write articles.

I don't know if they ever figured out that I dated both of them. I mean, maybe they've been out to lunch and talked personal and discovered the overlap? That would have been weird. But I don't think it happened because I still hear from the freelancer. I think she would have told me.

Anyway, something else neither of them knows. When I was cheating on the editor with the freelancer, I would sleep with both in the same day. I managed to do this a few times. And being a man, I did what every man would do in these circumstances, I made of point of mingling their pussy juices. I'd sleep with one, and then dip into the other a few hours later without showering first.

I think of them now in the same work place. They are both very mature and professional. They would undoubtedly sit across a conference table from each other discussing business, not realizing they've had each other's pussy juice in their bodies.

Maybe one day I'll tell them. I'd love to see their reactions.



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174,473 I saw my ex today. He was wearing that same stupid yellow shirt he used when we first went to that table football place. As terrible as he looks in it, I could feel my heart and knees dropping to the floor. He had me. I swear if he had looked back at me I wouldn't have known what to do. It was the first time in months.



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174,472 I am watching protestors trying to shut down Trump's rallies.  They don't like what he has to say, so they're trying to keep him from saying anything.

This is America.  People have the right to say what they want to say.  Even if it's stupid.  But what's even worse than Trump saying stupid shit are these people trying to keep him from saying anything because they don't like him.

They're doing exactly what their Communist predecessors did.  They're using force to silence the opposition.

Do these people expect me to want to vote for Sanders or Clinton now?  Fuck that.  Give it ten more years and these people will be shooting the opposition.



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174,471 I hate Sunday's. No matter what I do, I'm always alone on Sunday's. I go out, but I see couples at the beach, and I get bummed out. I accept the fact that I'm not allowed to have a gf, and I must be alone every stinkin day, no matter how social I am, just the way it is, my mental prison.



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174,470 So, while my spouse is occupied, I find another way to occupy myself. It isn't to be malicious- I've tried numerous times to have them realize my needs. Yet they are ignored.



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174,469 The evil villain in the Friday the 13th movies is named Jason Voorhees. My gym teacher in elementary school was named Mr. Voorhees. Very appropriate.



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174,468 My boyfriend didn't do anything for valentine's day, no flower, no chocolates.  4 days later he sent chocolates to my house, after i fought with him that he was thoughtless on valentine's day.  Then I let it go.  Last night he brought it up and said that i do to him what he does to me, that just because he didnt do anything valentine's day didn't mean i couldn't.  are you serious?  ofcourse i let him have it.  but what kind of man says this?  He also got mad at me over something last week, he wants me to stay over his house more (which is hard because we have different work schedules) but he brought it up while I was topless and sucking him off.  So he starts raising his voice and basically yelling at me and just showing me how mad he is in the faces hes making.  Seriously?  I am half naked and sucking your dick and you start getting angry at me now?  I just wonder if I'm making a big deal of these things or is this seriously wrong?  What guy does this?



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174,467 I'm thinking of selling off my furniture because I need the money.



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174,466 I cannot help feeling that I was meant for more than this.



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174,465 My brother and his girlfriend are getting married this year.  Her father died a couple of years ago.  She has a close male relative in her life that she's looked up to all her life, and I'm pretty sure he will be walking her down the aisle and dancing with her for that father/daughter dance.  My aunt was talking about the wedding just imagining things and saying wouldn't it be so nice if (my father) cut in during that dance?  It is actually a very sweet idea.  But there is a part of me that thinks, well that's my dad.  I don't even know that I would do a big wedding if i got married, i don't think i could handle the pressure.  My brother's girlfriend seems to be losing it a little herself.  The point is, whether i have a big wedding or not or dont get married, i feel that should be reserved for me because I am his daughter.  If i was older than them and got married 10 years ago it wouldn't matter.  But I also feel bad for feeling this way.  I realize it's a very warm thing to do and it's a beautiful thing, but that little part of me that says "he's my dad" is still there.  I will not tell anyone about this unless it actually happens and someone brings it up to me, like they think it's wrong or something.



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174,464 I keep forgetting to jerk off. I want to. I mean to. But then I get busy and it never happens. I'm going to put a big J in the reminder app on my phone.



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174,463 My two boys are growing up to be very attractive.  Tall, dark and handsome types.  They have the looks that you see in Hollywood leading men.  I like to walk with them in public and see the faces of the girls as they stare at them.  I especially like to see how the beautiful, popular girls lose their composure around them.  The boys have no idea what they look like.  I'm raising them to respect intelligence, kindness, and education.  But all the attention makes me feel better as their dad about how, when I was their age, these same types of girls would pick on me or ignore me.  They had to get their good looks from somewhere, right?



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174,462 I wish the cancer had killed my dad.



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174,461 59 lol honey take your meds , I wasn't talking to you and you obviously confused with another person . First of all I don't wrinkles on my eyes not even crows feet when I smile  my secret  I hardly wear eye make up and been wearing  sunblock all year around since I was a teen .  Second I happen to have good genes from my mother side of the family , my mother is in her mid sixties and doesn't look her age either , she has never tan in her life and stays away from the sun  and finally I don't have a husband .



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174,460 439: Contact him! This kinda connection happens only once in a lifetime, if at all!



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174,459 You have all kinds of wrinkles underneath you're eyes, and oh boy those wrinkles on your husband forehead. By far in need of some botox. Guess staring at younger people's photos that are really younger but almost look half your age. Really puts a smile on your face. Just saying...



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174,458 You have always been my everything & I will always love you. Forever. 12.04.14 no matter what.



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174,457 Queen's 1981 concert in Montreal is frequently broadcast on tv. An amazing show and a must see! Freddie Mercury and Brian May were incomparable. You're right...that WAS music!



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174,456 I'm so freaking horny!!!!
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174,455 I'll always remember when my friends weren't there when I needed them the most .



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174,454 I went to the doctor and found out I had trichomoniasis. I also went to the dermatologist and found out I have a cold sore... which I'm dealing with now, painfully.

I've had 5 sexual partners in 8 years,. Four of those partners were long-term (well, I thought so at least).   I had a check up in 2014 and they didn't catch anything then, and I haven't had sexual activity since 2013... what gives?

Now I gotta deal with cold sores for the rest of my life and while the trichomoniasis can be cured, it still sucks. What the hell? I hate being human.



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174,453 I miss you so much



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174,452 I miss you so damn much.  Do you miss me too?



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174,451 I love the Queen performance at Live Aid of Radio Gaga.  Freddy had that stadium ROCKING!

That was music, man.



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174,450 I remember when a friend of my brought the album "News of the World" to show and tell. Everyone, and I mean everyone was listening to that shit. We were in first grade, or kindergarten and I recall just starring at the cover. We use to just stare at album covers for hours, pouring over every last detail.
Gym class, "We are the champions" Playground, "We will rock you"
Such power



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174,449 Secretly thrilled that my husbands greedy step daughter doesn't come around after I noticed her vulture like qualities



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174,448 I always had fond memories of Freddie Mercury. When I was in high school I used to hang out with my best friend Jonathan. His parents were divorced. He lived with his mother. She worked and was never home. So we'd go to his house and hang out in his bedroom and blast Queen on the stereo. We became experts at lip syncing the songs. We could do this for an hour every day and not be bored. Afterwards we'd give each other blow jobs and lay back very satisfied. I only found out years later that Freddie was also fond of giving blow jobs. lol. Must be something about the music. Good times.



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174,447 I miss Freddie too



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174,446 I'm waiting and watching. If the justice department doesn't come down on Hillary for email-gate, then we'll be telling all Americans and in fact the entire world that we are corrupt.



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174,445 If there is one thing I know, it's that liars are the first to stand up and accuse others of lying. It's because they've built a "beautiful wall" of bullshit around themselves that they thoroughly believe to be the truth. The one who smelt it dealt it, or Methinks the lady doth protest too much, etc.



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174,444 A person in the accounting department of my town was fired. Apparently he didn't get along with the Mayor. On his final day, he showed up at a meeting and publicly asked the Mayor what should be done about the $300,000 missing from the town's bank account. It seemed like he was needling the Mayor amd trying to embarrass him. For his response, I felt the Mayor was hemming and hawing his way through an explanation that didn't make any sense to me.

Turns out I was the only member of the public at the meeting. I felt some responsibility to find out more about the missing money. I wanted to show an independent person that something seemed to be amiss and that money was missing. But when I looked at the meeting minutes, there was no mention of the missing money. Which is odd because it was a large part of the meeting.

I then looked to the video tape of the meeting. It had been erased. IT HAD BEEN ERASED!

I mentioned all this to a member of the Finance Board. She said she'd look into it. I never heard anything back. Two months later I bumped into another member of the Finance Board and asked how the investigation was going.  She said what investigation? This was the first she'd heard about it. How could that be? I mentioned it to her colleague and was clearly told it would be investigated. But no, it was never ever mentioned again.

This is America today. This is how it works.



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174,443 I used to be upset when people didn't took me seriously because I look younger than I'm . Now I don't care anymore , it gets annoying sometimes when I'm out with my kid and people make comments that I must be a teenage girl when I had him because they assume I'm younger or when I get hit by very young men .  But at least get free popcorn on college nights and discount tickets at the movies. Yeah , looking younger is not really that bad after all .



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174,442 Destiny is a mysterious thing...you can run from it but it always finds you.



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174,441 Facts are lies and other gems brought to you by the American fascists.



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174,440 Thank you for referring to Trump as Drumpf, right up front in coversations.  It immediately lets me know that you have no credibility and you are an idiot.  The reason you call him that lets me know that you have equally retarded reasonings and ways of thinking so it is an extremely handy tool, just being able to separate you from the people that actually have a clue as to what they're talking about, so quickly like that, in one clean cut.



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174,439 When I was 21, I was "dating" this guy who I worked with at a music store. We had a lot of fun together, went to concerts, drank ourselves stupid, and the sex was fantastic. Probably the first real good sex I had ever had. We went to Mexico more than a few times, as we lived in Texas and it wasn't that far away. This was almost 16 years ago so it was not as bad there as it now. He was from somewhere around Monterrey and his family still had a ranch and a lot of property there. They had property everywhere and we would take a few days or a week and just drive across Mexico.
I remember this one time when his family happen to come at the same time to the ranch as we were there. We had stopped for a couple of days before we went further into Mexico. We had been up all night, smoking pot and making drinks out of mangos and tequila. He had rubbed ripe mangos all over me at one point and slowly licked all the juices off. To this day I still think about that. We had taken a shower together after and I left the shower first. When I came out in the hall his mother was there. I was kinda drunk and just left a steamy shower. She looked at me, standing in a towel. Dripping on her spanish tiles imported from Spain. She took me to the kitchen and sat me down. She told something like that her son loved me and if I wanted him he would marry me, we could have children, be a part of a great family, he would never leave me, her family didn't believe in divorce. But she said... There is a wildness in him and I have been watching and I see a wildness in you, too. Both of you are the same. "You both run through life as if demons are chasing you." (I remember those exact words because they gave my drunk/stoned ass a chill) She went on to talk some more and eventually he wandered in and I went and got dressed. We ate with the family who always treated me nice. Then we went on our way to our next spot. We went back to Texas and not long after that I broke up with him. It had begun to scare me how well we fit together. How I wanted to be with him all the time and the insane things we would do. And it was true, I was running from things and his mother had seen right through me. I told myself that I didn't love him and I was in love with my ex. I practically ran to my ex and went on to marry him. Not long after I get married, my wild lover married a good Catholic spanish girl. (I was a lapsed Irish Catholic). We lost touch about 12 years ago when we both started having children.


Last night on Craigslist missed connections (which I am fascinated by because they are truly interesting),  I saw a post detailing our last trip to Mexico down to the mangos and when we went through the border on the way back to Texas. It said he never forgot me, that I was the love of his life, and he only got married because it was expected of him. I'm divorced, I have no clue if he is. I don't know if I should respond or not, but all these years I have never forgotten that man. I remember waking up next to him and he would pull me close and kiss my neck. How we would lie tangled in the sheets for hours talking. I don't know what I should do.



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174,438 I love women with a little flab. The skinny minnies are too much drama. Flabby women are realistic women. They are so much ore chilled out and fun to be with.



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174,437 "Lies are how you may choose to interpret them. "

No dude. Lies are lies. You sounds like the perfect Hillary supporter, making an excuse as to why it's okay to lie.



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174,436 Bragging how Hillary got more votes just shows how dumb Hillary supporters are.



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174,435 Trump was competing against 3 more people. Clinton only has one opponent all the time - Sanders. It is logical that Clinton will get more votes than Trump in comparison,but head to head Trump will crush her. It is easy to defeat a criminal.



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174,434 The fact still remains that Drumpf has gotten a little more than a third of the GOP vote. Hillary by contrast has gotten almost 60% of the Democratic vote.

Drumpf has gotten about 7.5 million votes while Hillary has gotten over 8.5 million votes.

Those are called facts. Lies are how you may choose to interpret them.



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174,433 good moves make for good mental health



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174,432 Public officials violate the law too damned much, and I'm getting so tired of it. I'm usually the only person in the room who knows the laws. I'll even point out a public official's error just before he is about to make a mistake. The response is always the same, I'm told to shove it.

I swear, one day I'm going to contact the Ethics Committee.



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174,431 I miss Freddy Mercury.  The man could rock.



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174,430 Because Cavecanum is the only person I can tell this too. i was in love with a man for years and im flying to see him. (nobody knows) and in the years I have loved him my heart has always been his. Me and him arent together and he loves me but not to the degree that i do, him. I started a new job awhile back and I am falling in love with somebody else. It's tearing me apart. And as I leave for the flight I can't help but wish I could just spend those days with the other person.... but deep down my heart still feels attatched to the one i have history with. Please be still my heart



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174,429 I have an insanely sexy Marine waiting to fuck me..... It's going to be unlike anything I've had before.



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174,428 400 - there IS a message or a lesson in there somewhere.  You just have to find it.

My first marriage: I did everything right.  Got married to a "good" man, got a better, awesome job, then bought a house, then tried to have a baby.  I was a fantastic wife.  I cooked, cleaned, did the laundry, errands, shopping...at Christmas I wrote out all the cards, bought and wrapped all the gifts and sent the ones that had to go out of town, decorated the house.  Picked up my husband's dry cleaning and stood in line in the rain to get him a hunting permit.  Kept my body thin, my hair long, my makeup done and fucked like a porn star.

I won't get into the details, but after a short time I was miserable.  I cried myself to sleep almost every night.  But still, I hung in there.  For years.  Marriage, to me, was forever.  He became more verbally abusive, and I took it.  I was scared, and I was stuck.  This was my destiny.  And then one day, I woke up and looked out the window to see the couple across the street walking hand in hand, and laughing - and that was it.  That's what I wanted, and that's what I deserved.  I went downstairs and had coffee with my husband, who was ranting about something or another, and I silently said to myself, "Please, God, give me the courage to get out of this."  My husband paused, and BOOM.  I turned to him and said, I want a divorce."  He was incredulous.  He asked, "What?"  I said, "Yeah, I don't want to be married to you anymore."

When I  looked back on that, I realized some things:  For one, my whole life I'd let men take advantage of me.  I was always chasing love, and putting up with it because I was afraid to be alone.  My husband, I realized, married me because he felt inadequate, being the only one of his siblings not married.  He didn't love ME, he loved the idea of having a partner.  Every man, until my husband now, was with me for what I could do for them or give them.  That marriage taught me that I had a voice, I had strength, and that *I* was in charge of how I was treated.  I never ever thought I'd have the courage to leave, and I did.

The other thing I realized...that awesome job I mentioned?  If I hadn't have been married, there was NO WAY I would have been able to do it.  (It's a total dream job, by the way.)  See, it required two months of unpaid training out of state.  The nature of the job is such that you only get paid for what you work, and so the pay schedule is a month behind when you start.  So, three months of no pay.  Plus, I had little family left and was thousands of miles away from the ones I had.  Where would I have put my personal belongings for all those months?  I would have had to leave my apartment, because what landlord would allow you to go three months without paying rent?  Another thing, there was no guarantee that I'd get to work in the city nearest me.  There were home bases around the country, and we'd be told which ones had openings, so we had to list our choices in order of preference and then told where we'd be assigned.  Then we either had to move there or commute.  We did get some travel benefits, but it was for a small charge and on standby.  I was struggling financially back then.  There was no way to do this if I weren't married.  I had a house for my stuff and a husband to carry the bills.  After 15 years, I took a break to raise the beautiful child I ended up having, but this job is SO EASY to go back to, and in a few more years, I will.

So, your marriage is teaching you something.  Compassion, for the heroin addict?  Strength, to walk away?  Patience, for the bitch on wheels?  A great inspirational teacher, I forget which one, said, paraphrased, "The person who makes you angriest is your greatest teacher."  Alternately, perhaps this marriage is a "holding place" for you to hang out for something greater to come.  Whatever the reason, it is up to you to reflect, go deep inside, and figure it out.  But, this life is short, and this life is YOURS.  You should never be less that 100% happy.  Love, 366 <3



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174,427 174422. I understand how shit it is to be ostracised due to your appearance but it is wrong to judge them altogether. Yes it's true people tend to gravitate to beautiful people and that itself is a problem. I'll tell you a little bit about the "drawbacks" of being considered prettier than average.

All my life people have judged me on my looks rather than by my skills and I assure you I am as or more intelligent than most people in the room. Nobody ever wanted to do projects in school with me because yes, even though they enjoyed my company they did not have the confidence or faith that I would ever be able to present good work. I've been denied jobs because of my appearance. They've told me they were looking for people that would "easily blend into the background" or that I "couldn't wear makeup" because I would stand out even more from the rest. For a year (foolishly) I forced myself to use glasses because I just could not bare not being taken seriously. I stopped using the clothes that I liked and the thought of using a blouse that would reveal more than my collarbone was absolutely out of question. Most of the people that I've dated have used me to impress their friends and their exes. Whenever my ex would complement me he'd say "oh you're just too pretty" and never seemed to see through that. People have come to me saying I don't need to do anything with my life because of my looks. People have seen me crying and said everything was going to be ok because I am beautiful therefore what the fuck could possibly go wrong? Do you have any idea how terrible it is being used as "trophy" by the people you love? I've never had a long term relationship because I am not seen as the kind of girl you'd settle down with. Do you have any idea what it is like to be told I am not worthy of even being comforted? I can't feel bad, I can't cry, all I can do is smile a lot and things will "naturally" go smooth for me.

I spent so much time of my life trying to prove my worth to other people but they can't seem to see past through that. Luckily I was smart enough to realise that most people probably will never be able to see me for what I am so I've stopped trying and started enjoying myself. I am in my early twenties and I speak 5 languages, lived in 4 different countries, have an IQ of 147 and am currently attending the best university of the world in my field.

Nobody thought I could do it.  Everyone around me, including my family, discouraged me from even trying to apply to that university. Well guess what, I did it and it was only because of my hard work so don't come on to "good looking people" because you think you have it hard. You're not worthless until you believe it yourself. You are worth as much you give yourself credit for. Get a grip!



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174,426 does anyone else recognize that the (US) capitalistic system is supported by the (chinese) communist worker?



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174,425 I hate the song Bohemian Rhapsody.



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174,424 I went to a Chipoltle burrito place last summer. It was filled with flies. We kept having to swat them out of the way. Knowing flies come from maggots... I was really grossed out. There must have been maggots galore in the place. Now I read in the news how Chipoltle can't give burritos away. It's so sad. I loved their burritos. Even I won't go near one anymore.



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174,423 174422. People like You are priceless,not worthless. Beauty fades away,a beautiful soul doesn't.



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174,422 I know I'm ugly. I know I'm getting judged for it. You betcha world, I SHOULD be treated differently and ostracized because of a random sequence of genes whose alignment were completely outside my control.

So don't fucking complain to me about being too pretty. Sure, I'll bet there are a FEW drawbacks. But you've never felt the shame and guilt of comparison. You've never lost a job to a less qualified pretty face. You've never been used by anyone to get closer to a hotter friend. You've never been brought to events to make your fellow attendee look better by comparison.

Always the best friend. Always the bridesmaid. Always second choice. Always swiped left. Fuck you for rubbing that in my face. I know you talked to me about it just to boost your already inflated self worth. To put me down more.

Let me tell you first that beauty is a fading flower.
I'll have built my own support system after the wrinkles set in and you don't know what to do with yourself. There's no fucking filter on your precious instagram that can fix what time will ruin.

Fuck off.
Fuck you.
Fuck society for declaring me worthless.



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174,421 Everyone praises the idea of being weird, unique, unbound by the societal status quo. Yet in practice, most people gravitate toward the pack; then they ostracize, scrutinize, dehumanize those who don't make the cut. I know what it's like to be both invisible and in the way at the same time.  I'm a big, fat, fabulous fucking weirdo, and I am grateful for those who love me FOR it. I remind myself of this daily to keep the anxiety at bay. It just amazes me that so many people, who have never felt the deep, cold loneliness of social alienation, are going on about how fucking neato it all is.



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174,420 I think is hilarious how many people believed that most Donald trump supporters are republicans , you won't believed how many democrats are voting for the jerk .  I know some very conservative republicans who wouldn't even think about voting for the jerk.



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174,419 Nothing worse than a soccer mom. In my son's school, like in every school, the students go on field trips to the planetarium and zoo etc. Each year some volunteer moms came along to help keep track of all the students. But last year one mom complained. She works. She wasn't able to volunteer for the field trip. She said it wasn't fair. She demanded that if she can't go, then no mom should be allowed to go. This year that's the new rule. No moms on the field trips. The teacher must keep track of all the students on her own. It's idiotic. What a selfish mom to complain. What's next? Will she start complaining that she herself is stupid, so she'll demand that all moms must also become stupid?



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174,418 I've had less than 400 calories in three days.
I have to lose the weight the medication made me gain. I make myself sick.
It consumes my thoughts.
Starving.
Perfection.



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174,417 Whenever I see a snippet listed on an amateur porn site about spying on a sister-in-law, I have to watch. My wife's brother-in-law is a major perv and asshole. I wouldn't be surprised at all if he's been secretly filming my wife in the bathroom when she visits. The guy is a total loser. So I look at the "sister-in-law" porn clips to make sure it's not my wife. If it it was, my wife's sister would quickly be a widow.



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174,416 To say Hillary has the most individual votes is misleading to the point of being dishonest. I expect no less from a Dem. There were many more candidates on the Republican side. There were basically only two on the Dem side. So the the Republicans had to split the votes between 6 candidates. The Dems between 2. To use this as some indication that Hillary had more votes than say, Trump, is a corruption of the math. I hate how people lie.



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174,415 Listening is a powerful and underrated skill.



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174,414 Americans are more similar than they are different. It's a diverse country, but we have shared traditions and customs.

The cold war had a nice effect of bringing us together to fight a common enemy. There was a lot of social injustice, but the two parties had a sense of decorum and civility that you don't see from todays politicians.

One of the worst and telling signs of the degradation of our culture and traditions is reality t.v. and people like the donald who make something that is false appear authentic. It's a cleaver and insidious way to exploit fear and misunderstanding that we have towards each other. It's a truly remarkable accomplishment to bullshit that many people in such a conspicuous way.

Like it or not, Hillary has  the most individual votes of all of the candidates in both parties. She has the most experience. She appeals heavily to the minority vote. 7 out of 10 white men will have to vote for donald in order for him to win; a tall order when you consider that he isn't really accepted by a large number of Republicans.

Let me put this in a way some of you will readily understand: No latino votes. No black votes. Split white vote. He no win election.
Just because I'm dispensing the truth, doesn't necessarily mean that I have a dog in the fight, or that I'm a dem or republican. It's just the way it is. I'm an American, first. No need to take it personally.



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174,413 I saw your new Facebook picture. Ok. I can see why he fell in love with you. You might be older but you're beautiful.



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174,412 If there's one thing this election cycle has done to me, it has seriously chilled me towards the Democrats, liberals, and the Left.

It's perfectly alright to denounce Donald Trump or any other candidate.  But trying to forcibly shut down campaign rallies so he can't talk?  Cheering on Anonymous when they "declare war" on him and spill his personal information all over the place?  All because you don't agree with the guy??

Now we're seeing who the liberals really are.  They are the scions of communism, the hallmark of which is the violent oppression of opposing speech.  If these people get in charge, the executions will come next.



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174,411 Today was the last straw. You are the most self centered person I've ever met. I'm divorcing you. The end.



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174,410 Anti Trumpers lie. They keep bringing up the idea that Trump said he doesn't know who David Duke is. Lie lie lie. Trump never said that. He said he doesn't know anything about David Duke. Very different meaning in context. I know who David Duke is. But I too know nothing about him. Has he changed? Did he turn over a new leaf? Did he find God and repent for all of his prior racism? I don't know. Maybe he has.

So when Duke endorsed Trump and Trump said he didn't know anything about Duke, Trump was being honest as always. His people did a little research. They found Duke was still a racist and Trump then denounced Duke. There is no scandal here.

Stopping twisting Trump's words as if he's a racist.



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174,409 Once when I was student teaching, one of my friends from class got assigned to the same school/teacher.  No big deal EXCEPT...

...she had a habit of going to the restroom only when someone else did.  Mind you there were keys the faculty had to check out to get in there to prevent students from trying to use it BUT...

...every time she saw another person heading there with the key, up she would jump to join them.  It was as if her internal bladder timer when off only when others' did.  Still not a huge deal you say? WELL...

...she also tried to hold conversations with whomever she followed into the restroom.  Not only would she be racing behind you to slide in before the door close would wait until another teacher exited and walk in and call out your name while you were pissing or shitting.  AND...

...if she didn't know you were in there prior to her she would scoped out your shoes under the bathroom door and call out your name.  "SARAH?" a booming voice would go mid-dump.  


Is this normal for a 35 year old woman????



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174,408 Lionel Richie's "All Night Long" is playing on the radio here at work.  I can't do anything because it's bringing me back to the summer of 1983.  I remember the song playing during those warm, dark summer nights when I was 12.  It reminds me of having crushes on girls in middle school, hanging out with my friends, being at home.  It brings to me a certain innocence I had in the three years before I was diagnosed with cancer as a teenager.  There are other songs that remind me of those years.



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174,407 I think Ted Cruz dyes his hair. I can't vote for a man who dyes his hair. Too much vanity.



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174,406 I'm still in love with Molly Ringwald. To me she was the most alluring woman I've ever encountered. She's smart, she's beautiful, she's sassy. I don't know whatever happened to her. I hope she ended up happy. She deserves it.



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174,405 The female view of relationships: Men should put up with women no matter what crap women pull.



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174,404 She's already apologized profusely, taken responsibility for HER actions, come up with a plan to not have it happen again.

It works like this...

Dave
Her: ready to make up and get back together?
Him: Heck yeah!
(They hug and kiss, cuddle and coo...  They try to *negotiate* how to get along, come up with a plan and they live happily ever after...)


on the other hand...

Doofus:
Her: Ready to make up and get back together?
Him:  Not unless you (blah blah blah)  Because it's your fault we don't get along and fight and YOU have to change.
(She gets upset because she knows if he really loved her, he'd know she does the best she can...  Hangs up.)

They go their separate ways...   She finds a new man who can love her just as she is.  He goes on being dissatisfied with every woman he's with because he doesn't like women in general and doesn't even try to understand them.  His past becomes his future.

(Apologies to Highlights magazine, but some people really need it simplified...)



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174,403 I've always been amused by the hacker group Anonymous. I've enjoyed how they "stick it to the man." But this latest claim that they will undermine Donald Trump, I'm thinking this is all wrong. You can't / shouldn't undermine democracy. Go after dictators who stole their power. But that's not the case with Trump. The people are CHOOSING Trump as their leader.  If Anonymous does this, are they any different from the Government of North Korea?  Anonymous would become exactly what they used to fight against.



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174,402 4400.... Sadly, it sounds like it is time to save yourself! Leave him.



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174,401 I have only taken mushrooms once.

It was a horrible trip.  My friend from NYC came out to where I live in the Midwest and brought some with him for me to try.  Good friend there.  He really was a good friend.  I miss him a lot, but he went kind of nutso with politics a few years back and I had to walk away.

I know the problems that went wrong.  I was in my mother's house, which was an oppressive place.  Environment is crucial to having a good mushroom trip.  I also took too much.  I just wanted to see different colors, maybe learn some things.

I had learned a lot of things.  But I had too many internal demons for mushrooms and they all came out.

The whole thing ended with me crying to my mother saying I had done drugs and I was always afraid of her and I was so sorry.  I was terrified of my mother.  But I don't know if that ever sank into my mom.

My poor friend didn't stop me in time before I ran to her shortly after she got home.

And I was such an idiot on shrooms, too.  I have a lot of trouble coping with looking like an idiot.


But it wasn't all bad either.  It was great to see the world change like that around me.  It was beautiful, but quite scary to me because I'm a nervous person to start with.

If I had a second chance, I would take a lighter dose.  I would try to be in a place I felt safe.

But I guess at the moment, I don't feel safe.  I don't ever feel safe.  It's part of why I always stay inside, and I think I still have a lot of lessons to learn from that one trip.

I don't feel safe and I don't feel free.  I didn't then, and I don't now.  That's why the good times struggle to truly be good times.

I've liked this talk about God and giving second chances to learn lessons again.  I wonder if that might happen with me this time.  I hope so.  But I trust, intuitively, that the chance won't be presented to me again until I've finished learning more about this current obstacle.



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174,400 I've been married almost five years.  My first marriage his third.  We are both older, well established, children grown, etc.  No issues at all from my family.  His family on the other hand - his daughter is a heroin addict, her mother is a screaming bitch on wheels who, even though I have tried to be nice to her, has harassed me, threatened me, followed me to work, its truly been a nightmare.  Every time I've ever tried to be nice to his daughter it blows up in my face, she has stolen from me then lied about me to her mother causing a huge fight between me and my husband.  He is constantly in the middle of his brothers fighting about their mother and her money.  Through it all, I've tried my best to be a great wife. I know he has a lot on his plate so I always try to make things easy for him, I try to not be the one causing him problems and stress. I work every day, cook, clean, laundry, walk his dog, etc.  But I'm always last on his priority list.  He's let himself go. He never wants to go out and do the fun things we used to do.  We barely speak and we live like roommates.  I thought I was marrying the man of my dreams he begged me to marry him and it has turned into a nightmare. Anytime I try to talk to him about how things are, he tells me that if I don't like it I can leave.  I feel invisible, angry and resentful.... I just want to have a good marriage and I feel like I've worked really hard for that but I can't do all the work myself. So, someone please tell me, if everything happens for a reason and there is some kind of lesson to be learned what is the message or lesson?  I'm not getting it.  I just feel like I'm being punished everyday.



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