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181,599 Every time I have sex with the wife I'm self conscious. She's a workout goddess. No body fat at all. Me, I've put on some poundage. She let's me know it every time. I've come to realize she never loved me. She loved the imagine of being with a fit person, my former self.

I'd like to have an affair. It would be me testing the divorce waters. But I don't want to fool around with some beautiful vixen. I'd like to fool around with some normal looking woman with extra pounds. I've had enough of the fake lifestyle of fit people.



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181,598 It's unfortunate... but I've discovered as a landlord that there is a subset of people on this planet who just have no fucking respect for anybody or anybody else's property.  They are inherently selfish, self-centered, and blinded by self.  These are grown adults I'm talking about, too!  They have an entitled outlook on life that makes them think that nobody else is important.  You have to see these people to believe them.  Their behavior is foreign to me.  Of course, all of their lives are fucked up, too... I wonder why??

Otherwise, a house is a great investment.  I refinanced it and paid my cars off with the proceeds.  Usually this is a bad idea, but... I'm not paying the mortgage, the renters are paying it.



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181,597 The key is that they SOLD THEIR HOUSE. Get it? They tended to their investment, and they had a house to sell, and money to bank. People who rent make that money for their landlords.



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181,596 Funny how home owners think its the greatest thing in the world. One on here said if you rent you are basically homeless. Totally untrue, buying a home is great if you are young, energetic, want to spend your weekends behind a mower, or snow blower. You like spending your days raking leaves..great. I was a home owner, for 40 years, since my early 20's. It was great for a while, but then.... Here a little secret thing you can do for fun. On a nice sunny day drive through your or another neighborhood and look at the people in the yards, here is basically what you will see. The young family owners, mommy, daddy and little Susie will be out in the yard smiling, playing with the puppy, daddy will be cutting the grass and smiling. The neighbor family dad, mom and 10 year old Tommy, will be out in the yard, dad will be cutting the grass with a straight face, mom will be pulling weeds, she hates, and Timmy will be walking around getting into the bags of cut grass, tools, etc, dad keeps looking over and yelling to mom, watch Timmy please.... the next neighbor in 40-50 year old dad, mom in her floppy hat , iced tea, and garden gloves, and teen aged Bob is cutting the grass and doing a shitty job. Dad is not happy because he know lazy assed teen Bob will be complaining in a few minutes, and dad who wanted to relax after a full week of bullshit at work, can't do it and is getting pissed. Finally you have the 60-70 year old Mr. and Mrs. Jones. Where are they, oh they are on vacation, enjoying their retirement lives, why? because they sold their house, banked the cash, moved into a retirement apt community where all things are done for them. and they are living well....the end



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181,595 What sucks is watching porn, and when they do a close up of the fucking, you see the mild outbreak of genital herpes on the pussy.



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181,594 Just one word from you is enough to stop me feeling sad and miserable and make me happy... I wish you knew how much your simple greetings and trivial pleasantries make my heart soar.



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181,593 to 181579 -  do. Every weekday morning. First thing I look at. I'm in the northeast



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181,592 I hope that you and your bitch froze your asses off all weekend. Please go skiing next time.  Please slide right smack into a tree and die. At least that way your children would get the life insurance money and be free of your horrible influence. Piece of shit.



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181,591 Dear Feminist Friends .
I know how much you hate the "Red Pill" but some mansplaining : you have to address the elephant in the room ie it gets you laid ! Once you go from a untouchable nebish to a sex God just by being a ahole ,there's no coming back from that . We have eaten of the fruit , we are not what we where .



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181,590 Booked my flight back home from my parents' on the 30th this month, thinking I'd want to be back in time for New Years. But then I realized that my friends aren't going to call me to hang out. I'll be home alone. If I had booked my return flight for after January 1st, I could have had someone to spend New Years with. Few things make me sadder than having to be alone on New Years :(



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181,589 I'm not a tree hugger type, but it does seem a shame we cut down so many Christmas trees every year. What a strange custom. Here we are worried out the environment and global warming and disturbing sacred land with a pipeline, yet no thinks twice about cutting down what must be 25 million trees each year just so we can put presents underneath for a few weeks. Wouldn't it be possible to come up with a different tradition to celebrate Christmas without killing so many trees?



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181,588 Best friends don't treat best friends like shit!
Kela was my best friend and I loved her like no other.
However she had to be the alpha female. The only friendships she endures are those where is she dominating and is the alpha female. I dont need to be the alpha female to feel valued or give myself importantance. No gorilla looking bitch! You cant treat people like  shit because you've had a bad day and think it's ok. Karma is a bitch and I won't have to do a thing. You'll get yours!



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181,587 I hate that I'm a better friend than you are. I hate that I remember birthdays and you don't. I hate that I drop everything when you're in trouble, or scared, or upset. I hate that I go out of my way to see you when I'm in town for a couple of days, when I should be spending time with friends and family who actually make an effort. You're supposed to be my best friend and, for the last three years, you've failed to show up.

I think I'm done with us. It hurts to flush fifteen years of friendship down the toilet, but I think it hurts me way more than it'll hurt you. I'm not even sure you'll notice when I'm gone. I'm starting this Christmas. I won't call or text, and when you reach out at the last possible second to coordinate a breakfast on my way out of town I'll be conveniently on the road. I'm really tired of making the effort. You stopped being my best friend when you expected me to be yours after treating me like shit.



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181,586 Guilty pleasures:
1. Smelling my own farts, especially after eating greasy food.
2. Picking my nose.



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181,585 Salary, $14k. I know ridiculous. I work for a theater, an acting kind of theater. It's a dream job, except for the pay. I used to make more. Like closer to $30k. But Obmacare came along and forced my workplace to pay health insurance for full time employees. It backfired. Almost everyone was cut back to 20 hours per week. Then we weren't full time and work didn't have to give us health insurance. I'm 31. I live like an orphan in Oliver. But I'm in the theater and that's all that matters I suppose. Luckily I have no debt. Inexpensive community college 10 years ago. No car, I ride a bike. I don't have a credit card because I dont make enough.



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181,584 Something I did. I posted something honest on this site about the assholes I work with. I used their real first names. I wanted them to see it. So I printed "Cavecanum.com" on a piece of paper and tacked it to the bulletin board in the lunchroom at work. I didn't say anything to anyone. I didn't point out the note on the bulletin board. I just left it there to see what would happen. Within a few days everyone at work was talking about this site. They found the post where I called out certain people for their bad behavior. They were furious. But it was anonymous so they could never tell who did it. It was the most satisfying feeling ever!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



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181,583 "Donald Trump tells Fox News he doesn't need daily intel briefings: 'I'm, like, a smart person'"

Um no Donald, you are not.

Sorry.

No, actually I am not sorry.



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181,582 22 f west coast
4 grand in savings
No debt
Med school student with no loans yet..



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181,581 20 years later, to the hour, here I am formulating the perfect letter to the perfect source that can widely publicize my masterpiece book... where the evil characters have their names of the evil people who wronged me two decades ago.

I randomly started this book six years ago.  There is no way this can be a coincidence.  It must be fate.



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181,580 If you have a job that requires a lot of travel like father does it doesn't make sense to buy. We moved a lot sometimes we only stay in a place for a year but of course my father did invest on property one house its where he was born and raised and my grandparents used to live there , another a condominium in a tourist area , he is waiting when he retires in 3 years to get rid of it and sell it and bought some land in a popular area hoping a big deveper will buy it from him in a few years . He doesn't own any money on them so it's only maintenance and taxes.  But it's up to the persons lifestyle , if you plan to set roots on a place and have a steady source of income it make sense to buy and get a loan but if you are not sure or have a job that requires constant moving and relocating it's a waste of money and time if you ask me.



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181,579 When I'm in a large public setting (gym, subway, walking down the street) I often wonder how many other people know about cave canum. I've read this site for about 6 years, but have never talked about it with anyone. I suppose that is the point.. But I really wonder who else comes here and reads consistently like I do.



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181,578 I love you. I'm sorry. Please help.



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181,577 My friend and his wife left to another state because he got a 3-year job somewhere else.  But they couldn't sell the house they have here because they would actually lose money.  So they rented it out, the problem is, the tenants have damaged stuff stolen something else and didn't pay him all the rent.  This is the problem with renting a house out to someone, you better make sure they're good people or/and people you know and trust.  Most people are not when it's not their property. Honestly it's not worth the headaches.  As for owning a house when you're older, same thing, my parents own their house but things break down and you have to be on top of everything.  It can be too much bullshit as you get older.  Tons of responsibility.  Depends on what is important to you.



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181,576 I live and rent an apartment in NYC and have for decades (but own property elsewhere)- it works for my family & I. I have no intention of retiring here but to each his own. It's not a competition; it's what works for you. Let's just be thankful for what we have...others are not so fortunate..



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181,575 I've wanted to buy a house. It's the American dream... But seeing these posts make me not want to become a homeowner.

My plan was to buy a house in NJ, live in it for a few years with access to the city and jobs. Then eventually, within ~10 years move to a bigger home for kids/family and rent out the first house. Bad idea or good idea?

26 years old



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181,574 I own 6 investment rental properties. I pay a management company to deal with any problems. But I live in a small rented apartment. I don't care if it's not the most efficient use of my money. I just want an easy life, and that's what I've got.



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181,573 I have two houses.  One I rent out.  Never be a landlord.  Unless you want to meet the worst that society has to offer, never, ever rent your house.  It's an exercise in getting the least destructive person you can find.  I've had renters who sold drugs and got raided, who let in other people without my knowing (and under state law I was stuck with them), who left their shit all through the house, who just left without paying rent, and who left me owing $6,000.  If you can find a renter who treats your house well, plus gets the rent in on time, then never let that person go.  3 of my 7 renters have been reliable.  The rest have been scum, people who have no qualms about fucking people over.  If you want to see what people can really be like, be a landlord.

But by the time I sell these two houses and move on in a decade, they'll give me $200,000, and all my debts will be paid off.  I'll buy another house for cash, and then sell it in 30 years and go into assisted living, probably.  Kind of like a combination of renting/24-hour medical care.



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181,572 M 76 two wives, two divorces
Pensions: 70 K after taxes
Investment income: 30 K
No debts, no mortgage, no car loan
Net worth 1.5 million
Time to spend some of it



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181,571 I love lifetime renters. They make me money. Owning investment properties can be insanely lucrative if you're willing to do the work. I've bought, repaired, refinanced, and rented several properties now. Each one has a 20-30% ROI. That's with me setting aside funds for major repairs and assuming I'll have one month of vacancy every year. And everything is a write off. Repairs, depreciation, energy efficiency upgrades, business expenses from managing the property myself. Shit, I write off a home office in my house every year because I manage from home. I'm not even thirty and I'm earning $2500 per month on renters. Anyone know how often you see your landlord? Once a month? Maybe twice? I spend an average of ten to fifteen hours per month to make $2500. $166-250 an hour, depending on my hours. But, please, tell me again how there's no point in owning property. Better yet, keep telling yourself and keep paying someone like me money to do it for you.



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181,570 Well almost back to normal. Jedi mind tricks only work for a spell



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181,569 I used to be a home owner and had all the headaches that go along with "ownership". I paid the mortgage and all of my ex-wife's credit card debt rolled into the second mortgage.

I did all the home maintenance, besides run my own business. Just the time to maintain the house took a full day and a half per week along with the hours of self employment , raising kids and trying to keep a bitchy wife happy (ha ha ha).

When the shit hit the fan and it was time to divorce, I gave her all of the headaches of "ownership" and let her get her own financing. I walked away from everything that I had enslaved myself to over the years and knew a new freedom, a liberation that I hadn't known since my twenties. I felt as though the house owned me and not the other way around.

Within that time-frame, I also had an epiphany that I was caught up in the cycle of first world consumerism and basically wanted out of that form of slavery. In that my life was nothing more than a treadmill of getting up in the morning, rushing out the door to take care of clients, barely taking time to have any personal time within the day,buying shit I really didn't want, working late hours and neglecting my family.

I created my life and I am consciously aware that I put the people who mattered the most in my life, last. The reason I thought I was "supposed" to do this is because of our social conditioning that encourages school,college degree, good career, buy lots of expensive shit, take expensive trips, impress your neighbors, exceed the Jones' if possible and so on. I believed that one day, if I kept killing myself for all of the "stuff", I would one day miraculously land exactly where I'd dreamed about.

It was all an illusion. Even the magical lover I spent the next four years with. All of it was an illusion..

Home ownership is fine, if that's your thing. I choose to refrain from that now. I would much rather have a "home" I can take with me behind my truck so I can travel and go do the living that I am destined to do. It'll happen and I won't have to worry about the lawn, pipes bursting, replacing the water heater in the middle of a cold front, or unclogging pipes after thanksgiving dinner.

Simple living is much more fulfilling to me now and I have everything I could ever want. My life is full of abundance and I am content that I no longer am a slave to the American "dream".

For me, it was a nightmare.



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181,568 I've noticed that I've started ignoring what I see online criticizing Trump.  This is bad, because what if there's criticism that's actually valid??  But when everything I've seen criticizing Trump has been ridiculous, such as "fake news/Russia/alt Right/unfair electoral college/racists got him elected," I'm beginning to see no value in wasting my time to read the article.  I assume the article is stupid.



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181,567 I feel so bad.  I was talking to someone for 2 months and he just disappeared :(



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181,566 If you rent, you are basically homeless. You can't put down roots in a place where you can be forced to move out of with no recourse. I can decorate, build an addition, or make my home whatever I want. Renters can't even paint over that hideous "renter white" without permission, then you have to repaint before you are forced out! AS far as the investment aspect, it's like any other investment. If you buy smart, and DON'T do something stupid, like pull your equity to buy a boat, you'll be fine. My house will be paid off when I retire and be worth around $200K. I can live in my own home for free, while renter/suckers are being forced to move when they're 70, or live in a relative's basement. NO THANKS!



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181,565 Buying a house vs rent?
Let's see... I can pay rent each month with no return and very little (if any) tax write off..... Or...
I can buy a house, write off the interest, and live there. Oh, and if I want, I can sell it and usually make a profit!



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181,564 My obnoxious neighbor who happens to be a know it all kind of person cracks me up. I'll be having a phone conversation with a family member on my native language and then he assumes he knows what I'm talking about since he might know a few words and makes up on his mind my conversations.



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181,563 M: 64
Retired Pension: $140K / year
Savings: $40K
401: 500K
Debt: O
Mortgage: 0



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181,562 Wish I could just die but no one remember me. I don't want someone to feel bad at my passing. I just want to go.



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181,561 F: 39

65K/year
0 debt except for mortgage
85K in retirement
30K in savings

I could make more, but I am self employed and I absolutely love what I do. I make my own schedule, take days off, have no boss. I call the shots and do projects as they interest me. I don't know, I am just... happy.



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181,560 534 - I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks that buying a house is over rated! I guess I really decided to think that when my first job after college was with people who were all in their 40s.  On Mondays we would talk about the weekend.  My answers about my weekends were usually game nights with friends, art museums, bars, or hiking.  Sometimes visiting cute historic towns in my area. Their weekends were ALWAYS about home maintenance!  It was always, "oh [insert equipment/appliance] broke and I had to cancel my Saturday plans so I could shop around for a new one."  or "I spent Saturday raking, then Sunday working on the lawn/yard"   I decided I never wanted my weekends to be spent like that.  

I'd rather rent and have less crap to take care of.  I sent my landlord a note in the morning "[insert equipment/appliance] is broken"  and by the time I get home from work, it's fixed, and I spent $0 and no time on it.

Plus I like the idea that I can move whenever I want!



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181,559 There are moments in your life that happen and they change you.There are a few in my life that I wish never happened becuase the change that occured hurts and I will never be the same. The first was being molested by a family member, the second was a big move away from everyone I knew as a teenager. The 3rd is getting pregnant with my daughter at 16. They 4rth is when my daughter was a teen and tried to take her own life and the last was when my dog died of cancer. These things have broken me, ruined me, damaged me. How can a person just be broken like this and somehow keep going? It really sucks!! Life really can suck!!



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181,558 M, mid 60's
Salary: retired at 55, living on investments so it varies year to year
Investments: $2,600,000
Debt: $135,000

My advice, save every penny you can (at least 10% of your income) for your retirement.

Had it not been for a relative that died and left me over $3 million, I'd be still working because I didn't take my own advice. I was just very lucky.



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181,557 Talking it over just the two of us working together day by day.

It had to end somewhere.  It isn't fair and I don't understand it.

I do think you are better than this.



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181,556 I will send the letter when the time is right.



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181,555 Where are you, my love? My friend? I always miss you most this time of year. I see you around occasionally, but it's just too awkward to talk to you. We never really said what we wanted to say anyhow. It was fun, though, wasn't it? When we were in love? You changed my world. I'll always love for that. Best, A



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181,554 F27 and M27 (married, all figures are combined)

Salary: $115k
Retirement: $108k
Mortgage: $80k
Other debt: $4500 (mostly a car loan)

Our investments have us on track to retire by age forty two. Not in the lap of luxury, mind you, but comfortably enough. Now that we're square, we're pushing to accelerate the timeline through other investments. New goal? Retire by 35. Fuck living in luxury. I'd rather buy time.



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181,553 My kids are such assholes. They are constantly fighting about the stupidest shit. They are rude to each other and just downright mean. I'm so tired of it and I don't know how to stop it or why they are even like that. They used to be such nice, polite kids. Now they're teenagers and they can't even go on a car ride without getting into a fight with each other.



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181,552 It's safe to say. I'm a lone wolf.



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181,551 516: the place near Tampa is called Caliente. Beautiful pools, great food, great place at night. The "rules" aren't as strictly enforced; there are certain nights for swinger parties, and I once saw someone getting a blow job on the pool deck. Still, used to love going with my wife back in the day. Unfortunately, those visits went the way of the dodo bird,along with all the other "fun" we used to enjoy...so great while it lasted, though.



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181,550 I just met a man with a body identical to Jamie Dornan's. If given the chance, I will not hesitate to fuck him stupid.



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181,549 I got out of a longterm relationship with someone who was talking to girls online.  He had also done other things in the past, some slapping, but the second time we tried to make it work he never laid a hand on me.  Now I was talking to a guy online that I like the last couple of months, it seemed he liked me, and now he just disappeared.  We were texting, he wanted to meet, so did i, i noticed him going a little cold along the way but figured it was because he works so much.  I haven't heard from him in a week.  We were talking fine and then nothing.  Are the only guys who will give me a chance abusive guys who cheat?  Like my ex?  I feel so down on myself.  We didn't fight or anything, me and this guy.  Now I understand why girls resort to fucking all these guys and not giving a shit.  Don't get your feelings involved, it's not worth it.  I cried way too much over my ex in the summer, over my choices in life, staying with him way too long, I really don't want to cry over someone blowing me off.  Guys aren't good for their word anymore, most of them are full of shit.  I used to think a man was his word but that's not true nowadays.  I totally get why girls turn into sluts.  I never went through a slut phase, maybe I will now.



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181,548 I'm a really funny person, I literally crack myself up and other people, I can't seem to think of any other good qualities tho.



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181,547 F27
a year of disability: 15,000
debt򍶈
money spent on art: 5,000+
money made on art: -5,000+  +200 +10 +20 here and there and then -200 -10 -20 here and there
thousands of hours of thought and stress into different paintings thrown out by my mother in this sinister i'll show her how wrong she was to think she could make it on her own kind of way. kicked out at 18 by her once child support was over from dad who i think makes maybe 150,000 a year im pretty sure maybe more and used to send 200 for bday and xmas but he thinks that's what i see him as and now plays the wise tough love guy who recently actually seemed to think i was doing more right by him than before and THAT is worth more than anything i could ask for.
get fired from about 5 jobs a year. waiting on something that actually matches what i have to offer.
i know if i buckle down and focus on the things i really really want to SEE done it will be more rewarding than money. i know if i keep looking for the right job while trying at anything that comes my way and pushing to better my focus and ethic i will take some steps forward. i will make it in art if i survive. the people who want to see me fail or plot against me have many reasons to hate me (for my arrogant in your face happy go lucky hypocritical whatever they think i don't see in myself is what they don't see in themselves and it's more about my views probably than anything) i am working on the message of mindful procreation women's rights and peace and it really does feel like a lost cause but actually rationalize and compromise your own efforts instead of constantly looking for some kind of duty owed. that is all

PS- don't worry hater no mind blowing orgasm for me it's a time in my life where sexual frustration becomes a thing of the past and karma i suppose keeps me from that abused escape



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181,546 Why am I just now figuring how to make myself have a mind-blowing orgasm?? I'm over 25, for fuck's sake! Wow!! It's great, though.

Female



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181,545 What's the deal of "buying a house" , is not really yours if you think about it. You go and get a loan ( most likely) and spend many years paying off the loan . Idk  growing up we moved a lot due to my fathers job, sometimes to another state or even a different country, so it never made sense for us to buy. We were always renting, my dad however did invest on land , a condominium ( on a popular tourist area) and he build a house ( which we never got to live ) but he rent it out until 2 years ago and now my brother and his family lives there. But not once did he took a loan ,  he always been very frugal and was able to accumulate all his properties without loans. We never got debt from credit cards or car loans , if we couldn't pay upfront for it , it meant we couldn't afford , our cars  were used but practical  . Mom always cook so going out was a treat about once a month.  I think too many people lives above their means and try to keep up with the Jonases.



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181,544 I took your advice and fucked myself today. It was great. Thanks for the suggestion...



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181,543 I am rapidly falling out of love with my husband.
He is rapidly falling into vedio game addiction.

He hasnt worked in almost 5 months.

Our kids are 2 years old and 6 months old. He wont even consider pawning his playstation to get them gifts.

We lost our home. We lost our car. 2016 has been fucking great yeah. Ok.

We are ending the year at the mercy of my super conservative abusive fucking family or we wouldnt even have a roof over our heads with out them and they seem to take great pleasure in reminding me. God there is a reason I moved out at 18. Ya know? If I didnt have kids I would rather be homeless than deal with them but my kids dont diserve that life.

All this fucker does is sleep and play vedio games, and fucking doesnt bathe either. Like i thought it was a joke game addiction.

JOKES ON ME. ITS REAL.

No one is gonna want a woman in my situation. I can't even look at a console or a laptop with out fear of that addiction now.

Oh and my biggest fucking secret? The real zinnger?

I just found out I have a rare genetic disorder...addisons disease.

I havent told my husband...I am watching this shit kill my mom. Im stage 1 shes stage 4 but damn.

Fuck this shit. Fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck.

I already cant look myself in the eye in the mirror how the fuck am I gonna make a home for my kids if ai cant hold a fucking job and my health is in the shitter?

My biggest fucking secret is how much all the above scares me. How much it makes me want to revert back to self harm.

How much it makes me wanna throw myself off a river or damn into the cold water and drown.

I'm so close to giving in, but then my kids. I don't wanna die. I just want to give my kids a home. And not add to my mistakes by releasing emotional pain via physical pain.

Fuck and everyone thinks im an optimist. That I dont struggle with suicide



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181,542 F/28

Salary: $15k/yr
Checking: $400 (after rent/bills)
Savings: $0
Student loan debt: $25k



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181,541 Turns out the neighbors are closet nudists too. For the past cpl months,  I'll take off early from work at least once a week to lounge in their pool or hot tub with the wife and or husband. Then I'll hightail it  to pick up the kids.  Nothing sexual, just freedom.

-M 43 free at last



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181,540 procrastination ....i should really quit that shit.



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181,539 I see pix of women putting things in their privates, like bottles and fruits. I see it and think don't do that! There could be germs! I'd never stick any foreign object in my pussy.



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181,538 I dont get the show Friends
I love gay guys. They are so fun, introspective and emotionally intelligent. (for the most part)
I have a crush on a co-worker.



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181,537 Mid-20s Female, NYC
Current salary: $90,000 (which may change early next year for the worse...)
Retirement accounts: $19,000
Debt (credit card): $3,000

No mortgage, rent (living with family)

Pretty interesting to see people's salaries, investments, and whatnot!



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181,536 I am incredibly cheap. If there is a way not to pay for something (still moral and legal) I will try not to.

My mother is a pharmacist making great money but she instilled the character of being extremely frugal into me, at the expense of looks, saving face, or making a good impression.  Although I appreciate the idea of stretching a dollar and saving up, it tires me that I think about money all the time.

In my early 20s I would decline events because I didn't want to spend $20 that night on drinks. I'm pretty sure the people I associated with at that point didn't really have a good opinion of being a cheap debbie downer or skimp on their birthday/christmas gifts. (I rarely gave out gifts either because I was saving money.)

In high school in NYC, she would give me an allowance of $10 per week for lunch where I could only get hot dogs on the street corner for $2. I ate hot dogs for lunch every day for about 3 years. (The school lunch - which needed to be paid by cash - did not provide anything better, just standard microwaved dry food).

I hate thinking about money, all day, feeling guilty if I buy lunch or feeling guilty I'm spending money for myself, if I will have enough if a disaster happens.



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181,535 M 57 yrs old
Salary $140,000
401 $90,000 and growing faster
Debt only $85K left on mortgage

It's only been 6 years since I was making $85k/yr working 1full time and 1 part time job. Now I'm looking forward to retiring in less than 5 years. I'm at the point where I feel there are so many more interesting jobs and things to do and I can get by making a lot less. If I can hold on for 54 more months I'll be in good shape. Fingers crossed.



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181,534 Not sure why all are adding their financial info, but:
M58
Salary᛽,000 yr
403B,000
Debt: approx 25,000 yr

Sold my house to pay my daughters college, banked some and moved into a 2 bedroom apt. BEST THING I EVER DID... I sat on my deck and watched the maintenance guys rake leaves. I can call if I need a new appliance, I wound have needed to pay about 70,000 to upgrade my older home. Life is good, although I want to retire as soon as I can... secret? here it is, if you think owning a home is the greatest thing, sorry its not...especially when you are older.



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181,533 I've been struggling with feeling unhappy in my LTR of 6 years for quite a while, boyfriend has refused to attend to my desires quite a while now despite reaching out again and again, trying so hard to figure out a way to make this work. I finally decided I needed to get out, especially after cheating multiple times (looking for intimacy, didn't care about the guys at all). I went and got myself an apartment. Haven't told him yet. Tomorrow is the day. I feel conflicted, don't want to hurt him but it's just so obvious I'm dying to escape this situation. I'm so excited for the future. Wish me luck tomorrow with making it through all of this :( it's really not an easy choice for me as I love this person so much. Sometimes love is not enough.



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181,532 F37
Salary: 36k
401k: 6k
Consumer debt (credit card, car loan etc) 30k
Mortgage: rent, not own


Former stay at home mom, now divorced. Out of the workforce for 10 years, could only find entry level job. Debt mainly from paying bills/buying groceries/taking care of kids while searching for a job.
Ladies, think about putting your job on hold just because you have kids and it seems to make sense to stay home while they're young.



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181,531 I was hanging out with some wiccans at college, and I was 'exposed' with a witchcraft con while they were playing Oujia.  I started feeling cold winds over my shoulder in bed for a few years.  I tried a messenger angel technique, and then, within a week, I saw one of the witch's obituaries online.  Died suddenly, apparently.  I'm guessing he's with the Chthonic wonders now.



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181,530 529 it sounds like they were gonna do something to you. Maybe the guy standing behind you was gonna do something that's why you keep replaying it.  That's why he was right behind you and startled when you turned around. Thank God you left there when you did..



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181,529 I had a very strange incident last year when I was a senior in high school. I've had reoccurring dreams about it. As if the situation wasn't resolved enough in my mind, so I keep replaying it as I sleep.

The incident really started in Kindergarten. I had a friend named Brian. He was in my class. We hung out in school and after school on many days because he lived a few doors down and our mothers would arrange playdates.

By third grade or so the playdates stopped. Turned out Brian and I were different kids. I was proving to be studious and nerdy. Brian was the class troublemaker.

Brian and I didn't even acknowledge each other through junior high and high school. We were in completely different crowds. I was in the honors classes. Brian was in woodshop and auto tech and gym. I'd see him sometimes across the lunchroom and knew of his friends. They were druggies who skipped class. One of them hit an old lady with his car as she crossed the street. The woman died. It was a big deal in our school. It was an accident so he was never arrested. But these were the people Brian hung out with.

The incident. It was October of my senior year. I was walking home after school. A car pulled along side me. The driver called my name in a friendly way. I looked. It was Brian. This was the first time he said anything to me in 10 years.

He started making small talk. He asked about my mom. He asked if I was still studying hard and where I wanted to go to college. Then he said he had a favor to ask of me.  He said he needed to meet some friends on Fire Island. This was a summer beachy island off the coast from where we lived. Once summer was over though, it was very deserted. He said his friends had gone there and he missed the boat and did my family still have a Boston Whaler and could I give him a ride over there.

I was caught off guard. I didn't know how to turn him down. Plus there didn't seem to be a reason to turn him down. Sure  I could give him a ride. The whole thing would take me less than a hour to get there and back. So I said alright.

He wanted to go right away. Like don't even go home to get changed or anything.

I got in his car. We went to the marina a few blocks away. I started up the boat and off we went. The entire ride he was being very pleasant. We spoke about those years we were friends. "Remember going bowling at my birthday party..." That sort of thing.

We pulled into the little harbor on Fire Island. There was only one other boat there. Must have been Brian's friends. Brain said I should come on over and hang out for a bit.

This is not something I would ever do in a million years, hanging out on the beach with druggies. The entire situation was way off script for me. But, I dunno, when did something like this ever come up for me? Never. So what the hell, I tied up the boat.

We walked along the path to the ocean side of the island. As we came over the last dune, there were three people, one guy and two girls, sitting on the sand, around a cooler.

Holy crud, the guy was the fellow who killed that woman with his car. I recognized the girls too from school. Kids in school would call them trailer trash. They had rings on multiple fingers including a skull ring on their thumb, and plenty of beaded bracelets on their wrists. They wore blue jeans that were so low cut that when I'd see them walking the halls on their way to a class, I'd do a double take thinking they couldn't possibly have on any underwear.

Brian introduced me. They all said hello and told me their names. The killer driver guy asked if I'd like a beer. Brian answered for me. I suddenly had a beer in my hand. This was the first beer I ever had.

I kept thinking to myself don't blow this. Keep my inner nerd on a leash. Don't be my normal socially naive self. Act chilled out. Nod along. Throw in a curse.

One of the girls, Dawn, was telling how her History teacher was "on the rag today and started bitching out." With great purpose, I said, "That shit is fucked up."  I think that was the first time I ever cursed. And two curses in the same sentence. I was kind of pleased with myself. What's more, they didn't look at me like I was faking it. They accepted my cursing and kept right on talking. I was blending in. I was being one of the gang.

The other girl kept looking at me, but when I turned to meet her gaze, she'd quickly stare at the ground. She either was feeling guilty about something, or in my over active imagination, she liked me and was embarrassed and shy about it.

All of us talked for like an hour. It seemed to go okay.

There was a lull in the conversation. They started looking at each other, as if they were waiting for something. It was weirdly uncomfortable. It occurred to me that maybe the guys  were wanting to have sex with the girls. But there I was, a fifth wheel.

I told them I should get back home. Brian said no, I should stay a little longer. Dawn said it too. Should I stay? Maybe the shy girl would do it with me after she did it with the other guy? I looked at her hoping for a sign. She didn't say anything. Not only did she look away, she turned her back to me. I took that as a no, aint happening.

The killer driver kid got up saying he was going to pee. He walked off behind me. I remember wondering how he was going to pee on the beach without being seen. There's no place to hide. I guess he didn't care if he peed and the girls could see him.

Brian tried to offer me another beer. I said no.

Dawn was looking over my shoulder. She was staring so intensely in that direction. She was obviously watching the kid pee. She seemed so wide eyed and excited. Brian started looking over my shoulder too. That was weird. Why was he watching the kid pee?

The shy girl turned slightly and looked at me. There were tears coming down her cheeks.

Then Brian started nodding, as if he was saying yes to someone behind me.

I turned, and was surprised to see the killer driver kid standing there, like one foot behind me.

He immediately backed away and stumbled and fell. Dawn rushed over to him and started whispering in his ear, I guess comforting him. Brian turned to the crying shy girl and said "Stop it!" The crying shy girl turned to me and said, "You should go."

Okay, it was very clear she didn't want me there. No sex for me. I got up. Said thanks for the beer and goodbye. I walked back my boat and went home.

That's the incident. I've had like 10 dreams about it in the past year since it happened. And it's only now, all this time later, where I replay it in my head and think holy crud. Like really, hold crud.



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181,528 181516 My wife and I tried it. It was the best thing we ever did. Members of a club in Michigan called Whispering Oaks. We meet more people from so high stressed jobs it was unreal.When we left after a visit I felt so relaxed and the wife also. No drugs, no sexual things on the grounds. Light hugs and kisses allowed. A lot of rules you must obey. The largest one is located out of Tampa Fl. I don't recall the name. We went there on a vacation it was great.Tell you wife not to be ashamed of her body. You see people with all types of figures.They are located all over the US.Only go to the ones that are endorsed by a Sun bathing organization I don't recall the name. Go on line you see. Hell there are even cruises you can go on. Believe me it is not about sex.



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181,527 F/59
Salary=0 no visible means of support
401k=16k
Savings=approx 65k
Mortgage=0
Hoping I die in my sleep before the $$ runs out.



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181,526 F47
Salary: $87k
401(k): $87k
Inheritance/other investments:  $120k
Consumer debt (credit card, car loan etc) maybe $4k
Mortgage: lucky renter at 25% below market in killer area

Send monthly stipends to two family members since I'm the most successful - happy to do so, absolutely ... functional alky also.  Because, vodka.



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181,525 I come here when I feel alone, and I say unspeakable things.  I'm not tied up in an impossible personal dilemma (or not feeling it, at least) at the moment.  So I wanted to turn away from myself and thank you for listening.  It means something that you hear me, that there's some soul in the world who hears how devastating that thoughtless attack or dismissal was.  It's human-it's love, unattainable IRL.



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181,524 OMFG was he really playing footsie with me at lunch at exactly the same time he was telling me about his wedding anniversary vacation next year?

I feel like Long Duk Dong:  "...so confusing!"



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181,523 35 yo woman, single, 5000 in savings, professional job, hard worker, no debt, don't take holidays, make $50,000 a year, I am an addict & I spend everything extra on alcohol.



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181,522 Motherhood feels like a prison sentence. I can't wait until I am paroled when my son turns 18 and hopefully goes far away to college.



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181,521 For as long as i remember its been merry christmas. im 57 and still is thats the way here in the GREAT U S A ........ Dont change our way stay in your own country.We cant do it in yours.. SO TO ALL WHO ARE HURT BY THIS MERRY CHRISTMAS HAPPY NEW YEAR AND GOD BLESS AMERICA..... AND YES SANTA IS REAL



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181,520 Happy Friday.  This daily reflection hit me.  And I felt I needed to share my past week.  
Sunday I had a friend come and beg (again) to be taken to the hospital.  I said yes, not fully being compassionate as I should have been.  More of a yes it's time to go type of thing.  Let's say, this person, no the disease, was just staring me in the face.  My insecurity, my fear, was all right there in this person.  I wanted to help.  
We get to the hospital.  They freak out.  I leave because I said that was it I wasn't simply driving this person around all the time.  Things were left in my car.  The disease attacked and I was harassed threatened and the person showed up at my house after several hours  ready to hurt me we will say.  Police were called it was "my fault" because I was helping someone who didn't want help.  I have taken that personal all week long until last night and definitely this morning.



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181,519 My least favorite thing from 2016 then I will be glad to see go and hope it doesn't continue is the man bun and skinny jeans.



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181,518 When I was in middle school and high school I was badly bullied.  I would get tortured on the school bus to and from school. Anything I was holding would get smacked out of my hands.  Kids try to start fights with me and beat me up. Couldn't tell my parents because they would go to the school and then I didn't really make things bad for myself. By the time I was a junior in high school all the bullying just stopped.  I still hold deep the scars inside. They were about 10 people who bullied me. And everyone of them has had something bad happen to them. I like to think of it as karma.



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181,517 When I was younger, mostly in high school my goal was to just slide  by unnoticed and get my high school education.  Then I went to college and my next goal was to kind of just go under the radar and not get noticed by anyone and kind of coast through school again. That was all successful. Now I'm doing the same thing with life. Just trying to fly under everybody's radar so I don't make a scene or get involved with anyone. Just want to fly under the radar of life till I die.



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181,516 It's been my fantasy to go to nudist camp. I don't know why I have never done it. Probably because I'm too conservative and what would my wife think if I suggested this to her. My wife has bad self-esteem issues with her body and I can only imagine that would make her feel pretty bad



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181,515 52 years old. On disability. Have nothing in savings because I'm not allowed to. I own nothing, and I owe nothing. No retirement plan. I am what you call part of the have knots in life. Been disabled most of my life and luck just hasn't been my friend.  I don't have any blame on anyone but myself. It's nobody's fault that I fractured my neck but it is what it is. I hope that this disability insurance just keeps paying me.



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181,514 Yeah so I make 50,000 a year, no debt. 401k is about $90,000 right now. I own my house and I own my car. I have no credit cards. I'm very frugal, I only buy things on sale or if I absolutely need to. My credit score is 795. if anything in my house breaks I fix it myself. If my car breaks I have the smarts and the tools to fix most things in my driveway.



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181,513 At first I thought it was going to be great having Donald Trump as president. I liked what he had to say. He really seem to have some good points.  I was thinking, anybody but Clinton.  Then the campaign happened. I saw him make fun of the disabled man by mocking him in the same arm gesture that he did. I  Heard his whole diatribe about grabbing women by the pussy and building a wall around Mexico. He just started getting really crazy.  The debates were unbearable to watch.  Now we come to find out he doesn't pay his taxes. This is just the tip of the iceberg with Donald Trump. I think a lot more things are going to come out that we were not made aware of as the public. I'm horrified that a misogynist pig is going to be running our country and having access to nuclear codes.



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181,512 M45
Salary:  $100k
401k:  $60k
Consumer debt:  $127k
Mortgage:  $365k

Spent almost a year unemployed and it just fucked shit up.



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181,511 I knew it when all your likes and comments disappeared from FB...Go fuck yourself...



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181,510
M36
Salary: 117k
401k: 0k
Consumer debt (credit card, car loan etc) 50k
Mortgage: 0k



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181,509 I personally know a few politicians. None of them strike me as smart. Do they love attention? Yes. But intelligent? No.



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181,508 507 -thanks for that message. I really needed to hear that and be more thankful for everything I have now (I'm in my 20's and I'm fearing the 30's part).

I want kids, but my boyfriend has an autistic brother and it bothers me a lot. My boyfriend is perfect in every single way, but his family..... :/ This is the onyl thing that makes me question our relationship.



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181,507 When I was in my 20s, my favorite thing to do was sex. I'd thrill on convincing a girl to get naked with me.

In my 30s, my favorite thing was my kids. I liked coming home to them. I liked how they believed in me.

In my 40s, my favorite thing was work. I had responsibilities. I took my job quite seriously.

Now I'm in my 50s. You know what my favorite thing is? I like crawling into bed at night with my wife.  It's a warm place. I put my arm around her and there is nothing more I want in life.

If this is my life for the next 20 years, I will be content.



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181,506 I want to hate my ex, I just can't. Even though she's God-knows-where, I still secretly hope we reunite.

God help me.



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181,505 What I hate the most about my wife getting real fat (5Ɔ" and over 200 lbs) is that I actively look away now when she gets undressed or walks around in the bedroom naked.  When I was younger and dating (or even before dating her) I used to love seeing a sexy woman naked in my bedroom.  Didn't matter if they were dressing or undressing, or just hanging being around naked - or next to naked. God I loved that.  A naked woman.  Right there! In my bedroom!  Nice ass, sweet boobs, curves in just the right proportions, maybe some cute underwear or bra set up. MMMMMM.   Just amazing.  

Now? Horror show!  Rolls of fat.  Bulges where there should be no bulges.  No separation between the ass and the back of the thigh... just one huge giggly flank of fat and wrinkly cellulite riddled meat.  The belly sticking out farther than the tits.  Back fat.  Cankles. Double chin.  Mishapen lumps of flesh everywhere.  Just EW!!

I would give anything to just have a normal looking naked (or semi naked) woman walk around in my bedroom.  I don't think I'd even have to touch her to be happy.  Just to see it again up close. That's my dream.  Thats my secret.



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181,504 Michelle Obama took 125 of her relatives to Mandella's funeral on your dime.  Mrs. Trump doesn't have that many relatives.



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181,503 502:  NO hard feelings here.  I feel blessed in many ways beyond $ and I am happy for you!



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181,502 I don't mean to make anyone feel bad about this, but...

M40
Salary: $2.4 million (study hard in school kiddies)
401k: 13k lol
Consumer debt (credit card, car loan etc) 0k
Mortgage: 0k

I'm terrible about investing money. I pretty much keep everything in a checking account earning practically no interest. On the upside, my bank sends me an invitation every year to their Christmas party - I think because I'm funding it.



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181,501 My new coworker reminds me of lumpy space princess.



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181,500 M42
Salary: 106k
401k: 125k
Consumer debt (credit card, car loan etc) 16k
Mortgage: 400k

And you?



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