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184,899 What is going on in this country IS disgusting. I did not vote for either candidate but at the end I am still an American and respect the constitution that gave us this administration. What is happening is close to treason .The President is Trump and he will be there for the following four years .Even if they impeach him (that I doubt) -America will have Pence as President. Hillary is out of the picture for good.Democrat and Republicans need to put politics behind them and listen to what the people want .They wanted Trump and what he stands  for .This is why he is President. The negative press is disgusting When President Obama was in power they wrote about how well Michele dressed and how trim the President was and how many almonds he ate before bed. He walked on water. Why because the press were petrified to criticize him less they get branded as racists? How about being branded as anti-American and traitors? America must come first and what is good for this country, Forget about being Republicans and Democrats.Them and us- It is dividing us and it is not good. We will pay for this behaviour if it does not stop.



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184,898 My marriage is a disaster. People smugly try to say it takes two to tango in a marriage, implying that the husband and wife are equally to blame when things go wrong.

How incorrect.

We've been going to a marriage counselor. Even the simple act of getting there on time has been a problem. For the first 5 sessions my wife made us late. It was clearly intentional. She doesn't want to go to a marriage counselor because she knows she has behaved badly and it will be the topic of conversation. So she makes us late because it's less time in front of the counselor.

Both the counselor and I have asked my wife to please help us and be there on time.  My wife ignored both of us.

I came up with an alternate plan. We would take two separate cars. If my wife came late, then I would be with the counselor alone talking about my wife when she wasn't in the room. She hates people talking about her behind her back. I thought this might motivate her to come on time.

Didn't happen. She still came late.

The counselor tried to intervene again, scolding my wife for being late every time.

My wife's response was classic. It clearly shows what's wrong in her head. She complained that she was being picked on and demanded to know why I wasn't being scolded. Why was my wife the only one being scolded. How about the counselor put some of the blame on me.

The counselor calmly pointed out, with sort of an intentional look of confusion, that I am not coming late. I come a few minutes early. So there is no cause to scold me for being late.

To which my wife responded, "Well then scold him for coming a few minutes early. It's not fair to blame me but not blame him, when both of us are not coming at the exact right time."

Like how does anyone deal with my wife? There's no ability to have a rational conversation.

At the next counseling session, in the half hour window where my wife had still not arrived, the counselor told me I should divorce my wife. She said it will never work. She said my wife and this marriage is beyond help.

Yep.



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184,897 I know he cares about me, but I think the issue of time is too important to me. He's still going to continue on acting as though the amount of time we spend together doesn't mean anything to him, and these are my 20's. If I'm going to be in a relationship without thinking about how much time is passing, I'd at least want it to be a relationship where that person and I are fully invested in each other. Our problem seems to be that both of us are too scared to “put all our eggs in one basket,” which has translated to different behaviors on both our parts. He's happy being with me without being with me fully, and then wants to integrate others into our sex life to keep it exciting, and to me that still sounds like every other guy's fantasy of wanting it both ways. You get the bottom bitch and the random bitches to fuck. I want to be with him because I miss him and because we're compatible, but I can't say that I could go back to being the way we used to be without the same feelings of dissatisfaction coming up. I'm not happy with letting time pass without thinking about its importance. That's not how I choose to live my life. I'm not happy with someone telling me that I need to wait for their full investment, and that years may go by until I earn it.



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184,896 Former President, Bill Clinton was impeached for lying.  At the time, I thought it was ridiculous, given the subject about which he was lying.  It ended up serious enough though to get him successfully impeached.

What is going on now?

It seems to me that our current situation is far, far, far more important than with whom one is having an adulterous affair.

Yet the blatant, obvious lies are flying EVERYWHERE!!!

WHY ARE WE NOT DOING ANYTHING NOW???

The cup of lies is running over like a monstrous toilet from hell.  

Please demand something ... soon!



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184,895 I'm not understanding. How could a guy asking a woman about today's date be sexual harassment?



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184,894 I wrote the secret yesterday about sending the e-mail joke to the young woman I worked with years ago.  I thought that I should add a few details.  

First, all through my career I've been aware of a "hands off" policy with all of my female coworkers.  Any woman in the office, no matter how gorgeous she was, was not to be spoken to in anything more than a professional manner.  The only time I would get into personal discussions were at the water cooler and we'd talk about our kids, or our vacation plans.  Young women ESPECIALLY were not to be spoken to.  I had heard too many horror stories of men being wrongly accused of sexual harassment.  When I was a better looking younger man, I could tell that some of these women wished I would stick around more to chat with them.  Unless I felt very comfortable with them, I'd leave.  There'd be rumors that "I just wasn't interested in women," but I didn't care.  I wasn't going to be a victim.

Now I'm nearing the end of my career.  Suddenly, a young woman is in the office who's so much younger than me that there's no real chance that she'd think I was pursuing her.  I'm old enough to be her dad.  She works in a different department than mine.  I have no power or authority over her in the least.  Turns out she's not just from the same small, unheard of town I'm from, we grew up a half-mile from each other.  We click almost immediately.  She asks me for advice, I give her what I know.  The worst that happens is that our conversations get a little racy at times, but they're never in-depth.  They're more silly than anything else.  She's working hard to go through college.  She didn't take the traditional path.  She's a good person, and I'm trying to help her and mentor her as best I can.  After seven months, I believe this is a woman I can trust.

And then one day, seven months after we started working together, I e-mail her this joke: "What sounds like a bell but smells like crap?  Dung!"

Then I get a from her reply saying that's inappropriate and she's going to HR the next time I say something like that.

Now, what's a grown man supposed to do?  I'm a few years away from retirement.  There's no way in hell I can risk my job by continuing to have any contact with this woman.  I can't "mentor" her.  I need to keep her the heck away from me.  I was convincing the CEO to put her in positions where she could be exposed to the federal clients.  But now I can't say that, because what the fuck will she do when the federal client says something she doesn't want to her?  No federal client wants to see their project ran by a person without a college education, either.  There's no "project coordinator" role available for a young woman who doesn't even have an associates degree.

So what did I do?  I apologized to her profusely for offending her.  Then I left her alone.  She left a few months afterwards.



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184,893 I am in my sixties.  I have never seen anything like what is occurring right now.  We are in very, very, very BIG trouble.  I am truly afraid, as never before.  I want to move to some country where everything seems alright.  But, really, right now the whole world is too volatile to trust anywhere.  I am afraid.  I am scared.



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184,892 I love Rachel Dolezal.  She is the white, female version of me.  I am male and "of color."  I understand her completely.  If I were not gay, I would probably be "in love" with her.  Thank you Rachel Dolezal ... for being YOU!



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184,891 I have a friend who just went through a nasty break up. She's gone off the deep end, hooking up with guys she meets online, multiple a week, letting them come to her apartment when she's sloppy, falling down drunk. She refers to them as her "johns". They don't give her money for sex, but give her other things, like alcohol. She abuses alcohol heavily and I know she's going to wind up dead and soon if something doesn't happen. If her family was worth a damn they would try to help her, but that's never going to happen. I guess they've given up on her. I don't know what to do. I'm honest with her and she lashes out at me. I offer advice, she lashes out at me. It's reached crisis point, and my hands are tied. I know I'm going to get a call or read in the paper that she's dead.  I wish I knew what to do.



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184,890 My sister just wont stop talking.  I'm trying to be kind, but please shut up! Haven't you noticed that I've stopped listening!



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184,889 I had pneumonia last week.  The doctor also refilled my Xanax prescription.  I've been popping the Xanax like candy for the last 6 days, and sleeping when I come home from work.  My wife doesn't know about the Xanax.  She asked if I was okay because I was sleeping so much.  I told her I must be just getting over the pneumonia, and I've been tired.

I took my last two Xanax pills last night before I went to bed.  I dumped the rest into the toilet this morning.  It's been 14 hours since the last pill, and I'm just now feeling my real strength coming back into my body.  It's actually a good feeling.



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184,888 I have seen men investigated for sexual harassment just for asking the following question "What is today's date?" I know this guy and all he did was his job. I never heard one sex related home from him nor about his marriage. But yet he was working with a lady here on a project and asked her what is today's date. He was gone the next day.



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184,887 I fill nothing for either one of you.My life couldn't be better ,the last thing on my mind would be suicide.Your giving yourself way to much credit.Now I could see how suicide plays a big part in and out of your life.Having kids and grandkids and not being there for them when they most needed you.Not having a solid foundation at your age .U worked so hard To get that state prison education for nothing .All that  for you to come out here and just let it go to waste.I guess I would think about suicide all the time to.And then having to prove yourself your whole life and live in my shadow.That must of really sucked for you.Watching me have everything.Not to mention every bf you have ever had has always wanted me ,but couldn't have me so settled for you.(OUCH)Now that's not my fault at all.But u sure are making it seem like it is .Thats a lot of hate you had to carry around inside of you.I really deeply fill sorry for you.Maybe next time you go home you could request to see some kind of shrink..I'm sure they have some one that volintears there time to help women out  like yourself.You built your life and I built mine.I finally realized who was the FUKEd up one out of us.Ive always known I wasNt the bad evil one.Ive never had to carry around hate inside of me and try to pretend that I was some one else.I never went around saying OWE I LOVE MY ..... I would rather just show it then talk about it.Taking care of you the whole time you were behind bars was part of me showing u I loved you.I was very naïve when it came to you I guess you could say.Cause boy I was wrong when It came to you.I would never guessed in a million years that u hated me the way u have showed me since you've bin here.And that's what makes us way different then each other.I have everything I could ask for and then some .you've auctully made my life 100 times better you removed the one thing in my life that was stopping me from being happy.Cause god knows I couldn't do it ,no matter how hard I trieded,I couldn't do it.The funny thing is ,You don't know this u think I'm trying to kill myself over it.God doesn't like ugly You of all people knows this .you should auctully try focusing on what u  talk about You talk a good one ,but most convicts do.Your  left out on the streets ,now who would you say was the bad evil one out of us. this is my life,you have your life else where .it's sad that u have know where to go but that's all on u.You built your life around prison walls cause of the choices you have made .And who you are as a person ,now look at your life and mines .Who's really the FUKEd up one here. I have a beautiful home a solid foundation for my grandkids and kids.I love love them and they love me I play a big part in there life.I wouldn't give that up for nothing.Exspecially  to live in some one else's shadow..But that's what makes us way different then each other.



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184,886 I live with my family, my parents, and I have other family who live upstairs. I love them, but it's getting stifling. I don't even do crazy things, I don't go out a lot, or wanna walk around naked or anything, but I hate to hear shit like comments or unnecessary bullshit. I have no privacy. Like if someone sends me a gift, there's talk, because everyone knows about it so they assume I'm dating someone or back with my ex.Shit like that, like I can't make a move without someone making assumptions that I have to hear. It's annoying. My parents went away, and it's like I still have to answer (somewhat) to my aunt. If she happens to "catch" me in the middle of getting ready I feel I have to have an explanation where I'm going. I just want some privacy damn. Maybe the older relatives start getting nitpicky as they get older, or they're bored so they look to the younger relatives to see what they're doing, and then saying what they want on it. maybe they like to sit around and talk about everything and gossip and then egg each other on. I don't know what happens.



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184,885 My younger brother has been strung out for three years or more now. He has made some bad decisions and they are the kind that cannit be "fixed." Now he is sitting in jail facing certain state jail time. Probably about 3 to 4 years. This can't be happening but it is.I know NOW how heartbreak really hits you. Im so sad and its just very hard to adequately put kn words. I am so incredibly sad. Oh my god it just hurts so bad.



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184,884 I'm Facebook friends with this one younger women.  She's always taking selfies with her tits hanging out.  Then one day I saw another woman who looked like her, also with her tits hanging out.  Looked through her FB profile a bit and found out that it was her sister.  Both sisters, both with heir tits hanging out.  Found a picture of their mom.  Yep, her tits were hanging out, too.  No dad anywhere in the pictures.  Just a family of women showing their tits.  Must be genetic.



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184,883 i sleep in the guest room when i'm gassy because i don't want to fart in my sleep while in the same bed as my husband. i hate it because he wonders why i sleep in the guest room but i don't want to tell him cuz its embarrassing. i say my head hurts. he thinks i'm lying and i'm mad at him or i'm doing naughty things. no no no it's about farting okay??? jeez, leave it alone!



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184,882 Sometimes I call it a "God-Clock" I'm not sure why I do that. I know it isn't a clock. It's a telephone.
It is the God-Telephone.
I held it next to my heart. I love you.



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184,881 This is weird. There is a ghost in my shoe. Just one shoe. My right shoe. When I put it on, I feel a squishy kind of blob under the arch of my foot. It moves around. The first few times, it scared the poo out of me. I thought there was a mouse in my shoe. But there was nothing there. It's so strange. Every time I put the shoe on, I can feel it moving around under my foot. It must be a ghost.



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184,880 I'm a pineapple snob.  Won't eat any not from the HI.



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184,879 Women period like to get the attention of men period, yes especially men older than themselves. I am a woman saying that. And a lot of women use it as validation, or even spin it like a guy is obsessed with them when he's not. On the other hand, some men push boundaries to see what they can get away with, to see if a girl would fuck them. If a man ventures into inappropriate territory, or sexual things, he wants to fuck her and we know that. Women want attention and men want to fuck.



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184,878 Do not kill yourself. Don't do it! I almost did it. My kids and I were being thrown out of our apartment by a man we had taken in. I had no job and no money and was too sick to work. I thought I was useless and that my kids were better off with someone else. I asked people I thought were my friends for help and they refused or ignored me. I gave up.

I laid there on my couch, apartment full of boxes and had gotten rid of half of my and my children's possessions to squeeze us into a one bedroom apartment, crying until I could barely breathe. I felt useless and worthless. I had just gotten enrolled in classes for full time college to become a programmer and here this guy throws us out and moving day is the first week of classes.

I had no idea how I was going to make it, so I prayed. I said, "Lord, I'm sorry I couldn't do more with this life you gave me. You gave me this great gift and I ruined it. I can't do this alone. I am planning to take my life. If you want me around, please send help. I'm sorry I wasn't strong enough to be who you need me to be."

The following day, a friend of mine who had been on his mission in India for two years texted me out of the blue. He asked if I needed help. He said,"I remember you said you pray sometimes. Do you want to come to church? Can I bring the missionaries over to help?" I said, "Yes! That would be great."

The LDS (a.k.a. Mormon) church lifted me out of that swamp. They checked on me every day while I was suicidal, they fed us, they clothed us, they held and comforted us. They helped me stop drinking alcohol and tea, which cleared up my chronic UTI's and kidney stones.

When the times come that other members need my help, I am there. We have each other's backs. We bear one another's burdens. I know no church is perfect but these people have become a family to me and have loved my children and myself more than even many of my relatives have.

Maybe the LDS church is for you, maybe not. The point is, you can find where you have value. You can find the people that love you the way you are and won't leave you. Please don't give up. I just finished my first year of college. I am making excellent grades and am well on my way to a very lucrative career. My children are happy. We have enough to eat and we are loved. I'm so glad I hung on one more day. I was quite literally saved. I love my Savior and my church. There is hope. Please, please, please hang on. Someone loves you and would be devastated without you. You have value. It can and will get better.



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184,877 866: Boy I could use a cushy job on Wall Street...but I have nobody in my corner. I just want to make a difference in this life for myself and my family. Here's to being positive...



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184,876 I want to kill myself.

I won't amount to anything in this life.  I tried, but there is simply too much in the way, successes aren't going to happen.

It will be cheaper.  I won't leave a carbon footprint behind anymore.  I won't have to worry about getting a job, and I can stop being a leech on the lives of others around me.

I don't want to hear anyone telling me that I should reconsider changing my mind.  I've heard it a lot.  I'm 31.  I've wanted to kill myself since I was 10.  My mind hasn't changed.

I want a successful way to go.  I don't want to end up hospitalized or crippled for life.  I want to end this life.  What is the best route for this?



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184,875 Male paranoid delusion here.

Sometimes after using the bathroom and zipping myself up, I keep thinking that I left my penis hanging out of my pants.  I have never actually left my penis hanging out, but I repeatedly think I did.  I have to keep checking my crotch over and over, thinking I didn't previously notice the spot where my penis was hanging out.

I must have a mental disorder.  I never believe myself that I'm actually zipped up.



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184,874 -858, I was like you a long time ago, but I learned a hard lesson about getting into friendships at work.  Like you, I was a lot older, and there was nothing sexual between me and this young woman.  We just hit it off in a "big brother, little sister" way.  I had no interest in her at all, and I had no power over her.  She wasn't even in my division.

One Saturday night, I was at a party and simply sent her a text message asking how she was doing.  I mentioned I had had a few drinks and was feeling a little drunk.  That was it.

Monday morning, I get called into HR.  What was this text I had sent this young woman?  I showed the HR director my phone, and all the messages we had sent back and forth.  Thankfully, the HR director was an older woman and could see what was going on between me and the young woman.  

"Young women like to get the attention of older men," the HR director told me after she saw the text messages between us.  "Then they like to brag about the attention to other young women.  Don't say anything to her if it's not work related."  Of course, the HR woman was right.  I saw that behavior back in college.  I never expected it to extend to the workplace.

That was 6 years ago.  Like you, I could have helped her along in her career.  But my time is important, so instead I decided to help out a few of the younger men instead.



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184,873 I do more than care. I am also sorry that I have hurt you. I don't wilfully pick him over you. I just try to do what I'd want him to do in reverse.

I do stand up to him and I don't just accept his opinions. I guess due to me not relaying that back to you, you aren't aware of that side of things.

To be honest, I don't know how to handle things to be fair to all those involved. I feel like I largely fail, but I don't know how for it to be different.

It is bad that that I expect some form of retaliation from him, but I know I would be no better in reverse, so I can't exactly hold it against him.

Unfortunately, neither of us are very trusting, predominantly due to life circumstances. So whilst it's something we need to work out, in the interim, others still get caught in the consequences of that.



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184,872 Every time you have to ask your boyfriend to do something with me it's an insult and offensive to me.
Every time you joke about not being able to just hang out with me because of his reaction is an insult and offensive to me.
I have done nothing wrong, said nothing, done nothing to you or him, or even had an opinion about your boyfriend, yet he judges me, insults me and questions my intentions.
This is so hurtful yet you take his side every time. You never argue or fight back or question his opinions. You choose him over our friendship and couldn't care how that makes me feel.

I've upset you recently and I apologise. I offended you and your beliefs and that was wrong but not my intention. But you were hurt and I'm sorry my friend.

But know this, it's so insulting to me how you treat our friendship because of your boyfriend it's so unfair.
You've hurt me so many times with this fucking crap I'm sick of it.
Either stand up or don't bother anymore because I'm sick of being treated like the bad guy when I've done nothing wrong.



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184,871 Why are politics and religion so divisive? It's frustrating how someone can stomp on your beliefs, but when you try to defend yourself, they completely disregard it and won't even let you have your say.
If you're not prepared to hear someone out, then don't even start on such topics, particularly when you start off with being offensive and condescending.



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184,870 I'm starting to realize your good guy image was a front.
I'm out of here!



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184,869 I love it when a man I don't know comes to my job for some maintenance work or something. Gives me a chance to flirt HUGE and get my ego stroked in the process. I know I'll never actually do anything with these guys. I just like knowing I still got it.



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184,868 There's nothing wrong if an older man/women wants to have a relationship with a younger person as along both are adults and it's consensual. The problem with the guy is he did it at work which is totally unprofessional even if it was just flirting/talking not just that but he was the vice president for petes sake, he should know better, I'm assuming he was 50+ and she was just a inmature 20 something girl . Even if she is the one who started it he as a person with authority, older with work experience should it put a stop to it.  What kind of supervisor, manager, Vice President etc... talks the way to an employee ( anal sex, sex in general, dirty talk) it's just not acceptable on a work place regardless of age .



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184,867 Not only sexie as fuk, but sense of humor, and fun! She's grate.



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184,866 A similar tale. My wife had a young relative fresh out of college who was looking for a job. I arranged to get him hired with a friend of mine. It was a cush job working in the back office at a major Wall Street firm. Given a few years, it could lead to a front office job and really big money.

But over the next few years, this young relative was a dick to me and my wife. I was shocked. He was so rude. It was about a family matter that wasn't any of his business. I even contacted him directly at one point after he sent a nasty email to my wife. I asked what he was thinking? I pointed out that she had not yet seen the email, and I could delete it if he so desired. He said no, let her see the email. Okay. But I never spoke to him again.

A few months later I was out to dinner with my friend at the Wall Street company. He raised the question of my relative. He suggested it was time to move the fellow into a bigger position.

I said no, don't bother. I pointed out the guy is a dick, he's not loyal to the people who help him, and he makes bad decisions.

My friend bypassed my relative for the promotion. My relative quit and now works in a dumbass job making basically nothing. I don't think he knows what influence I had on his career. But what a dummy. He could have been making mega bucks by now and living in a fully paid house.  Instead he struggles to pay the rent.

People need to understand there are more forces at work than what they currently see in front of them in plain sight. Some people like me work in the background and help people - and I have helped quite a few good people. But I also believe in not helping the dicks of this world.



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184,865 You texted me so much stupid shit last night that I'm seriously filing you as dumb. Also, seriously worried about myself for ever believing a goddamn word out of your mouth.
I was nice to you and you're too stupid to realize what you fucked up.

Good luck on the rebound. Your new BF is ugly AND stupid. Good job.



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184,864 Today a  friend found a nude picture on tumblr and thought it might was me. It was! I can't believe it. I denied it was me and I think he believes me. The pic was made by me and sent to several men a few years ago when I was still stupid enough to think they'd keep it a secret. Thank goodness this one didn't show my face. There are plenty of pics that  DO show my face though. God I was so stupid



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184,863 Why can't people just not go around behaving like entitled assholes? Why not try being decent and ethical to begin with? Then you wouldn't have any "ungrateful little whores" to get even with. Just a thought.



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184,862 YOU FUCKING DESTROYED HER. Well done, that's what ungrateful little whores deserve. Give a person a finger, they'll ask for a hand. So just give them the proper finger - the middle one, and they'll fuck off.



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184,861 Funny - I thought 184858 was written by a woman. But yea, seems petty regardless.



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184,860 There's reason in a lot workplaces there's strict policies that include not dating , even though you weren't dating her or messing around with her . You as an grown up man with plenty of experience should known better, you should feel lucky they didn't kick you out the place , next time try to be more professional and don't get involved on stupid friendships.  The email could it cost you your career.  Can you imagine what will happen if she hires a lawayer and tries to sue the place for sexual harassment?  You will out of the door and good luck getting another job with the same position.



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184,859 While I agree that her response to your joke was over the top, particularly given previous interactions, are you saying that if she had openly expressed an unwillingness to continue talking to you concerning personal topics, making sexual jokes,  or allowing you to tell her sexual jokes, all bets were off as far as you mentoring her? That is what it sounds like. If so, that makes you seem very petty and vindictive. You aren't entitled to have or maintain an inappropriate relationship with a subordinate simply by virtue of you being in a position of power. Sorry.



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184,858 This happened 15 years ago.  It was a dumb thing for this young woman to do.  

I was a vice president in a company with 30 years experience.  This young woman was 22 years old, with no college degree, and she was working her ass off working full time and taking 12 credits a semester.  However, as sheer chance would have it, we both grew up in the same little neighborhood.  In fact, we both still lived there at the time this happened.  We were neighbors, and it was only by sheer luck that she was hired for a position as an office assistant with our company.  

For the first six months, we got along great.  We talked about silly shit, we talked about a LOT of personal shit, and we laughed a lot.  We related to each other because we both grew up in the same place.  We went to the same high school, frequented the same places, and we became friends.

Until one day when I e-mailed her a ridiculous joke.  This joke was nothing compared to the personal stuff we had talked about for the first six months we knew each other - strippers, anal sex, boyfriends and girlfriends and crazy hookups we had a long time ago, and other crazy shit that was way worse than this dumb joke.  She sent me back a reply that said it was inappropriate and she was going to go to HR if I sent her another joke like that.

I was flabbergasted.  This was just crazy.  I had every intention of mentoring this young woman.  I wanted her to succeed.  I was pushing the CEO for her.  I was always telling everybody how smart she was despite her not having yet finished college.  "She has so much potential - did you see how she solved that problem?"  

Do you know how hard it is to have a career in an organization that does research for the federal government without a college degree?  Well, she started to find that out.  I'm not one of those people who seeks out petty revenge.  I did nothing to get her fired.  She had something taken from her - my very vocal support.  

We were a rapidly growing company.  There were a lot of places where this young woman could have been fit in, but she didn't have the education and I wasn't willing to vouch for her anymore.  Since that crazy e-mail, if the CEO thought she could be used on a project, my response would simply be honest: "Let's not overextend her," and, "She doesn't have the experience for this, and I don't think we have the time to work around her learning curve."  "Our deliverables depend on hiring someone with more direct experience than what she has."  Or I'd say, "If we use her on this, we lose the office support we had."

None of these were lies.  If anything.  The "lie" I was telling people was how great she was for the first six months she was at the company.  She had been hired as the office assistant, and during the time we got along I had her placed in a very visible contractor position with a government agency.

She lasted about six months after that.  when we got a long, she said she wanted to be used for more than what she was being used for.  I told her to stick around because that's what we were planning on doing with her.

I guess none of that came to fruition.

She left after less than a year.



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184,857 My brother was in the Marines for 5 years before they wouldn't let him renew his contract because of some kidney issues that are hereditary. Last fall, he had to return home and become a veteran. He's pretty disappointed about it, because he wanted to be a Marine until he retired, or until he died.

Last week, I read that Trump just sent a bunch of soldiers to Syria. We've been drone-striking the hell out of them for months, but I guess now we need ground troops to take care of ISIS, or whatever's actually going on over there. When I asked my brother if he knew about it, he said that he knew, and that his old platoon was already there, fighting. He was disappointed he couldn't be there, because he genuinely wanted to fight for our freedom.

Everyone else in his life is glad he got sent back. I hate that he has to find something else to do with his life because he's ready to make that sacrifice for our country, but I'm happy the good Lord kept him just out of Trump's grasp. The timing was just too perfect



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184,856 Life is not black and white. There are so many grey areas. Sometimes doing the right thing means throwing out the rule book, forgetting the so-called logic in the situation, and focusing on what you know in your heart to be true. Some lessons are learned too late, though.



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184,855 There's these cute guy at my local Tim Horton , he's kind young though  I say maybe 20 , I wonder if he wouldn't make mind dating a cougar 😂.



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184,854 I masturbate almost every day. Sometimes twice a day.  52/m



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184,853 I think I gave every single fuck that I could give and now I don't seem to have any left. At this point I'm existing, not living. I don't care about anything anymore. I don't know what I'm hanging on for. No matter what I do, nothing gets better.



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184,852 People always say I look so happy then I must be a good faker



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184,851 I miss my BF that's not my BF. But I won't stand to put up with any bullshit.



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184,850 People get married out of Infatuation. Then year after year, that is long gone.



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184,849 I'm so high right now!



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184,848 I know, right, Clooney doesn't even make good movies. I don't get why he's a big deal.



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184,847 Before entering a room full of people, I try to be discreet, but I reach down to make sure my zipper is up. If you watch guys closely, many of them do this.



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184,846 I just don't get why people think George Clooney is such a heartthrob.  Look at him ... he ain't all that.  He's just an average looking middle-aged man.  And really not sexy at all.  One person says it ... all the sheeple follow.  Really!!!



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184,845 I'm fed up with workmen taking advantage of me the homeowner. They overcharge. It's a form of stealing.

The heat stopped working upstairs. The guy comes over. He changes a tiny relay switch on the vent. He charges me $125 for the part and $175 for his 15 minutes of labor.

Next time it happened a year later, I bought the bought the part online for $13. It took me 15 minutes of labor at no cost.

I mean that is just theft on the part of the workman.



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184,844 I am in hate!



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184,843 For this past week I've been getting an intense burning sensation when I pee. :( Now I'm worried. I had sex with a guy last week. :(



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184,842 From the inside point of view, there is so much corruption with local government, you don't know the half of it, you don't know even 1% of it. People, you are being ripped off!



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184,841 My ex-husband and his current wife have proven that ugly parents do not necessarily create pretty babies. That old wives' tale is false.



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184,840 The prettiest woman I ever slept with, had the smelliest pussy.



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184,839 I am in love!



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184,838 The weak minded need numbers to express the illusion of strength, but one strong bar can stop the entire machine if he just holds his ground.



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184,837 Yesterday while leaving a family get-together, I was totally felt up by my wife's sister when we hugged. I'm not sure if she meant to or not, but it wasn't awkward or anything. I wish I knew either way so I could know if I could return the favor.



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184,836 Nothing beats Binty.  Binty does it best.



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184,835 I'm glad she did that.  It' a little embarrassing and it was definitely over the top, but it served as a warning.  Leave her alone.  That's the funny thing, I never paid that much attention to her in the first place.  I always tell people to be glad for the little accidents because the little ones are what we need to repent the big ones from occurring.  I'm glad for this little one.



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184,834 Men seem to find an awful lot of convenient excuses for their bad behavior. Shitty behavior isn't inborn, it's learned and it can be controlled.  Make no mistake. Saying that a man has some mystical, biological birthright to use a woman because she's "weak-willed" is like saying that serial killers have a biological birthright to kill because the victims didn't see it coming. That's pretty fucked up "logic", my friend.



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184,833 Being an honest and decent human being isn't the same thing as being weak. Users and abusers (of both sexes) are weak. Don't confuse preying on others for strength. Genuinely strong people don't have to go around destroying other people in order to give themselves a sense of power and importance.



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184,832 men are predatory creatures...
if one finds out you are a weak-willed girl or woman, good luck.
protect yourself



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184,831 I wish you would be honest.
I wish you would be decent.
I wish you would just lower the drawbridge and be a fucking human being for once.  

I never get my wishes, though.



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184,830 I love you all



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184,829 That's funny.  The one woman to have told me to stop drunk texting her is the one I didn't really drunk text much at all last night.  But to threaten to go to our supervisor?  Well, she's 20 years younger than me, so I hope she knows that this basically cuts me off from goofing around with her again.  I'll be cordial, but I can't risk going much further than that with her anymore.  It's a shame, because we got along pretty well.



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184,828 I got drunk last night for the first time in years.  I'm a hiring manager for a fairly large company, and on my phone a month ago I had taken a picture of a resume I was looking at.  The resume belonged to a highly attractive young woman.  I had taken the pic about two months ago along with a few others so I could look at them all on the train on my way phone.  We hired for the position, and I and forgot about it.  Then, while I was drunk, I remembered that I had the resume.  It had her phone number on it.  So... what if I texted this young woman?  What would she do?  How would she respond.  One in 10 women are sexually adventurous and would probably be open to a little flirting with a stranger, and probably more than that.  So I texted her and asked, "Who is this?  Sorry to bug you, but my office assistant synced my phone with all of these documents I had, and I now had 15 numbers that I don't recognize." She responded and we exchanged a few polite messages.  I never led on who I was, and then ended the conversation.  But that's all that happened.  When I sobered up I deleted the text.  Maybe it's a little weird to have done that, but I was drunk.  Damned alcohol.



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184,827 Surrender Yourself to me... I never had the never to ask...



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184,826 The most sexually aroused experience of my life involved no sex, and it was with another woman! Oh my! My friend and I put blue coloring in our hair for a party. After, we went to her apartment to wash it out. We decided it was best if we both were in the shower together and could help each other rub our scalps. There I was, naked with my friend. It took quite a bit of scrubbing to get the blue out. But then it spread down onto the rest of our bodies. We soaped each other up, including boobs, pubes, pussies, and bums. I have never been so turned on. Nothing sexually happened, but I think about it when I'm alone if you know what I mean.



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184,825 You know how sometimes you trim your nails and you cut too close and it bleeds and stings? Like here you are trying to do something nice for yourself and look good for others. But it backfires.

This is how I view my current boyfriend. I tried to do something nice by dating him, but it bleeds and stings.

Next.



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184,824 I gave up drinking a few years ago because sometimes I would wet the bed. Try explaining that to a boyfriend! :( It was easier to never drink again.



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184,823 My husband doesn't understand how Facebook works.  He doesn't understand anything on the computer actually.  He never knows what is going on, in general. He didn't know how to write a check.  He doesn't know how to pay bills. He doesn't get a lot of social cues etc. He can't follow a TV show or a movie unless it's a very simple show.  I always have to explain everything to him, like he's a child. How did I wind up with this man?



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184,822 The ACA (obamacare) is NOT a bad thing, the insurance companies made it that way. They originally went into this with an open mind and agreed to keep their prices lower, to allow the people get healthcare at a lower rate. The insurance companies were to lower the prices and allow a pool of companies to work together thus allowing more policies to be written. When Obama said you can keep you insurance coverage, he was correct, but it was the insurance companies that changed their minds. Many decided that if they had to lower their rates, they were going to eliminate some lower priced policies, which were the policies that the companies cancelled thus not allowing thousands to keep their doctors. Yes, that was a point were the insurance companies began to fuck the lower paying policy holders, and made them get higher paying policies. So you want ACA out, go for it, but when you have to go back to getting on your knees and sucking the cocks of these companies, having them tell you fuck off if you have a pre-existing condition, not covering specific ailments, not covering well baby visits, ER visits, etc....well if you think thats the way to go, you really have zero idea what you are talking about. You may ask, who are you to say this....well I work for an insurance company that has fucked over the lower priced policy holders. I know what is what.



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184,821 Today my wife is in a brilliantly good mood. She's baking cookies and has offered to play a board game with me and our children.

The kids look at me, wide-eyed with a hint of fear. We know my wife will relapse into some foul miasma and start brutally yelling again. The only question is when.

It's almost better when she is her typical mean self. Then we know what to expect. It's like if someone is hitting you, you can put up your hands to stop the blows. But it's that hit out of nowhere that you aren't expecting, that's the one that gets a clear shot at your head.

The kids and I are tiptoeing around, waiting...



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184,820 The new Healthcare Bill that did not pass ,is great for America. "We the people" are in power again and it shows. Politicians have realized they can not pass something on party lines when it is not good for the country.Good for the Republicans for doing just that .Obamacare is a disaster and was passed by Democrats without reading the whole thing. As the very "intelligent" Nancy Pelosi said "we must pass this bill to see what it is all about". I think it is a good start-congress and politicians must realized once again the "we the people " are in charge and not the government.This is a good start for new era in America..



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184,819 I can't believe you told your children that I threw a brick through your garage door. Unbelievable. Here I am, minding my own business, doing my own thing, working on making my life more positive...working from a place of forgiveness and regained sanity, and you feel the need to lie about me and accuse me of things that, even at my worst, you know I would never do. I never made up anything about you. The truth was hard enough. I am hurt and disappointed, but what else should I expect out of you, honestly? I don't know why I keep believing that you're better than this. You need to give it a rest and find peace with yourself. Stop being hateful. If nothing else, do it for your own sake.



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184,818 Talking to my husband bores me. He has nothing interesting to say. His head is empty. I need something more. I might have to look elsewhere.



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184,817 Recently I've been getting hit on by these people that I would never have thought would take an interest in me. I don't know if my energy has just changed that much or what, but it's kind of awesome. In the past couple of weeks I have had so many people come up to me and tell me that I'm pretty, that I look very happy, that I'm bright and cheerful, that I seem fun. It's flattering. I had forgotten what this felt like because I got treated like garbage for a really long time. I thought I had lost "it", but apparently I never did. If anything, I seem to be getting better with age.  It's very liberating knowing this. It makes me realize that I don't have to settle for bullshit anymore. In fact, I never did.



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184,816 I became disabled as a teenager.  Every option I had for my career was shut out from me in an instant.  My father was mentally ill and beat us.  There were seven kids in the family and sometimes we ate beans for weeks.  I hated those beans.  I went to college, but was so sick that I failed out after two years.

And guess what?  I persevered and I still made it.  I have a home and a family and advanced degrees and a career.

Here's a secret from someone whose life was shit.  People who truly need government assistance don't want to be on it because it reminds them of all the things they can't do.  They try to get off of it as soon as they can.  Unless they're missing their arms or legs, most people in this country do not need long term assistance from the government.  They need to get off their asses instead.



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184,815 You're playing a dangerous game, mate. Fiddling on the line between cheating and helping. In the end you'll decide that she needs something more than a friend, seeing how you two get along you'll think that you're the perfect candidate for that job. You helped Paul save his own life. Help yourself save your own marriage.



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184,814 This may be long, and if it is too long, I am sorry.

I am a married guy and I am looking to find a lover.  I scan CL in my area because I want to find a married lady who is in the same type of situation that I am in.  I do not need judgement on this, it is background for the story.

In the Strictly Platonic section a woman posted an ad asking opinions on her situation.  She is single and was putting herself out there for a guy and it did not happen.  She got a ton of responses, mine being one of them.  I emailed her my thoughts and did not think I would hear back from her.  She liked my response and she sent me one back, I sent another to her, and then my email was lost in the clutter of the other emails.

Two or three days later she wrote me back saying my reply had got lost.  Yesterday we ended up sending about 30 emails back and forth, long emails, emails with thought put into them.   We liked the same things, we think the same way, we learned new things.  If I was talking to someone in the casual encounters section I know I would have been fucking her last night.  I knew.

So she surprised me out of the blue and asked if I wanted to meet last night.  My wife is out of town, a last minute plan which she made so she could go see her brother playing in a band.  I was free.  I said yes, and I had to make an hour drive at eight at night to go meet her in a VFW all the way across town.  I asked her if she posted in the Strictly Platonic section, I had forgotten a bit because of the time passing, and she said yes.  She asked if I expected to get laid, and I honestly had not, and I had not told her I was married at this time.  I went off and for the first time ever was not expecting sex.

So let me digress a bit.  I saw a man die in the DR about a month ago.  He was kayaking and it tipped, her went under, got free, but he swallowed a ton of water trying to right it.  He went under but someone saw all thins, I think it was his wife, and they were able to get him to the beach after he went under, ten minutes later.  My wife knows CPR so she asked me to go check out what was happening.  I saw the man on the beach and three Americans were performing CPR on him.  It was sunny and hot and they took turns really compressing his chest, switching off every 45 seconds because of exhaustion.  They took turns blowing air into his lungs.  I could do nothing, so I prayed for them to save him.

The ambulance took 20 minutes to get there, so in all he was down 1/2 hour at this point.  His wife was kneeling by his head looking like she was in shock.  Like she was not living in reality.  He had a teenage daughter who people kept a bit away so she would not have to see her dad dying.  During this time there was not one sign of life and I heard he had indeed died the next day.  His name was Paul.

Back to my story.  I met this woman at the VFW an hour across town and she was waiting outside for me.  She was absolutely fucking beautiful.  My type.  I would have created her in my head for fantasy purposes.  Even from outside the music was loud so she asked if I wanted to go to another bar about two minutes away, so we went there.  We went into the bar, ordered beers, and sat in a booth and started to talk.  I knew more than ever if I met her in another section of CL I would be fucking her that night.  She was beautiful, smart, amazing, and we were having this awesome and meandering conversation.

So someone was drunk and being helped out the door.  I asked if the guy needed help with the drunk guy and I was told yes.  A waitress was carrying a chair and the guy's wife was leading the way out, so I got behind the guy and was able to help the other man get him outside and sitting on the chair.

He was not drunk.  He and his wife had found out a month ago that he was deathly allergic to shellfish, something he never knew.  I asked if he was drunk, because he looked like he had about 15 beers in him and I was told this story.  He almost died a month ago because he did not have epi-pens because he did not know he was allergic to anything.

The odd thing was is that he only had a burger and fries and two beers.  I had went back in the restaurant and told the waitress to call 911, he was in trouble.  His wife took out one of the epi-pens but she was nervous and when she stabbed him in the leg she had not removed the top so no medication got in him.  We did not know it at the time.  The man was drifting in and out of consciousness.  This other man and I were holding him in the chair and talking to him, having him squeeze our hands, making sure he was with us.  No one was coming, emergency-wise.

My daughter has a friend who is deathly allergic to nuts.  A couple years ago I told her she had to show me how to use the epi-pen just in case.  She did.  That is how I knew what to do.

I looked at the pen she used and we figured out he did not get the first dose.  He was out.  I told the guy to stab him again and this time the top was off and when we stuck the pen in his thigh, he jumped and he started breathing again.  We kept talking to him and then a couple minutes later he stopped breathing again.  I told the guy to help me and we got him on the ground.  This is in Minnesota so it is still cold out.  We got him on the ground and he stopped breathing.  We started to do chest compressions and we started to do CPR, his wife was very composed and did that part.  We stabbed him with the second pen, because he would stop breathing and we lost him a couple of times.  He jumped again and I knew we had more time.

The cops showed up then but were in no hurry to get to us.  I told him to hustle.  He then saw it was pretty dire and got on his radio and told the ambulance to haul ass.  It ended up taking 10 minutes for the cop to get there and 15 total for the ambulance to get there.  When the waitress called it in the dispatcher asked if he was drinking and she replied he had a couple.  The EMTs thought they were dealing with a drunk.

Thank God the cop had oxygen and a defibrillator.  We put the mask on him and then he hooked up the defibrillator and the machine said we did not need to shock him.  I think the second shot saved his life.  The EMT's arrived and I helped get him into the gurney.  I am sure he made it, but I was just in the way at the time so I went back in the bar.

This guy who I helped save, his name was Paul, just like the guy that died in front of me.  Remember, I had no plans to be an hour across town that night.  We were not even supposed to meet at this bar.  Because this woman was the most interesting woman I had ever talked to, I agreed to drive and meet her as a last minute thing, so it was a fluke I was even there.  The universe is amazing.

I went back into the bar and we talked for hours.  She asked what I did and I told her nothing, and then I told her I was married and was a stay at home dad.  I could see she was deflated a bit and I felt bad about it, but I had no expectations of sex and was not looking for that.  After I helped with Paul I guarantee I would have seen her naked that night.

We talked for hours.  I hugged her goodnight.  I emailed her when I got home and I told her I was meant to be there for a reason.  One was to help Paul.  The other is that she needs a friend.  She is the most amazing woman I have ever met. Also, I do not know what the future holds but I think we are going to end up together sometime in the future.  I will not leave my wife for her, but I want to continue to email her and talk to her, and be her friend for now.  I do not want to fuck her because she needs a friend more than a fuck.  I want to fuck her, more than anything in the world, but I will not.  We may not end up together, either.  I don't know.

I just know God or some force in the universe put me there for a reason and I feel it in my bones the reason is more than Paul.

Thanks for reading.



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184,813 The secret has now changed. It was never to be last night though.

I do find myself wishing I could talk to you, even though I can't as much I'd like to, for reasons you'd know.



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184,812 I live near a large, multi-ethnic city.  One of the things I love most is the various events/parades for the different groups - Columbus Day, Chinese New Year, Puerto Rican Day Parade, Greek Independence Day...we go to many of these to experience the different cultures' traditions and foods.

This year's Cinco de Mayo Parade has been canceled.  Why?  For fear of immigration raids.  The illegals don't want to get caught so the celebration is off.



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184,811 I am a chronically messy person. It sucks.



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184,810 I just read a story of a Trump supporter family who is now facing deportation.  What a hoot!  They knew they were foreigners from a targeted country, but they voted for him anyway.  They thought they were the "good ones" and they would soon be waving goodbye to all those nasty Mexicans and targeted others as they were led kicking and screaming out of the USA.

There was another story of a  woman's husband being deported and leaving a business with 20 employees, her and four daughters behind.  She voted for Trump and somehow thought that her illegal husband wouldn't be caught in the net.

So, goodbye, and good riddance!  Welcome to the democratic process.  I am so glad we can give you what you've asked for.  Bon Voyage!!!



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184,809 I would apologize to the game for cumming so hard on his dick. It would be that great. I imagine



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184,808 Orthopedic doctors do NOT put fingers in vaginas.



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184,807 It takes a very confident man to wear yellow spandex while riding their bike.



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184,806 My neighbor is so fucking fine. I love watching her walk about in her little yoga pants, it's probably the only thing that makes me genuinely smile anymore. I concluded I'm not her type, but still, some pieces of art are just as nice to look at as they are to hold.



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184,805 She said she'd post a secret last night but never did. She promised me a good secret. I waited up and read them all. I can tell when it's her. Hopefully one tonight.



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184,804 Girl on girl porn is the only kind I watch.



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184,803 The goal is to fill my stomach as much as possible, to the point where it hurts. I think this is related to me growing up so poor that I was constantly hungry. Now I'm trying to balance the situation by constantly overeating.



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184,802 798...You ain't doing it right...



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184,801 I met this woman who is in her 50's and her ex is 32.  She had amazing skin, says she doesn't wear makeup.  She must moisturize or something, but her skin was glowy and even without makeup.  She just had on some lipstick that really brought her out.  I wonder if face makeup messes up the skin, maybe all you need is some lipstick and mascara/eye makeup.  Anyway, she walks a lot.  That probably helps too.



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184,800 This is how our legal system works.

Prosecutor: I've left many messages.
Me: I didn't receive any.
Prosecutor: I spoke to your secretary.
Me: I don't have a secretary.
Prosecutor: Oh wait, wrong case.



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