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186,299 All of me loves All of you... all your perfect imperfections.

a fractal moment.



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186,298 There was a terrible car accident up on the main road today. A person died. All the streets are backed up.

Of course people are moaning on facebook how this will make them late for the gym, or their pedicure.

My God people! Someone died. A family is grieving and all you can think about is how it made you late for your pedicure!



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186,297 I'm not being honest with myself. I do care what you think. Always did, and that's what screwed me. I've got to learn how to stop. You are not a good person (to put it mildly) and everything I believed about you turned out to be untrue. You have no idea how much I looked up to you, respected you, and cared about you. None of that mattered. You just took, and took, and took. So, don't give me a sermon or a lecture on what I need to do or how I'm supposed to feel or act. You have no right. Examine your own self. I'm doing just fine without you or your opinions.



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186,296 I used to be in such terrific shape.  I went through a terrible break up that forced me into the gym and into martial arts.  Now I drink.  I drink just as hard as I used to train. I am creeping up on my mid 40s.  My wife is beautiful, I have a beautiful home with all the perks you could ever need.  I want to die I think.



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186,295 We have two of my wife's granddaughters living with us. I love them both and want the best for them, but I wish to god they didn't live with us. They're here because their mother (My wife's daughter from a previous marriage) is too fucking lazy and too addicted to pain pills to make enough of an effort to get on her feet and find a place of her own.
She *always* finds someone's house to stay. Right now it's her sister's place, who is too soft-hearted to throw her out on her ass.
She's never hit rock bottom yet, because someone always picks her up and enables her again. If she could just lose everything, perhaps that would show her what she needs to do to finally take charge of her own life and make something of herself.
When I married my wife, I had no kids of my own. And she'd had a hysterectomy before I met her. So I went into the marriage knowing that I would never have any kids to raise, and I was totally ok with that.
Now, I'm raising an 8yo and a 12yo girl. And because of all that extra expense, and because of us making a mistake and co-signing for her daughter's apartment...which she moved out of and we had to pay the final 3 payments (of course), we are constantly behind on our own mortgage, and our bank account goes into a negative balance every single week before payday.
Life sure changes on you sometimes, doesn't it?



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186,294 my married friends are in such RUTS! they get no sex, but the wives would KILL THEM if they got it somewhere else! It's more like power, control, with a splash of resentment on the wives' parts!



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186,293 I'm getting pretty sick of hearing about how everyone suddenly has Depression. Most people don't realize that being depressed sometimes, lacking motivation, poor eating habits, and even suicidal thoughts to a small degree is normal. It does not equal Major Depressive Disorder.

See, I'm one of those people in that gray area of "undiagnosed, but pretty sure I have General Anxiety Disorder," but I don't go posting on Facebook all the time about how haaaaaaard it is being anxious, like I just don't know why I get out of bed every day anymore, my heart beats so quickly sometimes and I feel like nobody likes me, I'm so hurt and broken by life, blah blah blah.

To clarify, I'm not bitching about the fact that people may or may not have mental disorders, but that people aren't keeping it to their fucking selves. Nobody cares about how you feel. We're all fighting our own battles.



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186,292 I find my neighbor very attractive. Just last night I had a dream I was watching an outdoors play, and she stood next to me and grabbed my hand while I rested the side of my head on the outside of her thigh.

Problem is…she's 60+ years old and I'm in my mid-twenties. It's not a sexual feeling, but I do feel this strong attraction to her whenever I see her. We've never talked before, I don't even know her name, but I wish that would change so I can at the very least get to know her in some sense.



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186,291 You always tell yourself those little stories. This must be true. That must be true. Explanations, justifications, etc, etc. Why do you keep doing that? It's absolutely the reason why you are always angry and dissatisfied in the end.



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186,290 We live in Maine. I took my wife to the beach. She looks up and sees a seagull. She says to me, "Oh look, an ostrich."

She's 38. She's not senile. She's freaking lazy is what she is. She can't even take the time to think about what she's saying. She leaves it for everyone else to figure out. Try living with a woman who acts this way. She tells me to take a left turn, when she meant right. She tells me to pick up more milk, when she meant butter. She tells me my dentist called, when she meant my dad. (She explained they both start with the letter D, so it was an honest mistake.)

If she's too lazy to correctly conjugate her own sentences, then why should I bother putting in the effort to listen?



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186,289 Well, that shit doesn't feel awesome!!!



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186,288 I'm kinda fucked up right now. Day drinking since noon.
Watching Hurt Locker.
It feels pretty awesome.



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186,287 By all the calorie counters online that I can find, I'm eating enough calories to sustain a weight of about 170 pounds.  I haven't weighed 170 pounds since 1997 when I was in my mid-20s.  It would be nice to get back down to that weight.  I just have 75 pounds left to go.



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186,286 Saturday I went to my new girlfriend's place. We drank wine and talked, and then we went to her bed.

One thing led to another, and she gave me the best head I've ever had.

We ordered dinner, talked, ate, and talked even more.

When the evening was over we kissed goodnight and I went home feeling very good about our evening together. I really like how this is going.

Sunday, my wife was teasing me about how my girlfriend had "sucked me dry." Later she went to her boyfriend's.

This type of relationship isn't for everyone, but we're so happy. Let the flurry of judgment commence...

40/M/ethically nonmonogamous



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186,285 My girlfriend drives me crazy. The other day we were hanging with friends and I was playing music from my phone on the speaker and she asks to connect to it, I tell her to just tell me what song she wants and I'll toss it on. She says she doesn't know, and insists I give my phone to her. I'm reluctant because she always pulls shit like this, but whatever I give it to her. 2 seconds later she's on my Snapchat asking me who the people who have snapped me are. They're all just friends. My friend who was over texts "Bruh y she trying to check your phone so much?" Meanwhile if I want to go through her messages she says I can't because she has girl talk on there.
Then the other day I tell her I have to take my sister to a game at 1 PM so we need to leave at 10ᛆ because she lives an hour away, and we'll hit traffic. She says it's Sunday so there won't be any, and that she only lives 30 minutes away anyway. I ask her how it's possible that she lives 30 minutes away when her house is 57 miles away from mine? She says one time she made it to work in 45 minutes. I tell her that makes sense because her work is closer to me than her house, and tell her the only way to make it to her house in 30 minutes would be to go 104 MPH the whole time. She says "I don't know I'm tired."
This brings me to the excuses. It's never ever her fault and she refuses to accept responsibility for her actions. I had a day off, but her and I were supposed to grab lunch, so I woke up at 8ᚨ in order to finish all my errands, after creating a schedule to have them all accomplished by lunch time. I keep her posted the entire time and finally text her at 12ᚮ telling  her that I was finished and for her to head out. She texts me almost 45 minutes later saying she has errands to run but she'll be over "soon." I ask her how that's possible since she lives an hour away, and ask her what she's been doing all day since 9? She said she was getting ready and doing errands at the same time and that I was being mean. I had texted twice earlier that morning asking her "What time?" she wanted to grab lunch. Both times she changed the topic and didn't give me a time. But I'M the one being mean. I told her she could get something to eat herself and that I was taking my sister out for lunch instead. She came over later that day and said that she didn't know what time we were supposed to hang out. I told her most normal people eat lunch between 11-1 and that I had asked her twice what time but she failed to give an answer. Then she said some kids at her school eat lunch at 8 AM so she didn't know. I said "That doesn't matter - your lunch at school is from 11ᛄ-11ᛠ AM." and that I was going to call her school the next day and ask them what time the earliest lunch was at. Then the story changes. "Oh well I don't know what time it's at I just know it's early."
Her favorite excuse though is "I'm too high." Again the other day while our friends were over she asked for me to order a pizza because she was baked, had the munchies, and couldn't talk on the phone. I said I didn't want a pizza and that there was no way in hell I was paying for that. She said fine she'll pay for it. She falls asleep, wakes up, and asks me when the pizza will be here. I remind her that we called off her phone, so she should check it because it'd be 45-55 minutes they said. She asks me 15 minutes later when the pizza would be here. I asked her if she was serious because I had literally just told her I don't know and that there is no way for me to know. Then she keeps trying to get me to pick it up from the front door because she says she's "too high to walk down steps." I tell her "Oh well don't worry about it, there's an elevator you can take down because he'll be at the main doors." She just looks at me like a deer caught in headlights because I can see right through her bullshit. Then she decides to come up with another brilliant excuse "I'm too high to talk to him." I reply "Well don't worry about it, you don't have to talk to him, you just have to give him the money and pick up the pizza it's not that hard." At this point even my friend chimed in that she should probably get up because her laying down on the ground is making her tired.
Fast forward to the other day - I haven't been smoking weed due to me needing a job, but recently decided to live a life of sobriety in order to get healthier mentally and physically. Meanwhile she's been smoking it all and has never brought anything over herself. Anyway, I told her that the position had been filled and that I still needed a job. First thing she asks is "So does this mean that you're going to start smoking again?" I told her no and that I was living a life of sobriety now, remember? And she just asks "Are you serious?" I said yes, I am, and that if her doing drugs is going to affect our relationship because she's "too high" then maybe she shouldn't be doing them, because when I used to smoke I was still a functioning member of society, and could cook, clean, and even take online quizzes for class scoring As almost every time. She said something along the lines of "Well that's MY choice to make."

I really don't think this relationship is going to last much longer.



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186,284 Wait, what?

In the news today, a nice looking young woman from Australia made arrangements to visit her American boyfriend in Hawaii for a few months. She got a visa and arrived in Hawaii.

US Customs officials stopped her in the airport. They questioned her. They went through her stuff. They strip searched her. They read her diary.

In the diary they saw entries where she mentioned her "last day at work" in Australia. Officials interpreted this to mean that the woman had much more sinister intentions.

SHE WAS NOT JUST GOING TO VISIT HER BOYFRIEND IN AUSTRALIA, SHE WAS PLANNING ON MARRYING HIM!!!!!!!

So they had her arrested. She only had a 90 day visa. If she was going to get married, well that would require different paper work. So yes, they arrested her. They made her wear an orange jump suit and put her in prison until they could return this evil woman to Australia.

Like what the fuck is going on in our country. They read her diary?? Based on the non-evidence that she mentioned her "last day at work" they convicted her of quitting her job?? Maybe she was referring to her last day at work before she goes on vacation for 3 months. Duh.

And then accusing her of planning to marry an American. There was no evidence that was her plan, BUT WHY THE FUCK DO WE CARE IF SHE WANTS TO MARRY HER BOYFRIEND?

WE PUT HER IN JAIL FOR THAT?????????????

WHY THE FUCK WOULD WE PUT A WOMAN IN JAIL FOR THINKING SHE  MIGHT MARRY HER BOYFRIEND????????????????

America, wake up. This is insanity!!!!!!



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186,283 I was so close to calling you this morning because a song came on the radio that reminded me of one of our road trips. It's a good thing I didn't though, I guess.  

Forward momentum, only ....



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186,282 I saw a hot woman in the park. She had a dog. I pet her dog while chatting up the woman. Damn dog had fleas. I have several bites on my arm. What kind of skank has a dog with fleas? Bitch. She probably has fleas too.



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186,281 So my friend it was good to catch up with you on Sunday. It's been many years.

But OMG your wife is a shrew.



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186,280 I'm glad I stuck by my principles. But if I ever see you again and you're willing I will absolutely have sex with you.



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186,279 Will somone tell that FUKEN Jcat and Chester to shut the FUK up with thanking everyone for sharing there similar stories..Bitch please life is what u make it..We are not in P U town, where u come from.Where  sisters FUK sisters husbands ,bf ,etc...Where mothers  FUK daughters bf's ,daughters fuking grandma's husband.Nieces fuking aunts bf.Your not out in the country anymore.Stupid hating Bitch get a clue.



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186,278 I guess I'm alone with my pain and to comfort me is not a desire of hers. I guess I'm realizing it's true I'm not a real woman. When I had told her I wanted to be touched like a woman she said "so it's my fault you're not a woman?" I know it's no one's fault and people only give love when they have it to give. The way I am this void I can be cast back into at any moment and so easily ignored like this to just respond with pain and sickness I can't be helped with. As was expected and pushed from her side I will hope to find an intelligent less feminine woman who will not play on this. This angel this brilliant subtle yet intense personality humour depth in her I hope will be strong and know what she wants is out there and she's perfect and can have them and be so appreciated and loved. I love myself and if I'm still wanted I can learn how things work but i would doubt it the way I'm responded to. It's a mix between wanting to be able to say she loves me but wanting me to know I am not wanted



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186,277 My wife and I have a daughter. My wife's sister and her husband also have a daughter. Our daughters are the same age. Both are graduating high school in a few weeks. My daughter will be Valedictorian. The other girl did okay in high school but not great. Ever since this news came out my sister in law has been posting articles about how being Valedictorian is meaningless. There are plenty sour grapes write-ups maligning the idea of being top in the class. My sister in law is doing her best to find all of them and post them. How low. She couldn't allow my daughter to win the award and feel proud for a moment? No, my sister in law has to put my daughter down because her daughter didn't win anything. Go fuck yourself bitch.



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186,276 There is no situation that being positive doesn't help. Negative thoughts are a life killer.



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186,275 I still got love for you.



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186,274 -262, do yourself a favor and get out.  Don't learn the hard way about lazy, entitled people like I did.  Your boyfriend sounds like a friend of mine I once had.  He could never complete anything he started.  I made the mistake of letting him move into my place with me.  Within a few months he had stopped paying rent and quit his job.  When he wrecked his car, I let him borrow mine - and he refused to return it.  It was filled with trash when I finally went to take it back from him.  Lazy people are only loyal to themselves.  They will never change.



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186,273 #186262: My thought? RUN as fast as you can in the other direction. He will never, ever change.



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186,272 I'd like to see the democrats impeach Trump.   It would be very telling.   Rather than just shooting off their mouths, the democrats would actually have to present evidence.   It would be great to watch because there is no evidence.   Trump didn't break any laws.   What the hell would the democrats say during the proceedings?

"Trump should be impeached because... um... a friend of mine heard a rumor he did something wrong... I rest my case!"

Impeach Trump.   Go ahead and make fools of yourselves.



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186,271 I teach 9th grade math. The best boy math students are always the tallest students. Weird. There must be a connection between the math part of the brain and the growth part of the brain.



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186,270 I'm very relieved to read some of these posts describing similar experiences to mine. I went out with a girl for a few weeks. She was cute and fun. Our first time in the bedroom, I took off her clothes and went down on her. She held my head in place with her hands. It told me she liked what I was doing. She didn't want me to stop. She pulled me in tighter when she was coming. Great up to that point. Then she quickly got dressed and left. Well okay. I suppose she was embarrassed or feeling guilty about sex, so she left which meant nothing for me. Harsh, but I could deal with it. Second time in the bedroom, same thing. We started kissing. She pushed my head down to her pussy. I gave her a big O. She got up and left. Third time, two things. A) I wasn't going to go down on her. I wouldn't make it easy for her to be done with the experience. B) We were at her place. I did this with purpose. She couldn't get up to leave, it was her place. I'd stay and then maybe she'd see the light and take care of me.
   My plan didn't work. I kept kissing her and only kissing her. I didn't put my hands on her in any way. I kept waiting for her to touch me. She kept kissing me back. But nada on the touching. She didn't do anything with her hands. Eventually I started touching her breasts. She grabbed my hand and pushed it down to her pussy. Alright, I started fingering her. When she was good and wet, she very deliberately pushed my head down there. What was I supposed to do, refuse? I'm a guy. Of course I'm going to lick a pussy. I gave in. She came. But part B of my plan was supposed to kick in. I wasn't going to leave until I got some. She got up anyway, got dressed and said we should go and get a bite to eat. Okey dokey...
    We went out I think one more time but didn't have sex at all. I never called her again. I don't understand what that was about at all. I did look her up online recently. She's in her forties now and has never been married. No surprise there.



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186,269 Come on, Alex. Hit me up to do some drugs and have sex. I'd be down and I think you're sexy.



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186,268 I miss you personally 15% and miss the sex about 85%, David. That was your chief commodity.



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186,267 I know this woman. She's a newcomer in my town. She moves in and then proceeds to take over our town facebook page. She posts everything about everything. She sees a bird in her backyard. She takes a photo and posts it. Multiply this triteness by 1000.

She's also fat. Way fat. As is her husband. As is their 10 year old son. It's sad to see how fat her son is.

This weekend is her son's birthday. The woman posted pictures of the food made by "the caterer". The caterer is actually the local pizza parlor. The food includes french fires, onion rings, pizza, heroes, cannoli and so on. No wonder why the family is so fat.

Can you tell, she really bugs me. We have a kind and wonderful town. It is gracious and friendly. Now we are represented by a fat glutton who won't shut up. I'm hoping she chokes to death on a cannoli.



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186,266 Borderline personality disorder, please look it up. It just gets worse and worse over time.



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186,265 I had an incident with my wife the other day which pushed the limit of acceptable. She was in a bad mood. She took it out on me. She launched into a tirade because I asked if she could help move a piece of furniture. Her highness doesn't do manual labor. She said how much she hates me and I must be an old invalid if I can't move something myself. She said she hopes I die soon and she will gladly go out and find a new husband.

Like whoa. Where the heck was that coming from. This is who she is though. One minute we are having fun. The next minute some switch goes off in her brain and I am the devil in her view.

I backed away. Both figuratively and literally. I've been thinking about her words. I'm not sure there is any way to come back from that. She can't just say sorry and we move past it. She said she wants me to die soon. It can't be business as usual after that. I'm thinking this marriage is over.



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186,264 I'd say about a quarter of the times we have sex, my wife finds a reason to get up after her orgasm and walk away, so there is no reciprocal sex for me. She got her pleasure and nothing else matters to her. I'm finding I really don't like her.



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186,263 I was told she shouldn't have to hold me and I know I need to sleep alone would rather sleep alone than intrude or just feel alone while with someone. I know for sure I'm repulsive and there's a lot more that makes me wish I could trade myself in for her.



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186,262 My boyfriend is too relaxed, too laid-back, timid, and non-initiative. I have to tell him to do everything or else he won't think of it/won't do it. For example, asking him to do the following:

• taking out garbage.
• applying to jobs.
• working on his personal projects so employers can see his ability.

Shit wouldn't get done if I didn't ask. I'm not sure if this is a deal breaker but it's getting annoying as fuck. He's 25 btw... Not sure if this is going to change.


I like him and we get along for the most part, however he has those personality traits I don't find attractive. Thoughts?



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186,261 Recently my prostate aches awful. I bend over in pain. Something aint right.



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186,260 My best sex was with my boyfriend at the beach. We were laying around most of the afternoon on towels, watching all sorts of people in skimpy bathing suits. It was foreplay of a sort.

We decided to go for a walk in the dunes. Wink wink, it was to have sex.

We came across an isolated area with scrubby pine trees. We ditched in there for cover and start necking and groping. I dropped to my knees and starting sucking on his penis. He then wanted intercourse. I had on a one piece, so I had to take it off entirely. I leaned against a tree, completely naked, while he entered me from behind.

After a few minutes, he whispered in my ear, "Don't be scared. But over to the right, someone is watching us."

I turned my head an sure enough, a guy was standing about ten feet away. He wasn't a creepy guy. He was a buff clean cut guy about our age. He had pulled out his penis and was jerking off while staring at us.

It was thrilling. He was looking in my eyes while I was being fucked from behind. And I was looking in his eyes as he was touching himself. I had never seen a guy jerk off before.

I could tell my boyfriend was into it too. He started going faster and breathing heavy. At the last second, he pulled out. I spun around and dropped to my knees again. He started coming in my mouth, while I still had my eyes locked on the guy 10 feet away, who also started ejaculating.

Wooo. What a rush. My best sexual encounter ever.



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186,259 My ex could be emotionally and mentally abusive, and he slapped me at times and other things.  I only put up with it because I was very much in love with him, but eventually the sex wasn't so great for me because I was afraid of him.  Also, although I knew he wanted me bad, and thought i was beautiful and I was secure in those things with him, he had a way of putting me down and making me feel insecure, (like if i shaved my pussy and it wasn't perfectly smooth, he would pull the hairs left like "what's this?" meanwhile my hairs are thick...) so that made me feel unsexy.  If I liked the sex and was more vocal, he would comment, if i moved more, he would comment, so then i wouldn't move, and he would say something.  anyway I am not with him anymore and haven't had sex with anyone yet, but I am talking to someone who is very open and I am looking forward to it, and I just feel more open and comfortable. I think that's part of it, for me at least, not being scared and feeling totally accepted, and ofcourse being into the guy.  And knowing a guy desires me A LOT is huge for me.



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186,258 The answer is yes! You absolutely can have orgasms like you did with your sociopathic ex. You just have to have someone who is willing to experiment and help you re-find your ability to be in charge and to tell someone else what you want. Great orgasms start with you, not the other person. Make it work for you. Try different things. Teach them how to please you. That's the secret. Getting your power back after a relationship like that truly does begin in the bedroom. It can be done. Don't give up!



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186,257 Fantastic Orgasms begin between the ears, not between the legs. If you have an exceptional orgasms with an ex, its because you consciously or subconsciously were into them more then you know. The question will I ever have an orgasm with my new partner like my ex? well most likely no, but keep trying.



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186,256 It feels so good to be able to relate to so many posts on the recent topic of the best sex ever.  I too had the experience of an ex who was very toxic for me as the best sex of my life.  Our relationship was very codependent and emotionally and sometimes physically abusive.  

The orgasms were from another dimension.

I wonder if I will ever experience that type of sex again in my life, since I'm only in my mid thirties.  

The orgasms I experienced with that partner left me shaking and crying.  Similarly, so did everything else in that relationship.  

Why did such exhilarating pleasure have to come with such deplorable pain?

I am so baffled how many can relate to this experience.  I'm so touched by the woman who shared about how she won't allow herself to completely give herself to her current husband for fear of what happened to her the last time.  

I too have such fear surrounding being 100% vulnerable with my next partner due to the pain from that relationship.  Sexually it was from another world, emotionally it left me at the bottom of a hole dying to crawl out.

Is there hope for us?  Will we ever be able to be truly vulnerable again with another, while being in a healthy relationship?  Can we have that amount of chemistry with a "normal" person?  

Am I "normal?"  The more I read on here, and thank you all, the more "normal," I feel.  Thank you all for sharing, from the bottom of my heart, you all are touching me with your posts.  I have felt so alone with this fear and now feel very connected to complete strangers who have had very similar experiences.

36/f

P.S.  Read "The Language of Letting Go" by Melody Beattie.  It helps with learning how to break free of codependent relationships.  

I hope we all find what we deserve and what we're looking for.  I don't know you people, but I care about you.



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186,255 From My personal experiences......The best Sex Ever was always with a crazy Woman.



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186,254 Here is a little secret for all the moon bats who fantasize about trump being impeached. It won't' happen. There is nothing there other than your fantasies.
Furthermore come the mid term elections Republicans will gain seats in the senate.



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186,253 The person I had the absolute best sex of my life with ever - was also the worst relationship of my life.  He had a complete mental and emotional hold on me because of the fantastic sex we shared.  We eventually had a child together, and the relationship didn't last much longer after that.  That man has been my living nightmare for over 15 years.

He's also the reason I hold back so much from my current husband.  I won't let myself get that entrenched with anyone again.



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186,252 That Vampira is one weird looking creature.  What is she?  Super model, my ass!!!



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186,251 I know it's not the popular thing to say, but Co-President Putin is kinda cute, don't ya think?!



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186,250 Seen your daughter tonight. Wow that's all I can say. Shocking actually bit then again it is not all that shocking.



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186,249 I am probably wrong, because I don't know law, but it seems to me that when Trump is ousted, Pence should go with him.  After all, it was Trump who chose Pence as his running mate, so the two are linked.  I say get rid of both of them and start over.  After all, Pence hasn't mustered up the courage to say a word about all the chicanery, mischief and craziness that has been occurring daily at the white house; in fact, he backs up everything Frump says ... he's his top "yes" man, next to Kellyanne, of course.  In this instance, I believe that if you are not part of the solution, then you contribute to the problem; I believe he is guilty of the sins of omission, by not bringing this madness that he must daily witness, to light, and of course by signing off on every word that comes out of Rump's mouth.  

I'm sure he is just waiting to be sworn in, but I think it will be just as great a mistake.  We need a do-over ... but with viable candidates.



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186,248 I am so lonely.

I lay in bed and it feels like I am the tiniest leaf floating on a planet sized ocean. There is nothing else. Only inertia keeps me from drowning.



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186,247 I don't care about love anymore. Not looking for it. Don't want it. Don't need it. Fuck it.



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186,246 Love cannot be defined by sex, even in marriage or a marital-type relationship. Love transcends the physical plane. Love knows no boundaries.Love is found in an amazing variety of forms. Love is both the root of the tree clinging to the earth and also the leaves rising to the light and beyond.



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186,245 Maybe that lawyer friend of yours likes to be alone and is happy with living in a mansion alone, without any kids or significant other? Just a thought :). It sucks that she has to come home at 11pm though.



Living alone doesn't seem too bad to me until you get much older...



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186,244 I had a thing for this girl back in the mid-ྖs, but she wasn't interested and we went our separate ways.  It's been almost 20 years since I last talked to her.  She was online last night, so I messaged her.  She's become a fabulously successful lawyer, at least in terms of the money she makes.  But her job is her life.  It's all she wants.  She lives in a mansion on 6 acres, and she owns a Porsche 911S Cabriolet and a Porsche Macan.  But that's about all she has.  Otherwise, she's 45 years old, never been married, lives in that mansion by herself, and when I messaged her she was driving home from work at 11 at night.  Maybe money isn't everything.



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186,243 I'm pretty sure you already did get rid of "that bitch". And guess what, that bitch is grateful that you helped her dodge a bullet!



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186,242 On spring break, I hooked up with this girl. I wanted to take naked pictures of her. She said no. She had a boyfriend back at school and she didn't want any evidence how she cheated on him. I said what if I take naked pictures of you on ur phone, just becuz its fun. Then you can delete them. She said ok. I took the pictures. We fooled around again. She deleted the pictures as promised. But when she went into the shower, I went into the deleted picture folder on her phone. I undeleted the pics and mailed them to myself. Then I deleted any record of what I just did. She has no idea I have her naked pictures. :)



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186,241 Difficult choice. I was with someone who didn't challenge me. It didn't work out. She dragged me down. But the other choice of not being yourself? I think that would make you disingenuous. People would see it. What about a third choice? Throw both those fishies back in the sea and hold out for someone who encourages you and let's you be yourself. He/She is out there somewhere. I remember reading about the traits of extremely successful people. They were asked the number one most important attribute. They didn't say education, or money. They said having the right spouse. Good luck to you.



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186,240 Should you be with someone who...?
A. you trust but doesn't challenge you to your aspirations, or has aspirations of their own
B. challenges you to reach your life's goals but you're afraid to be completely yourself around

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186,239 The best sexual relationship == the best relationship overall?
I don't agree with that ... although there are points in 230's post that I do agree with, I don't agree with the last part ... I'm sure there are many people who have had mind-blowing, world-shattering sex, with people who were toxic in the relationship otherwise.

People can open themselves sexually and be sexually liberated + fullfilled without having to open themselves outside the bedroom, or without having to think of who they are as a person.

Sex is important in a relationship for sure, but when you're with a complete asshole, it doesn't really matter. Both people need to be on the same page mentally, spiritually for it to be the best relationship.

However that a nice thought-provoking post. I encourage you to post more, 230. !!



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186,238 I completely relate to 230.   Yes, I've experienced every element of that type of relationship.   The insecurities, fear and eventual breakdown of trust drove us apart.  Even when the soul connecting and mind blowing sex keep two together for as long as possible, it's the relational stress that eventually breaks that apart.

Even though I have new lovers now, I will always love "the one" for what we had. It was life changing ❤️♋️



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186,237 my first love was with someone i had the best sex with. we were together 5 years but it was the most emotionally draining and horrible relationship i have ever suffered. now, i don't think so highly of the sexual aspect of the relationship i look for more important things. HOWEVER, tthe sex part is still a major factor and must be there.



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186,236 #186230 That was perhaps one of the best and most informative posts ever on this side, and as I might add what I believe to also be very, very true.  Thank you for taking the effort to write that.



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186,235 The only married couples that I see having mind blowing sex are the ones who don't have children and even then it eventually fades unless the guy is a sex addict.



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186,234 Sorry 230 sounds good but I'm not buying it. Actually its the opposite, couples who are not obsessed with sex will last longer. Don't tell me that old couple that has been happily married for 45 years are having mind blowing sex.



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186,233 WHEN am I going to be free of this bitch already ...



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186,232 230...Thank you!



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186,231 My wife is hardly home. She's constantly out with friends. We have children. She leaves me to deal with them while she's off having fun. We've discussed this many times. I tell her it is not right. It's not fair to the kids. They have a mother but they rarely see their mother. And it's not fair to me. We don't have sex because she's not around.

We had this conversation again the other night. My wife said what she always says --- she'll be better in the future. Really she will. I should trust her on that.

I then said, okay, well how about we have sex right now as a way to start off this new you.

Her answer --- she can't have sex. No time. She has to get up early to meet some friends for breakfast...

Moan.



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186,230 A relationship will only be as good as the sex.

We can make a list about what brings and keeps two people together. We can talk about compatibility and shared ambitions and goals, but if a certain sexual chemistry isn't there, nothing in the world can make up for it.

There is a reason why sex is important for couples. With physical connection, we are able to gain greater insight to our subconscious connection.

We all experience intimacy differently, but we all crave relationships that cater to our current mental, spiritual and emotional states. This craving for intimacy binds us together.

Regardless of religious beliefs, there is no ignoring the cultural and historical importance of sex between lovers. It's used to consummate a marriage, achieve spiritual ascension or even open the third eye through kundalini awakening.

Sex is the vehicle for our love.

So, what happens when the sex just isn't great?

The first thing we have to do is get real with ourselves; we have be honest about why the sex isn't measuring up. Are we mentally or emotionally disconnected from our lover? Is there a lack of total trust? Are insecurities, from one or both of us, inhibiting our openness to the experience? Have we submitted to roles within the relationship yet?

All of these questions are necessary for discovering why the sex isn't measuring up, and what this means for the relationship.

I believe that the best sex and the best relationships are one and the same. Amazing sex—soul dipping, erotic, eye-gazing, toe-curling sex—can't be had with someone we only lust after. This type of sex can only happen when we have submitted to one another.

But what does this mean?

Submitting to one another is a mutual exchange of energy. It means that we are completely opening ourselves up to the other. It means that we trust the other person with the deepest parts of ourselves that we don't always reveal to outsiders.

This isn't about being submissive; it's about choosing to let down our walls.

It also means a willingness to discuss and accept the roles within a relationship. Each partner has specific strengths, according to the divine feminine or masculine. We can be the yin to the other person's yang.

When we battle against this balance, and try to do everything on our own or ignore the other's strength, then we will feel a constant tension between us. A feeling of uneasiness will translate in the bedroom as well. Because if we haven't fully submitted to one another outside of the bedroom, then there is no way that we will be able to do it between the sheets.

Sex is a barometer for the relationship.

Maybe sex isn't everything, but it is an awful lot. Intimacy is important because it connects two people, but sex establishes the roots of a partnership. It's where we openly and willingly submit to our lover; we let them into our space and bodies, which allows our energies to meet and grow together.

It's the closest we can be to another person.

Sometimes when we have the effortless feeling of just clicking with someone, it's because we're feeling a natural mutual submission of our souls coming together. When the sex is amazing, it means that we have already openly submitted to one another. We trust one another and feel comfortable enough to let someone see us in ways no one else will. (Even with the lights on.)

If we constantly feel the need to have sex in the dark, we have to question the depth of the relationship. If we can't uncover our bodies with our lover, then there isn't any way we can bare our souls to them.

The way sex speaks about our relationship is an aspect that can't easily be changed. We try different sexual positions, or try more ways to open up, but many times it just ends up feeling forced.

The reason why some couples have amazing sex is because of chemistry, which is often overlooked. What this word really refers to is the inexplicable magnetic attraction between two souls. It's not just physical attraction, but something deeper. When we have a high level of chemistry with someone, we also have a deeper connection, which results in a better and healthier relationship outside the bedroom.

Love is all about connection.

It's about letting someone in and being invited into another's soul. It's about choosing to surrender to the connection, attraction and love in general.

A deep, sexually romantic connection comes from the ability to communicate about the twisted and dark aspects of our souls. It's the knowledge that no matter what we do, or what we look like, our partner will still accept and love us.

When we feel loved and accepted, we also feel desired. Our lovers make us feel like they are insatiable for us.

The truest test of how good a relationship will be is how hot it burns in the bedroom. Because there's no doubt that if the sex is amazing, the relationship will be as well.



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186,229 I've been telling myself that I try holding on to this because I don't want to hurt him, but the truth is it hurts me just as much to admit that our relationship is disappearing. To watch someone you have shared so much love and happiness with for years turn into someone else before your eyes is so painful. Every time it's so much harder to believe in love again. I don't think I can anymore.



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186,228 I wish that every night could be like this one. I'm tired, I'm sore, my feet are swollen and blistered but I worked really hard, used my creativity, and made a whole bunch of people very happy tonight. No amount of money is equal to seeing that many smiling faces all in one place, especially when they're people that you love so much. It is an honor. It feels like magic.



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186,227 I have a best friend who will not let it go. I want her to so that we can continue being just friends but it gets difficult every now and then. I know she would like for things to be different but I don't feel that way. I feel like me being too nice about things leads her on or makes her belive there is more to this. I wish she could read my mind and my heart so she'd know the answer without me having to tell her.



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186,226 There is that line that couples cross where intimacy hits the road, yet they soldier on through.

They wish to keep up the illusion. They want the kids to be happy. They want the sister or brother to know that you have integrity. They are more comfortable with things as they are.

Does fulfillment in love exist in real time? I looked into her eyes and saw many eternities, so why am I bogged down with desire?  

There was a time when everything was possible. There were smoke screens then and there are smoke screens now.  

Smoke follows beauty



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186,225 My Marriage is void of a emotional & intimate connection.......so basically I'm fuck'd...........52 M



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186,224 To receive a message from you would make my whole week



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186,223 You walk in the house  and clearly see I am depressed.  You add to it. You complain.  I feel like shit.    I go am so stuck I can't move.   I



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186,222 I feel you on getting used for emotional support. I feel like the only reason my friends care about my moods is because that's the moment i decide to stop doing so much for others and do shit for me.

I see the flaws in my own behavior, but it still flashes through my mind



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186,221 If you come up to me and tell me you like my shape, I'm gonna stop listening and wait for you to leave



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186,220 How does a respectable woman dress? What does that look like? honest answers.



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186,219 I love you daddy thank you so much for taking care of me



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186,218 Even though it's easy to become absorbed in my daily life, I still have enough lucidity to understand that my life is definitely on a "path," one whose direction I dictate with my choices each and every day.

I see the way God has worked in my life, and I've thanked Him for it. It sucked when my mom died when I was 7. And it sucked having a family that doesn't talk about their issues for years on end. Of course it sucked having to couch hop for 2 years when I turned 18, after figuring out that my dad was the proverbial "man behind the curtain," when it came to my childhood.

But it taught me how to fight for myself and my place in this world. It taught me how to get a fucking apartment, that's for sure. And it taught me to value things, not because of how much they cost, but how much they mean to you. I've lost almost every sentimental item I've ever had, and the few I've salvaged, I cherish to no end. Even a desk and chair may mean nothing to some, but on the other side of homelessness, having furniture *at all* that's mine (not my parents', MINE) means a lot to me.

Now, my focus is on not letting my emotions control me. It's actually really hard to acknowledge that you're feeling something and then to look past it. Especially with negative emotions. If one could personify negative emotions, they would be really whiny, pushy individuals, who would do anything to satisfy their needs. Does that sound like someone you should listen to?

Keep on strolling....I guess it's easier to look at life that way when you can. Like a walk down a sidewalk. Some days it rains, some days the streets are icy, but some days it's really, really nice.

23/F



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186,217 God dammit!  Stop asking people to pray for your family!



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186,216 I'm so sick and tired of the excuses. I hate him so much sometimes. I just want him gone from my life and forget that he drained me mentally with his bullshit.
I feel like I'm just around for support in his fucked up life and to please him when he feels less of himself.



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186,215 Facebook profile pictures and a year old relationship.  You choose a pic that doesn't include her, she changes hers to not include you.  When you put one of you two up, she'll update hers accordingly.  You're 40 years old.  Aren't you embarrassed?  Makes me feel better knowing there's no way this is going to last...not to mention the domestic incident.



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186,214 secret - life goes on continuously. Make no mistake, it keeps revolving



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186,213 SO SAD to see Single Dads trying to use their kids to pick up a woman! With that "Look at me, I'm a great Dad" act!



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186,212 I'm starting to wonder if I DO trust her.



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186,211 I once encouraged my then boyfriend to have sex with my best friend while I was also naked in the bed with them. I thought it would be fun. But I freaked and started crying. I made them stop. Be careful what you wish for.



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186,210 My husband keeps verbally shitting on me. I wish a car wash could help...



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186,209 Birds keep shitting on my car.  Back to the car wash.



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186,208 I would never share my man with another woman.  Fuck that shit.  If that makes me sexually "not open" oh well.



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186,207 These gypsy moth caterpillars raging through my area this summer are the fucking worst. They eat all the leaves on the trees and make it look like winter in mid June. :(



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186,206 186032- That hasn't been the case for me at all...I had a number in mind for my house and my realtor suggested that I ask for $20000 more than what I was asking...I had a contract for my house in a week. Our realtor was great! (Oh...and no I'm not a realtor!..lol)I guess the secret part of this it that I would have easily sold it for way less...I hated that house!



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186,205 The charges against Julian Assange have been dropped. He will soon be a free man. Why would the US be in favor of this? Because it is part of a complicated deal. He will return to the US and give evidence that Seth Rich, the murdered Democrat staffer, was the source of the Wikileaks emails.

1) It proves that Russia was not involved.

2) It shows that the Dems committed an atrocious crime - murdering one of their own for revenge.

The Hillary camp should be very worried.



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186,204 The worst person I know is... my wife.



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186,203 "He was such a tool. He kept making me really uncomfortable so I kicked his ass out! I hate guys like that! Someone should really say something…"

*Literally fucks him less than 12 hours later and starts crying about how he used her*

Like I said before, the E-xperiment is over.



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186,202 ... and then there is the opposite, when the man (me) want to have sex with the wife, and she is just, well just there



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186,201 Your girlfriend is fat and ugly. I cringe when I see her 80s makeup. Sweetie. Watch some tutorials. Get out of the 80s.

She also has no idea you'll forever and always be in love with me and would drop her in a hot second if I'd take you back.



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186,200 John, I think you are really a pretty unapologetic piece of shit. You have lied to me, stolen my love just to throw it back at me unceremoniously, and youve placed me in a neat little folder labeled "last resort drunken fuck." This isnt me "flipping out" or creating drama. This is me telling you what you already know full well: you do not deserve a moment of my time. You do not deserve my attention. You sure as hell dont deserve to use my pussy and rush me out of your apartment and life afterwards like the shameful secret you have made me into. I wish I'd never met you. All youve done is hurt me and treat me like a goddamn whore. Im guessing thats all ANY woman is to you, and it is something i wish id never learned. Ive been unable to get close to anyone after what you did to me. You destroyed my trust, and made me suspicious of every man I meet. You took, in such a cruel manner, a part of me for yourself that I will never get back. You still have it but it means nothing to you and it never will. How do you sleep at all with the shitty way you go through your life? How many people have you hurt besides me? No wonder you spend your free time soaked in liquor...if I were such a callous, thoughtless, and selfish person I would be drunk every night too. Thats the only way Id be able to pretend I was FINE with all the pain left in the wake of my recreation. So yeah dude...fuck you. I hope you never win her. She can do WAY BETTER and we both KNOW IT.



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