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188,399 My ex husband is getting a divorce. He came to my house and told me. His wife left him, with the kids, and he's struggling. Their relationship has been rocky since the beginning as she never trusted him as they started joking up while we were still married. This was 8 years ago or so.
I'm friends with him now. We have kids and we get along but I have to admit I felt a certain amount of glee when he told me.
One because his soon to be ex wife harassed the fuck out of me during our amicable divorce, saying things like she won and that he chose the right person. (I kicked him out when j found out he cheated on me) Two because now maybe he'll know how hard it will be to raise kids alone. Even though he was around, 95% of the parenting has fallen on me as I'm the custodial parent.



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188,398 392  Live beneath your means, and save the difference.  Start a 401K at your workplace and place enough in it to at least get your company's match, because that is truly free money.  For a couple of month's track every dime you spend. You will see many places you can cut by to save money without drastically changing your comfort or lifestyle.  Save as much as you can while you are young, because you can never catch up when you get older.  Invest in broad market ETF's, and avoid mutual funds.  You will get same / better performance and significantly less expenses.



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188,397 I love that Magnum condoms are really tight and hurt me! I really never knew I was that big.



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188,396 Being an addict is great, because everyone's worried about you, but no one can hear what you're saying.



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188,395 My advice, never give your money over to a financial institution. They are in the business of taking as much money as they can from clients. Didn't matter what company I used, they kept skimming and skimming. They are ripoff artists.

They create specialized instruments you can invest in. They had me buy into a fund where if the dow fell, I'd make money. This was in 2006. Woo hoo, the market crashed in 2007. When I went to cash out, the fund was down 20%. How the hell could that happen? Because the firms make up the prices of these specialized trades. If I want to buy in, it's expense, if I want to sell, the price is low.


I bought into a another fund where they only invested in very conservative stocks AND they promised to always buy puts on every stock they bought. In other words, the fund could only go up and never down. The market tanked. The fund lost 50%. The fund managers said they decided not to buy puts that one month. In other words, it was either fraud about their investment promise. Or they outright lied and took my money.

Another one. I bought into a specialized instrument that I was told was a bucket of US Treasury bonds. Extremely conservative trade. Not much can go wrong. Except it lost half the value in a year. I demanded to know why? I had them send me a detailed break down of the trades hidden inside the specialized instrument. Turns out the managers of the trade were buying call options of foreign currencies. How the hell does that translate into US Treasury bonds? No, these morons were swinging for the fences with my money.

They are all ripoffs. It's the culture. They take wild speculative bets with other people's money hoping for a miracle. Then they lie about their intentions. They deserve to lose their licenses. I used to work in that industry, I had a Series 7. I know the laws. They are breaking the laws. Stay away. It's like the Wild West.



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188,394 You know, it's really annoying that we're all expected to be eternally considerate of people with children. It's like, why? Children are annoying, that's why I didn't have them. So why should I be subject to the wants and needs of yours? Not everyone wants children around, or thinks they're cute, or has the patience to deal with them. And yet if someone so much as breathes a negative word about a child, it's a witch hunt.

I'm not saying people shouldn't have children or that parenting isn't hard. It's not realistic to expect someone to control everything a child does all the time. But if they're annoying the shit out of me, I should be able to express that without a million people telling me I'm heartless.



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188,393 Start a 401k



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188,392 What is the one piece of financial advice you would give to someone in their 30's and 40s?



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188,391 I have a strained relationship with my sister, who is my elder of 13 years. She left when I was young to go to college in ATL (we live in MA), and since then I don't really see much of her. I still remembered how much I cried at the airport that day. We were so close back then.

The thing is, now she sees herself as a parental figure in my life, because our mother has been dead since I was 7 and our father is a deadbeat alcoholic who checked out for most of my childhood. But I don't want another parent figure, I want a sister.

I want her see me for who I am, without feeling the need to guide me. That time is done. I need her to respect me enough to let me make my own decisions, and without feeling the need to judge whether my problems are worthy of being called so. I need to be able to trust her, even though she doesn't understand the things I go through like addiction and mental illness.

It's sad, I wish we could be closer. A friend of mine told me that it's up to me to make that happen, because I'm younger and that somehow makes it my choice. It's so hard to think about though, because we're so different.

I'm gonna try. And I'll do it with the understanding that her way of expression isn't the same as mine. I hope this works



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188,390 You know how I know my job isn't the one? I know because when I think about the things I do that are important, I think about what I do when I'm not at work. Working right now, for me, is just a paycheck. Even an education, as enjoyable as it is, is a means to an end (a bigger paycheck).

God, I hate the rat race. I'd rather live in the woods and worry about bugs and predators and where to find food than this shite.



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188,389 After moving for my job, my wife tells me that in a perfect world, she wouldn't work again.  We can get by.  No mortgage, minimal tuition for school.

Part of me would like the additional money for more vacations and such but another part of me kind of likes it.  She might not have the vision of the 1950s housewife that I've concocted but this all might be fun. :)



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188,388 Trying to find happiness in another person, or anything external will only disappoint you in the end. I had to learn this lesson the hard way.

Expecting another to fill the void (with a person or object) will only bring despair and emptiness.  If only I could go back "to sleep ", but I can't, I'm awake now.

Look within and love yourself first...



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188,387 If you are having problems in your relationship. Like I am.
Take a good hard look at your inner self.
DO NOT try to find happiness. Try to find meaning in your life.
Happiness is a symptom of finding meaning.



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188,385 20 years ago a woman in her 60s told me, "Youth is wasted on the young."

Wow, was she right.  If I knew then what I know now...



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188,384 "Merit" is not ability.
Merit is character.....it's that simple.



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188,383 No...188250...that was not me...but I do think of you and I do miss you, often.



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188,382 If the story is different you should have told me instead of saying nothing.



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188,381 I've worked with Africans, a some of them were fine and some of them fucking annoying. I don't judge the whole race/ethnicity/nation etc. based on the dozen or so I've met in my life, good or bad. And for fuck's sake, stop judging/stereotyping African Americans already! Calling them dumb/lazy is like calling all whites backwoods hicks! Honestly, I'm so tired of these racist comments. Also, meeting a couple of Africans, and stereotyping them based on very limited experience  (unless you lived in their country, speak their language and understand their culture /history ) doesn't make you an expert on Africans...



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188,380 8361-- Yes. She has/is cheating on you. Take a deep breath, hold on and see a lawyer asap. I am so sorry you are going through this.



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188,379 The best black people I have worked with aren't Americans, they're Africans.  They're highly educated, polite, intelligent, have a tremendous work ethic, and have a sense of dignity and self-respect.

And you know what African blacks call American blacks?  They call them cotton pickers, because that's all the Africans think the American blacks are able to do after shunning education and making excuses for why they haven't succeeded.

If you really want to be shocked, ask an African what he thinks of an A,Eric an black person.



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188,378 I swear to god, Trump could find the cure for cancer, pay off the entire national debt, and bring world peace, and the left would still be stamping their feet and throwing their toys around because TRUMP DID IT. Their fixation is so amusing. It's funny the same way it's funny when your two-year-old throws a tantrum, realizes you're not paying attention, picks himself up and throws himself down closer to you.



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188,377 More and more I get confused. I'll come into the family room and sit in front of the TV. I'll have the remote in my hand. I'll want to watch a show but I'm not sure what to do next. This is my mind going. :(



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188,376 It's usually poor whites who complain about affirmative action. Most of us don't care. Believe me.



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188,375 My heart is failing. Not in an emotional sense, but in a physical sense. Figures, one way or another I should die of a broken heart.



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188,374 My wife tells me I'm picking on her so she'll view me as annoying and she'll have no other choice but to divorce me.

No honey, when I point out you put a dish towel on the stove while the burner was still on and it burst into flames, it's not that I'm trying to be annoying, it's that YOU WILL BURN DOWN THE HOUSE AND KILL ALL OF US.

Think about that, you could have burned down the house, but the problem, according to you, is that I'm annoying for pointing it out.



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188,373 You never ASKED. you just heard, and ran with it. You accused. The story is different than what you think.



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188,372 I think you're misunderstanding that race alters the perception of what one believes someone's abilities are. Most people won't admit that it plays a factor, because it means admitting that you submit to racial bias. The thing is, everyone does, to a certain degree.

As far as the asshole argument, it really feels like an avoidance tactic. It's always those shitty people *over there* isn't it?

And honestly, it's not like black people just aren't able to succeed because we're black. If that was the case there wouldn't be successful black people in the U.S. at all. I'm just saying it's a common factor that makes things more difficult. Not impossible.



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188,371 As a white man, when I say "people should be judged on their merits," I believe "merit" means "ability."  Race isn't a merit.

Here's some advice to people of color.  If you feel a white man is judging you based on your race, then it's not because he's white, it's because he's an asshole.

Every race has assholes.  White people who think black people are bad because of their skin color are assholes.  Black people who think white people are racist by virtue of our skin color are assholes.  They're assholes not because they're black or white, but because they're racists.  

In fact, claiming that you can't be an asshole because you're white or black therefore makes you an asshole, by virtue of your having just said a racist statement.

Some more life advice:

1) Keep away from assholes
2) Don't be an asshole
3) Blaming your failures on other people might mean you're an asshole.



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188,370 It's interesting reading about white peoples' perspectives on things. I legitimately don't understand where they're coming from a lot of the time, so it's nice to have insight, when it's actually given and given clearly.

Like apparently, white people think that black people get things for free? This is usually in reference to affirmative action. The thing about AA is that a certain *percentage* of slots in schools/workplaces are given to POC's, because *every other slot is filled by a white person.* So that means, if you didn't make it into a school/job, it's because your grades/resumes weren't good enough to make the cut.

Do you think we should lower that percentage? Should only 1 of every thousand people in an institution be a POC?

The thing is, when you say "We want people to be judged based on their merit" you're not understanding that people use your race to judge your merit. That's where all those little stereotypes come into play, which makes these judgements biased based on the culture one lives in.

"When you're accustomed to privilege, equality feels like oppression."



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188,369 I have two biggest fears.  The first one, the one that I actually tell people sometimes, is needles.

The second, and perhaps worse fear, is the fear of bugs crawling into my vagina.

Is that just me...?



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188,368 I wish you would quit lying to me...I know you sucked him off...more than once. You're married to me. Tell me the truth. You didn't just fuck..you never do.



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188,367 Liberals are loosing their minds  Black lives matter are hailed  but if you are proud of your Caucasian heritage you are a bigot and a racist.They believe-or so they tell us-in free speech but if one is proud of being white it is hate speech.If you march to demand respect for your southern heritage you are a white supremacist.You can have a black Miss America but a A White  Miss America is racist.  You can have a Black Howard University but can you imagine the outrage if a White University is even mentioned? Now they want to rewrite history because it might "offend" some people. The south was half the American population during the civil war - but their heritage must be ignored.Let get one thing straight the war was not fought to free slaves it was fought over  money.In their history books the Yankees were pro-black and the Southerners were anti-black! Foreigners shake their heads when they hear all this bullshit on CNN and other liberal media.History can not  be changed- it is what it is.



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188,366 My ex boss has this creepy way of saying exactly what you want to hear.  It's very manipulative and it usually gets her what she wants out of people. She's very complimentary when she needs something, or she'll figure out what the other person needs and deliver.  She's very sly and savvy.

It completely freaks me out and reminds me of my mother when I was a child.  She had once given me the advice to tell people what they want to hear, not the truth.

36/f who can't comfortably lie to people. Thank God.



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188,365 361 - I feel for you and attempting to deny what you now know to be true is futile. Please do this, take a deep breath, calm down and relax and go into protection mode. While she is away, put all you financial shit into shape, make sure you have money saved, any liability in your name only paid off, etc. Do not just file for divorce now, let her run this charade on you for as long as it takes to get your house in order. The more time the better if needed. Back down and let her do her own thing if it's just shacking up with some guy. You need to be level headed. Also get a divorce lawyer ready to go just in case she files first.



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188,364 At a triathlon event, when the athletes make the transition from swimming to biking, many change out of their wet swim gear and put on biking clothes. This means getting naked outdoors in the parking lot. It's particularly gratifying to watch my hometown's annual triathlon. Ordinary soccer moms, many who I know, get naked for all to see.



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188,363 The fear of death controls me. I can't handle it. Thinking about my mortality causes my brain to panic and my heart to race. To compensate, I've always known that when I turn 60, I would end my life myself, my way. It's hard for others to understand. I fear dying, so I will make myself die. But it will be on my terms, and it will no longer be an unknown to me. I'm 59.



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188,362 I wonder how many people will go blind because of cheap eclipse glasses. But at least someone made a profit selling junk. Yeah America!



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188,361 She returned home from her sister's. I said I know her sister wasn't there this time or the last time. She stared at me and didn't say a word. Then she got up and left again in the car. I have no idea where she is. Her phone is off and I can't track her. I think this is the end.



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188,360 If/when I win Powerball, I am getting a divorce.  I wonder how many men are eagerly buying tickets with the same thoughts...



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188,359 I would like to build an underground house. On the street level it would look like a small rundown shack. But when you descend the stairs, there would be an underground palace, with plenty of rooms, a swimming pool, grow lights for a garden, built in TV screen constantly showing beautiful images. It would be peaceful. It would be tax free because in my town, only above ground space gets taxed. Most of all, it would be my secret.



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188,358 Watching House Hunters is interesting. I watch it because I fantasize about the house I'll never be able to afford. But now I watch it because it's interesting to see the dynamics of some people's marriages. So many bossy, demanding wives unwilling to let the husband have an equal say in the process. They are so bitchy!

The worst ones are the ones who admit at the very beginning of the show that the choice needs to make HER happy because the husband needs to keep her happy. And then at the end of the show they gush about how the house makes them happy, and how they got all the things they wanted and all the things the husband didn't get. I wonder how many of these marriages end in divorce because of these selfish twats and the dream house they did all these renovations to ends up back on the market within 5 years.

These women are spoiled assholes. I'll be honest in admitting I'm a little salty about them being able to buy a house and not me. I'd let my man have an equal say and make sure he gets some of that things on his wish list and I get some of mine. I could never treat him like those women treat their husbands. What the fuck is wrong with them?!



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188,357 What the hell is wrong with my wife?

Two stories come to mind for this week.

One. I overheard her explaining the solar eclipse to an 8 year old. "See, our regular sun leaves and the second sun comes in. It pushes our regular sun out of the way. The second sun isn't as bright, so it gets dark outside. But then the first sun pushes back and takes its place again in the sky."

Two. She ordered a sweater online from a little store in Florida. The next day we got a call from the credit card company saying our credit cards were compromised. There were all sorts of weird charges. It was a pain in the ass. We had to cancel the cards, which meant changing the card number with all the other services billed to the card each month, like Netflix and so on. That was a few months ago. The other day my wife was wearing a new sweater. It looked similar to the one she ordered from the shady store. I asked where she got the new sweater. She matter of factly said she ordered it from the same place as last time. I pointed out that last time they used our card number to illegally buy things for themselves. Didn't that convince her NOT to shop there ever again? She told me no, don't be silly, an online store would never fraudulently use anyone's credit card. She said that, even though that's exactly what happened to us. I have no response for her. It's not worth it.

She is the dumbest bag of potatoes I have ever met. What the hell was I thinking in marrying her?



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188,356 The thing I don't like about men nowadays is no one keeps their word. They say something today that they mean but tomorrow they no longer mean it. Wtf I thought a man was supposed to be good for his word? Why should I trust u if you change your mind like the wind? Why even say anything if you won't mean it the next day? And Im not someone who tries to get people to promise things, these men say it all on their own, but they don't come through. They fucking bitch out.



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188,355 When I think about Barbie , I picture a thin , tall women with natural blonde hair and a very fake tan and fake boobs, driving an expensive convertible, living on a very big expensive home dress in expensive designer clothes and last with a very hot looking boyfriend.  There's a lot of bottle bleach blondes where I live , the majority look all the same they even dress the same tees and jeans or yoga pants, a far cry from the glamorous Barbie I picture as a kid.



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188,354 17 years ago I was walking in the city delivering some paperwork for my job.  It was a Wednesday, and I had just met the woman who would be my wife the previous Friday night.  I was thinking about this woman I had just met, and how much we clicked, and I knew we had something special between us.  

I arrived at a corner and turned, and I stopped and stared across the street.  In an incredible coincidence...

...there she was, the only other woman I had ever really tried to connect with in my life.  I hadn't spoken to her in 3 years.  She had been too busy moving her law career forward, and I called off the chase.  But we really had gotten along.  We were just in different stages of our lives.

But there she was.  Standing there, looking around like she was trying to figure out where she was going.

I realized something in that moment.  I could feel God giving me a choice as clear as I'm writing these words.  God was telling me I could continue my life with the woman I just met five days ago... or I could continue my life with the woman I knew who was across the street.

I knew that all I had to do to make my choice was to cross that street.  But the road suddenly seemed as wide as a canyon.  If I crossed it, my life would continue with the woman I had known.  But if I chose not to cross, my life would go on with the woman I had just met five days ago.

I could hear a voice saying that once I crossed, I could never return again.  The woman I had just met would be going on her own way, out of my life.

I knew that I only had a few seconds to make my decision as I stared at her.  But the voice said I had to make my decision quickly.  This was my window to decide.  But it didn't take me long to decide.

"The new woman has more love in her than the old woman," I thought. "The old woman can be jealous and guarded and competitive compared to the new woman.  I can't deny that she thinks more of herself than of others."

It was true.  I could "feel" the love and the goodness and the kindness in the new woman.

And with that, I turned to the left and continued walking down the block.  I never crossed that street.

17 years later, and my wife and I are happily married with two children who are both tops in their classes and attractive enough to be courted by modelling agents.  As parents and in marriage we've hit the jackpot, but we've been financially very unlucky.  We're $100,000 in debt from when I lost my job for two years, and this is not including the house.  But we get by.

Thanks to social media I've connected with the old flame.  We never dated, so my wife will never know our old flirtationship.  She's a managing partner in a major law firm.  She owns a 6500-square foot house on 6 acres that she paid $700,000 for.  She has two Porsches in her garage.

And she's still single and childless.

I sit and I think as I wonder how I'm going to pay my bills that had I crossed that street, I'd be living in an estate and driving a Porsche.  But I probably wouldn't be very happy.

I guess that was my choice, happy and poor, or rich and miserable.



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188,353 I'm kind of scared of the eclipse. Not for myself, but for my four year old. Looking at the sun for even a few seconds can damage your eyes permanently. I know if I tell him not to look at the sun, the first thing he will do is look at the sun. He won't really be able to comprehend the consequences and why he shouldn't. So I need to think of somewhere to take my kids for three hours tomorrow where they will not have the option of looking at the sun. I can't just stay home because we have large windows everywhere.



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188,352 I have only ever encountered one transgender person in my life (that I know of). It was almost twenty years ago, so there wasn't as much awareness as there is now. I lived in a very small town and was vaguely aware that "cross dressers" existed. I was in my early 20s and was working in a fast food restaurant. An average looking woman with blonde hair  in a pink dress came up to order, but when she spoke, she had a man's voice. She was obviously a man dressed as a woman. I remember being a little surprised, but that was about it. I took her order, she paid and took her food and that was it. It never occurred to me to judge her or think of her differently than anybody else.

Fast forward to now with the transgender movement. I'm pretty open minded. I'm all for people being allowed to use the bathroom they feel comfortable in. I will do my best to use the pronoun they prefer. I'm not too concerned with how other people choose to live their lives.

But... I don't really get it. Obviously there are some physical differences between men and women. Besides having different genitals, men tend to be larger, have more muscle mass, body hair and deeper voices. Women tend to be smaller and can grow babies. But so much of what distinguishes one gender from the other in our society is really just tradition. There is no biological reason that women can wear makeup and nail polish and dresses and drink strawberry daiquiris and men can't. There is no biological reason for men to drink beer, wear baseball caps and play video games. With the rise of feminism, gender disparity is shrinking even further. Men can raise children and do housework, women can run companies and excel at sports. What sort of fulfillment are they seeking from life as another gender? Is it just the physical body? Is it the way men vs women are treated by society?

This isn't meant to question the validity of anybody's choices or identity. I just honestly don't get it.



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188,351 When I was 9, my so called best friend told me she was thin like a Barbie doll and I was a Cabbage Patch kid.

27 years later, I live in a city surrounded by women who are lithe, tan, with dainty features, straight blonde hair, and Coachella-perfect fashion. I'm still the same frumpy grizzled Cabbage Patch kid with a bulbous nose and bulldog jowls. My personality only counts for so much at my age.



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188,350 I wonder what will happen when Black Lives Matter realize they are a creation of, and a tool of, rich white liberals. They don't give a shit about black people, but it's in their interests to foment hatred and anger against someone--anyone--else. That keeps blacks voting as a bloc, so the liberals can count on that power.

BLM, wake up from the dream time. Your organization isn't about you, it's about the rich white liberals that allow you to exist for their own interests. And if you piss them off, they will shut you down. Fair warning has been given.



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188,349 Jesus tapdancing CHRIST.

I am TIRED of your BULLSHIT.

It is one thing after another.

I was JUST getting myself out a depressive spiral and feeling as though I might be able to get back on track with my own life.

And then you message me with a teaser about how your father said something and it has your mind at unease and you aren't going to tell me until you come home several hours later, so now I have to stew and wonder what the fuck your shitty parents have done this time.

It isn't your fault.  I'll give you that.

But holy FUCK this garbage keeps happening and has been happening for as long as I've known you.

I do NOT want to deal with it anymore.

I do NOT care if your dad is going to die or something anymore.

I don't care.

I don't care anymore.

I don't want it in my life anymore.

I don't deserve to be in this garbage.



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188,348 My very first live-in BF found me on FB about a month ago and we started skyping. We were together when I was 21-24 and he was 19-23. I loved him so very much. So very, very much. I got pregnant 2 years in but he freaked out and I got an abortion to appease him. We never really recovered and , as these things go, we broke up and went on to live our lives. He got married, bought a house near his parents',  had two children, then after 15 years with his wife, got divorced.
I moved 4500 miles away from him (not because of him, though), became a citizen of the US, got married, got divorced after 15 months, never had children.

Today, while skyping, he introduced me to his 14 y-o and his 8 y-o. Lovely girls. He also told me his parents used to love me (I honestly thought they hated my guts) and that his mom used to tell his ex-wife she had nothing on me (pretty terrible stuff)... And I cried. A lot. "Meeting" his kids and hearing that stuff about his parents felt like I caught a glimpse of the life I could have had if he had risen to the occasion (his words, not mine).
All these years later, I still love him. So very, very much.



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188,347 I'm not a Nazi, and plenty of women are sexist.



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188,346 As a man I have to say men suck. It is in like men have cornered the market on sucking. Whenever I sit around and think very hard on the subject I come to the same conclusion every time:  people suck.  Men have their ways of needling the women in their lives. There are certain things  which drive us crazy, like why do we always have to cheerfully do all the heavy lifting,  and I mean lifting stuff moving stuff doing jobs that seem to be relegated to the realm of being male. I get so tired of having to move stuff. I get tired of having to fix stuff.  People just want me to endlessly do this stuff with a smile and that's okay.  Please don't take it the wrong way when we  curse and slam stuff around.



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188,345 I don't love you. I haven't in a long time.



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188,344 All men I date are assholes.

Correction: All men everywhere are assholes.



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188,343 My wife and I haven't been getting along. It started a few months ago. My wife had gone away for the weekend and when she came home, she let into me. It was like overnight she decided I wasn't good enough for her. She began picking on everything I did. She hinted at divorce. She became very secretive. She changed the password on her phone and email. I didn't understand. What changed?

My wife went to visit her sister this weekend. It's about 3 hours away. At first I thought good, maybe she just needs to get away for a bit to clear her head. Then I was reminded, that was where my wife went that weekend when the troubles first started, she had gone to her sister's. Maybe it wasn't a good thing that my wife was once again with her sister.

Today I decided to call my wife to see how she was doing and when she would be back. But she didn't pick up. That was odd. She always picks up.

I searched for her on Find My Iphone. I could see she was at her sister's house and clearly her phone was working.

Maybe the ringer was turned off?

I then called her sister's cell, hoping she could hand the phone to my wife.

Kick in the head time. The sister answered. We exchanged pleasantries. I then asked if I could speak to my wife. The sister was instantly confused. The sister explained she and her family were away on vacation in Maine. My wife wasn't with them.

I said, but my wife is at your house.

The sister said that is news to her. She never spoke to my wife about staying at their house while they were on vacation.

Suddenly concerned/suspicious, I asked the sister if my wife stayed with her a few months ago for the weekend. The sister said no, not that she remembered. She asked what weekend. I said Memorial Day. The sister said she and her family were again away on Memorial Day.

The picture was becoming clear. When my wife's sister is away, my wife has secretly been using her house.

For what purpose? My mind started racing. I can only think the worst. My wife grew up in that town. A former boyfriend lives there. He is married. Can't rendezvous at his house. But then my wife's sister's house is available for the weekend. It's all fitting together.

I can't drive there now. It's too far away. By the time I get there, my wife would have already left to head back home. I'm sitting here waiting for her to arrive. I think my marriage is over.



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188,342 I wash my vj and derriere and the start of a shower and again at the end. Double protection!



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188,341 Facebook people who put up a 10 year old picture of themselves because they are now old and wrinkled and can't deal with it.... lol.



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188,340 Ouuuu, that was a little awkward Friday night.
I'm quiet and unassuming and just was watching the fun of my friends when I tried to talk with you. You gave me a look of total disdain.  That was till the end when I paid the bill and Jonathan mentioned I owned the company. I could see the change in your face and walking out you were trying to engage me. Too late, I had the measure of you by that point.



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188,339 I have been trying to leave this house for the last 15 years and yet here I still am. I wonder how many people are stuck places they don't want to be by circumstances beyond their control?



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188,338 An amazing testimony on some wishful thinking that I hoped would bring my wife back to me.. My name is Matthew Elijah and I used to be married to a lovely and caring wife,with two kids, despite having a tiny dick that I could barely inseminate my wife with. A very big problem occurred in my family seven months ago,between me and my wife so terrible that she took the case to court for a divorce she said that she never wanted to stay with me again,and that she did not love me anymore So she packed out of my house and made me and my children passed through severe pain. I tried all my possible means to get her back,after much begging,but all to no avail and she confirmed it that she has made her decision,and she never wanted to see me again. So on one evening,as i was coming back from work,i met an old friend of mine who asked of my wife So i explained every thing to her,so she told me that the only way i can get my wife back,is to do some wishful thinking.  It didn't work for her, but at least she didn't waste her money on a hocus pocus spell caster.  I had no other choice than to follow her advice.  Wishful thinking didn't work for me either, but at least I didn't waste my money on some loser in Nigeria who should try casting a few spells to improve his country first.



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188,337 So spellcasters reunite emotional, physical, sex abusers with the people who see their true colors and flee from them. Hmmm  .. Where were you when my mum was going about it with my  dad ? Oh that's right you weren't around when the internet connected..



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188,336 deleted. spell caster poster, please stop posting. you are being an ass.



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188,335 The Soviet Union was a failed experiment. You can't take 13 different cultures and blend them together as one nation. It doesn't work.

The United States is also turning out to be a failed experiment. Too many different viewpoints. The country should be disbanded. Let people in Virginia do what they want. It's their right. If they want a statue, that's nobody's business but theirs. You people in New York need to butt out. Go live your lives and stop judging others.

Me personally, I'm happy to be living in a southern state. We grow the food. When the country breaks apart, we'll have plenty to eat. What will you people in New York eat? Stocks and bonds? Your psychiatrists?

Hey northerners, leave us alone.



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188,334 Saying all white people are bad is like saying all black people are thieves. Oh the irony. Democrats are arguing against bigotry, by making bigoted hateful statements themselves.



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188,333 I'm white.  I'm supposed to feel guilty about something some other white guy did a hundred years ago?

Guess what?  I don't feel guilty.  Most whites don't feel guilty.  I don't feel guilty because I didn't do it and you weren't the victim,

We know all you're doing is trying to oppress us so you can grab power.  Funny thing, though - the Democrats are led by whites, who you vote for constantly.  We had a black president and two black attorney generals, and isn't it odd how they never did shit about police brutality?  You wonder why?  Because they know you'll vote for them regardless.

You know the difference between successful people and losers?  Successful people blame their failures on themselves.  Losers blame their failures on other people.



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188,332 It saddens me to see people grasping at straws to make their point or justify an injustice. We are like rats desperately chewing, digging tunnels, growing tumors



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188,331 It's tragic to be human.



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188,330 White people have enjoyed a tremendous amount of privilege for a very long time. Now white supremacists are freaking out that minorities are going to take that privilege away. But Nazi rallies are not going to help. Nobody likes Nazis. Nazi rallies are only going to make white people more
Hated. Being Nazis is what is going to cause white people to lose their privelege. We are doing it to ourselves.



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188,329 I don't understand what you are trying to say.



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188,328 A man holds up three fingers and says how many fingers am I holding up?   You answer three, and then he proceeds to beat the shit out of you until you answer correctly (some number other than three)  You're free to think whatever you want of course, but there is only one truth, aka the truth. Fortunately there is a well-known book that tackles this very subject, so people will not be so easily blindsided as they have been in the past by these shenanigans. (Like, how many fingers am I holding up right now?)  ;)



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188,327 I try to do the NY Times puzzles online. I can't do them all though. Some won't run on my machine because I don't have the latest version of some software package and I can't download that package because apparently my machine is too old and is not supported.

Interesting though. See what's happening? The New York Times assumes everyone has the latest greatest computer with all the updates... the New York Times assumes everyone is just like them... a rich white person with enough money to buy a new computer every year.

I think the New York Times is racist. They bash Trump. But they are no different.



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188,326 311:  There are women like that.  I have to make the first move every time. He rarely ever instigates sex.  He says it's because he doesn't want to be turned down. I've never turned him down.  Let me tell ya, it gets boring being the one to start it every time.  He asks what my fantasy is and I tell him, "Just take me, grab me like you want me and can't wait to get my clothes off".  Never happens. Feels like he's just a sex doll that I always have to blow up.



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188,325 Don't get so caught up in the past that you can't see what is here. Now.



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188,324 323. It's just mild OCD, it's very common, don't read too much into it. Start taking a photo of your stove before you leave. It'll have the time and date stamp so you'll know. It might not be enough at first, so if you still have to go back, compare the stove and the photo, then take another picture that you can check later if you need to. Stick with it, it will get better.



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188,323 I'm very tired of driving away form my house, only to turn around a minute later, return home, and check if the stove is off. What the hell is wrong with me? I think it means I have no self-esteem. I don't trust myself.



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188,322 In a past life, I would have been a very good executioner. I would have no problem chopping off people's heads. It wouldn't affect me at all to see them cry and beg for mercy. You committed a crime. The sentence is beheading. BAM. Your head is chopped off by my sharp blade. Next.



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188,321 Like it or not (and in fact I don't like it) people have the right to think what they want, swastikas included.

And the rest of us have the right to ignore them.

We should not shut down the Neo-Nazis. Let them have their voice. This is what America is all about. I am not a believer in their cause, but if we take away their ability to have opinions, then one day someone might take away my ability to have opinions.

Democrats, you are going down a very dangerous path. You are being very short-sighted and in fact anti-America to demand the "Unite The Right" groups be shut down.



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188,320 If evil white people were so racist in the USA , why we had a biracial president not for one but two terms on the White House? I don't see many Native Americans involved in politics, media , sports etc... but I hardly hear them complain. What about that many Africans that immigrate to this country, a lot of them do very well , they have great jobs and are very educated? Isn't Oprah one of the richest women on the planet ? She is not just black but a women , there are plenty of wealthy black athletes and entertainers, Beyoncé and JZ seem very popular and a lot people listen to their music regardless of race .  Oh yes those racist white people are keeping you from accomplishing your goals .

Brown person who hates whiners.



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188,319 White people have had it made for centuries, so maybe we could just sit the fuck down for once.

It also doesn't help your cause when you wear fucking swastikas and klan robes while carrying torches.



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188,318 No one is allowed to say it publicly anymore. Therefore I'll say it here. What's wrong with white people asking for fairness? Why is this a bad thing? Minorities were repressed for 100 years. Some in the ranks spoke up and said it wasn't fair they had to sit in the back of the bus. Good for them. Because you know what? It wasn't fair. I'm glad they spoke up and had the rules changed.

Now it's 50 years later. "White" companies can't get a government contract, it is allocated for minorities only. White high schoolers can't get into the better college, the slot is given to a minority with lower test scores. White people are passed over for a promotion at work, it's given to a minority. The pendulum has swung too far to the other side. Now it's white people suffering from discrimination.

But if white people hold a rally to point this out, they are called Nazis.

Some minority groups who fought against the overbearing whites in the 1950s, have now become everything they despised.



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188,317 I hope to die in my sleep.  No doctors, no surgery, no chemotherapy, no tearful scenes with family members saying goodbye.  Just live a normal life and then slip off one night without suffering or drama.

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188,316 I have an irrational fear I will die in my sleep. I believe it comes from my childhood. An old man on my block died in his sleep. It affected me. It put the thought in my head that I COULD DIE IN MY SLEEP. Try going to bed with that thought stuck in your head! I don't dwell on it every night, but on enough nights that it weights me down.



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188,315 They say misery loves company. I'm not gonna lie - I love complaining, I love picking apart things that suck or things that aren't working out.  I'm not happy crappy things happened, but it's a cathartic feeling to complain. Conversations are just so much more in-depth and interesting when I have talks that aren't happy-go-lucky or positive.



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188,314 I am in sales and when ever I sell a lot people comment on how i looked really good that day that's why I had so many sales. Not because I'm articulate, charming, and smart. I am more than just my looks.



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188,313 I'm not getting ANY WORK. I'm internally freaking the fuck OUT. Oh my god, what the hell am I going to do? I'm sinking too fast.



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188,312 I am scared. All the time. I didn't used to be. I think having kids and loving them so intently has opened my mind to all the horrible shit that could happen to them. I hide it pretty well. My kids have freedom.
Recently my daughter went on a school trip out of town for 2 nights. I was a nervous wreck the whole time she was gone. She never knew it though.

I wonder... am I the only parent who feels like this?



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188,311 I want to have sex but think my penis is unwanted by the vagina on a biological level - like my sexual needs is good for me but bad for her.  Like it's not possible for a woman to want sex without being traumatized and remorseful from being used by the penis.

I obviously get immense pleasure but at the same time feel so guilty that I'm making her a victim. I would rather live in a world where women chase the men and make all the sex moves so I could feel I had some sort of sexual value.



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188,310 I have no interest in tasting my own semen. But I tasted another man's semen once. I was dating my girlfriend for several years. She had a hot and spunky friend, Anne. Anne and I would flirt. I'd fantasize about her. But nothing ever happened. Then Anne got married. That door was closed to me forever. Or so I thought. About six months after Anne tied the knot, she moved into a new apartment with her husband. She called and asked if I could come over and set up her new Mac. I went over one morning on my way to work. I set up everything and gave her a tour. When I demonstrated the camera function, she struck a sexy pose and let me take a picture. Then another, and another. I teasingly said she should show more skin, which she did. She was wearing a robe and opened it up a little. That's when I realize she wasn't wearing anything under the robe. I teased some more and suggested a nude shot. After a little cajoling, she took the robe off. By a few minutes later we were on her bed and I was groping her body. Her pussy was very wet. I started to go down on her, but she stopped me. I thought she was being shy, so I tried again. Finally she explained her hesitancy. She said she and her husband had sex that morning, an hour earlier, before he left for work. That's why she was wearing only a robe. The wetness was his semen. I was touching her husband's semen. She said she'd like nothing better than for me to lick her pussy with her husband's semen in there, but she really couldn't let me do it. I think it was my years-long pent up desire to please her sexually that made me do it. I swooped down and licked her pussy, husband's semen and all. It tasted like bleach to me. I thought she was going to die at the thrill of it. Doesn't bother me. It happened in a moment of passion. I eventually broke up with my girlfriend and lost touch with Anne. In thinking about it, kind of funny. There's a married guy out there who has no idea I sucked his semen into my mouth, and straight from his wife's pussy. Ha ha.



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188,309 My man has been really clingy. Hyper-sensitive, apologizes profusely for even the smallest act that he thinks might offend me (it's hard to offend me...) I feel like I can't have a conversation with him because he wants to talk about how much he loves me and how much better his life is with me in it, and it just overwhelms me a lot. I'm not used to that from the men I've dated so I don't really know how to respond. I show love rather than verbally profess it. We've been together for 4 months and this just started about a week ago.

What really bothers me is that last night he stayed over, and today he texted me and said he touched me in my sleep and his fingers smelled like me. He said he felt bad about it and apologized. HE feels bad about it?? I feel violated that something sexual was done to me when I couldn't give consent.

I hope this all goes away soon and things go back to normal. Not sure if I can handle this long term.



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188,308 Hmm if it's you...we don't have to go back in time, you can just text me...signed, your little slut.



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188,307 You have no fucking idea how much I want you, or maybe you do a little. If only we could go back in time.



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188,306 I'm enjoying the bitterness on both sides. I hope civil war breaks out. It would be the ultimate in reality TV.



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188,305 I don't love the way cum tastes, but that's part of what turns me on, it's naughty because it doesn't taste sweet or whatever.  In that moment I belong to that guy (in my mind, because i will only swallow if i really like/love him) and I'm totally submissive, and it feels so good for him.  I think it's mental for the guy too.  That moment he's about to cum is so hot...and if it shoots far, it turns me on so much.



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188,304 I wear hoops...they're like small to medium size.  Lol.  Big ones get in the way



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188,303 People tell me I'm beautiful. I laugh it off and say something silly like: you need glasses. But you know what? I am beautiful. I'm the most beautiful woman I know. There, I said it.



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188,302 You know... semen tastes different depending upon his diet, health, age, stress levels, etc. Y u dont kno dis? I thought it was common knowledge. It's actually a fun experiment; try eating fruit for a few days and see if your cum isn't sweeter. :] You're welcome.



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188,301 People like Charles Manson sit around and fantasize about race riots.  Helter-skelter, it's coming down fast, lol.
No thank you. I don't want to be associated with that .



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188,300 Reading some of these posts makes me lose my faith in humanity. So many examples of women being objectified, considered lesser than men, treated as though their purpose is to serve and gratify men. Rape culture.

Women are human beings.



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