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189,899 893 OK, but who gets to decide? There's so much disagreement on issues. Who will choose who needs to be delt with?



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189,898 -897, that's the truth.  If you're a good looking guy, it's suddenly no longer "sexual harassment," it's "flirting."  SNL did a hilarious skit with Tom Brady about this.

So I'm 43 but still a pretty good looking guy.  My office hired a young woman, about 22 years old, who I got to know platonically.  Nothing "sexual" was there at all - I'm married and my wife is a beautiful woman in all regards.  Me and this young lady just got along, and I started taking on the "mentor" role.  We'd laugh and make rude jokes and go to lunch.

However, at the same time the young lady joined the company, I started having a problem with my thyroid.  I started gaining weight, about 25 pounds in the first eight months that I knew her.  I became heavy and slower.

Wouldn't ya know... right before the doctor fixed the problem and put me on medication... this young lady - who I was office buddies with for almost a year - decided she no longer wanted me around.  She said she'd go to HR if I kept bugging her.  Total shock.  Of course, I left her alone.

But the thyroid medication made me start to lose the weight as fast as I gained it.  In the last six months I was there, it almost all came off.  I started looking physically better again.

And wouldn't ya know... she started trying to talk to me again like before the problem came up.  No, thanks.  I still left her alone.

So, yeah, what a woman believes to be "sexual harassment" can also be a factor of how attractive you are.



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189,897 When a guy is cute and sexy -it is called flirting- if he is old and ugly it is sexual harassment.stop this "me too" bull.



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189,896 Just in case it was my ex who wrote he will get even for me disconnecting his phone?? Um.. u probably didn't pay the bill or were living on only smokes and whatever drugs u thought would somehow help ur situation. I'm not saying u didn't pay the bill even because I DON'T ASSUME THINGS FUCKED UP .. by the way try not to tell ur next gf anyone besides u that she is "fucking the devil" terrorize not even yourself pray to the earth and don't be an egomaniac make connections appreciate ppl u are gifted and have a life to live sorry that I don't have the same number I did try to call but I actually feel like u wrote that so.... glad I didnt.. and he said over the phone I was fucking the devil. He's nuts and given up on all but his nuts which is sad cuz if he had taken IN some info instead of feeling like he was raining wisdom on the world he might could still be someone. He deserved better than a lesbian pity fucking him cuz he could have been making good love with someone else. To this day I feel horrible but vengeful ppl lose their lives to it probably their heaven too.. there are things me and him both experienced together strange happenings no one else would believe I tried to call not my fault ur disconnected or have taken enough psych meds to make a horse pass out if not die. Wish I could help. Even if u were a woman ud be as disagreeable and dishonest and vengeful as actually I'm not like that I wouldnt delete someone's art and I can't get off on my own pity fucks I'm given or every thing I share having to be super practical or it's returned with denial of the kind of thing u and me have seen and experienced together and separately. I hope tho someone teaches u practicality is actually most important in an impractical life and work. Think all the art u could have made by now. I'm not looking to reconnect with nearly any guy because of the possessive mind games



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189,895 Wealth has nothing to do with these people living that long , it might help since they don't have to stress about money and can afford the best medical services but there's plenty of people their age around the world that are old 90's and older , still able to function and have very good quality of life in countries like Japan and Spain just to name a few .  My maternal grandfather got live to 100 , he was active , he never had the need to be on medications (blood pressure, choresterol, etc..) he was at a healthy weight , didn't need a walker not even glasses . Hi secret was staying busy , eating healthy ( he ate a lot of fish) , being a positive and happy person and once in a while he used to have a drink and a smoke unfortunately my grandmother (his wife) died before her 50 birthday of breast cancer this is back in the late 70's before people were more educated and seek treatment early , she lived a very healthy lifestyle just like grandpa she just got unlucky and saw treatment too late .



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189,894 i can pretty much masturbate to anything.



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189,893 I think there should be a vigilante organization to even things out in the world. There is too much unfairness in the world today. Look at the news. Bad people get away with too much. There needs to be more balance. There needs to be a group that settles the score.



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189,892 They have invented immortality. They just aren't letting most people know about it. How old is Queen Elizabeth? How old is her husband? How old id Jimmy Carter and his wife? Immortality exists, but it is only for the extremely wealthy and connected folks.



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189,891 Your wife needs the shit kicked out of her.



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189,890 All this noise about sexual harassment and assault. And people wonder why I stay by myself.
M-57



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189,889 I recently went to a donut shop, and was given bad service and a bad attitude by the staff.  I looked them up on Yelp, and they have good ratings.  For some reason, some of the reviewers also complained about getting bad service and bad attitude, but gave good ratings anyway.  I wish this place had bad ratings and got shut down.  Fuck this place and the people who are supporting it.



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189,888 I can't believe scientists haven't invented immortality yet.  I want to live forever!



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189,887 Once upon a time I was an elementary school teacher. I was one of a very small group of "eligible" male staff people. I was sexually harassed and teased on an almost daily basis by the women I worked with.  I was prompisioned, got my ass pinched and patted and was asked about the size of my package on several occasions. One day I decided enough was enough and went to speak with my boss and ask for help.  The school principal was a woman and when I described in detail what was happening she laughed. She laughed and then told me most guys would love to be in my shoes. I kept my mouth shut and didn't complain anymore. Sexual harassment cuts in all directions. Women are capable of being just as foul and nasty as any man. Especially when they're in groups, same as men.  I know from experience.



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189,886 My wife rides her bike several times a week as a form of working out. When she is finished, she deposits her bike on the floor of the garage where I keep my car. When I get home from work, I have to move her bike.

We've had this conversation many times where I've asked her to put her bike in the bike shed. This is why the bike shed exists, for keeping bicycles.

She always gives me a hard time about it. She can never simply do the right thing and put her bike away like a reasonable person. She's too lazy. It's easier for her to ride into the garage and drop her bike there. She doesn't care that it causes a problem for me later.

She never admits it's laziness though. She makes strange excuses why the bike has to be on the floor of the garage. The latest, if she puts it in the shed, the gears will get damaged (why? no reason) and they will freeze up while she is riding down a hill, throwing her from the bike and she will die.

"Is that why you want me to put my bike in the shed? So you can have me killed?"

Always difficult, always talking with a sneering tone, always spitting poison. Try living with someone like her on a day to day basis.



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189,885 Oh Lawd, what a thang, what a thang.... wish I could just be a man and have a woman that wants to be a woman. All this role confusion is fuct.



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189,884 Next time a democrat wins the white house, I'm going to make sure to say as many bad things as possible about that person, even if I have to make them up.



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189,883 I think being a so-called genius has made life harder for me (I don't even believe in the concept of geniuses, tbh). When I was little, I picked up multiple languages and was an amazing chess player. Now I'm on my way to being a plastic surgeon, and I'm a fairly attractive slim-ish woman. Here's the funny part: for all this "genius" and "talent," I border on being completely socially inept, I've never had a boyfriend, and I have an anxiety disorder. I've never even had sex!

Oh the irony--I'm a genius who can't even figure out tab a into slot b



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189,882 Went on 2 dates with this badass chick, she didn't want to go out on a 3rd. She saved an awesome playlist to my computer. I dig it.



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189,881 And there it is. If you don't comply with the feminist man-haters, you're a pig. If you object to being called a pig, you're a pig. I'm going to stop interacting with ANY female.

50/male...NOT a pig. Fuck off.



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189,880 A lot of the men claiming that women are too uptight are actual real creeps and sexual harassers. We see through your bullshit. Keep claiming you're a nice guy, you're not fooling anyone.



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189,879 I'm sorry for posting this. Like most (all) women, this isn't  the worst "experience" I've had so it's not just me trying to make something out of nothing. But I still kind of want to share this story.

A few years ago I had dropped my car off for maintenance and when the shop called me to pick it up I didn't have a ride so I walked. It was a pretty long walk, probably close to an hour and a half, mostly through a residential area. I was wearing a pretty standard shorts and t-shirt (should that matter?).

This guy on a bike called out "hey pretty legs!" And pulled up beside me and started talking to me. I didn't make eye contact, I didn't engage him. I gave some non-committal responses like "mm-hm". Then he rode away. (Phew). But then he came back and I continued to brush him off.

He asked me "do you want to come to my place and teach me how to cook?
" "No thank you"
"Do you speak German? I can teach you."
"No thank you."

He kept riding away and then coming back a couple of minutes later. (This lasted for probably close to an hour). I was scared. I was kicking myself for walking alone (in broad daylight, btw) on a residential street where there weren't any stores or anything I could duck into.

Finally he pulled up beside me again and said "Do you want to see something? I have something to show you" and he reached his hand into his pants. I freaked out and yelled at him "No! Stop it!" He gave me a hurt look and said "sorrrreeee!! I was just trying to be nice!"  Then he left. For good. (Phew!)

No I wasn't assaulted or hurt. I'm not traumatized. I was and am fine. But I do consider it sexual harassment. There was NO way a reasonable person would have assumed I was interested by the way I was acting. And still I did feel a little guilty in case I somehow gave him the wrong impression.

Anyway, This is really not of much consequence. Some people will agree with me that he was inappropriate. Some will say I was asking for it by wearing shorts and being alone. Some will say I'm blowing things out of proportion and playing a "victim" for attention. Most probably won't even read it. But I'm glad that there is a conversation going on to bring more awareness to sexual harassment and assault.



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189,878 At the restaurant where I worked, the head cook wouldn't make the waitresses meals unless they made out with him.  I was only a 17yo dishwasher, but I knew it was fucked up.  I was surprised that none of them told the manager.



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189,877 My control freak wife tightly dictates what and when our dog eats. When she goes out, I give the dog leftover steak, hamburgers, hotdogs, and anything else he might like. Jesus, dogs don't live very long. Why not make their time as enjoyable as possible.



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189,876 Hitting on women has changed in my lifetime. You really can not even begin to flirt until they show you CLEAR signs they like you. If you're in doubt, don't even compliment her or you we be labeled “creepy”.

M36



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189,875 The people that think they are going to live forever make me laugh. If you have ever spent time around death, I have, you quickly learn the death is indiscriminate. The marathon runner kicks it at 40, the two pack a day smoker lives to 85. True, there are trends and averages, but life isn't data and everyone is different.

Live your fucking life without so much fear. We aren't going to be here tomorrow.



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189,874 I noticed something today while I was standing on the sidewalk talking to a friend of mine.  I have my hands in my pockets, and my arms weren't off to the side.  They were somewhat in front of me.  I've lost enough weight that my gut has gone down to where my arms don't hang to the side out of necessity.  It's the little things that count.



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189,873 In my experience, the young women who have assumed that I was "hitting on them" when I was simply trying to be platonic have been the young women who have been 1) less intelligent or 2) very self-centered.  That's probably pretty obvious, actually.  The intelligent women I've actually hit on have seen flirtation as a game.



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189,872 It was more interesting when women banded together to #FreeTheNipple



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189,871 870- #me too



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189,870 I want to post #metoo on fb but I don't want my family to know what happened.



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189,869 Your daughter has herpes at age 17. You must be so proud!



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189,868 Grasp this...Before they were stars these women allowed themselves to be subjected to some lewd behavior by Weinstein. Yes they allowed it. They allowed it because they wanted to be famous. Now that they've "made it" they decide to cry foul. Wow, I wish someone would give me the shot to be a millionaire in exchange for the grabbing my ass a few times or parading around naked in front of me. Fuck no, I had to work WAY harder than that to earn my cash. Oh and BTW, I've had MANY good looking, young girls let me take them to pound town repeatedly just to pay their rent. I don't wanna hear this crap, they were complicit. PERIOD. 43/M



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189,867 I only have what I have because people died and left me their money. I would gladly give it back if they would.



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189,866   Living dangerously is a mitigating factor. Don't play in traffic. Don't run with the scissors.



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189,865 When I was 16 I worked for a butcher.

The owner thought it was cute to walk by me and grab my ass.

I grabbed the big knife near my station and said "touch me again motherfucker and I'll cut your fucking balls off"

Told my boyfriend who started waiting for me after work every day.  He told his friends who started coming by to check on me.  Never told my Dad but he started coming by there to "shop" and keep an eye on things.

Never happened again.



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189,864 One of the hardest things to do is let go of someone that you felt was the love of your life. Love doesn't conquer all after all :(



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189,863 Something that has annoyed me since high school - when girls/young women use the phrase "my boyfriend.".

You know, like "My boyfriend and I went out this weekend."  Or, "My boyfriend bought me this ring."

It annoys the fuck out of me.  Does your boyfriend have a name?  Or are you just telling people you have a boyfriend so they'll think you're wanted?  He's a person, not your object.



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189,862 "I'm a CEO, and I work for a Fortune 50 Company."

Hire me. I'm good.



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189,861 I wish I could resign from my health problems and my ADHD like some folks resign from their jobs.



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189,860 Two funny conversations I have overheard recently:

Man at front of line in convenience store to the woman standing behind him: Sorry that took so long.
Woman: I'm not in labor.

White woman to Asian man: Do you speak English?
Asian man: Yes, but if you'd rather speak Chinese, I can do that too.

:)



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189,859 This whole me too thing is crazy. Apparently all the women I know have been sexually assaulted.



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189,858 I miss the old days. Before Facebook. Before smartphones. Before LinkedIn.

The days when you could be anyone. When you could meet a stranger in a bar and be the person you wanted to be for that stranger. There was less baggage then, less performing.

I miss buying a CD and listening to it from start to finish, each song in context. I miss watching a movie without playing on my phone. I miss talking about a season finale with coworkers or classmates the day after it broadcast.

I miss the days when you could hide away in your apartment and ignore the ringing phone and let it go to the answering machine. Hello, I'm walking in the spiderwebs, leave a message and I'll call you back. You could lose yourself in a book, listen to the rain falling against the windows. I can't hear the rain over the constant hum of our computers anymore. There's no silence. There's no solitude. There's no privacy.

Sometimes, I just want to be just me, and I just want to be alone.



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189,857 My ex-executive assistant died today.   Cervical cancer.   45 years old.

I used to snort cocaine off her tits during parties.   We once fucked for a two days straight hung out on crack, meth, grass, booze.   What a doll.  

Fuck, I miss her



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189,856 I don't care my boss is as married father of three. He's gorgeous and we've been "harmlessly" flirting for too long. I need him to fuck me. Over his desk, in a hotel room, in the bed he shares with his wife, or all of the above - I don't care. I just need him in me.



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189,855 I like the posting of the old guy,   never say anything but hello, good morning to the young women.   Best advice ever.

I'm a CEO, and I work for a Fortune 50 Company.  

Since I never talk to the young women - like ever - very few are promoted as a result.



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189,854 Okay this whole conversation is bull, as is our 2017 “politically correct” culture. If a man tells me that I look good today or my hair looks pretty or that I look like I've lost weight I do not feel harassed. I would be gracious and elated - even if he was homeless, smelly and toothless. A compliment is a compliment 👍🏻

Having recently been sexually harassed in the workplace let me break it down for all the knuckleheads out in cyberspace. The old creepy dishwasher at work would tell me he wanted to take me out. He would tell me he wanted me to be his girlfriend. Finally, when bringing dishes down to him from a function we were having upstairs he took the grotesque opportunity to rub the front of his body against mine and pin me in the tight hall we were in. I was mortified and frightened - those are the distinct feelings of someone who is being sexually harassed. I agree with the person who said that women can be guilty of it as well, absolutely.

For my part in what happened between myself and this gentleman, I was too polite, I didn't tell him to back off. I would smile, drop the dishes and get the f*** out of there. When he pinned me against the shelf in the hall I reported him. Turns out many women at work did, now the douche doesn't work there.

Cause and effect. Simple.

You want to tell me my boobs look nice and perky, that's inappropriate unless we are sleeping together - if this is confusing to you, well, I don't know. You want to tell me I look cute in my glasses - well thank you! See???



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189,853 -850, you sound like a good guy, but... DO NOT TELL HER ANYTHING.  IT IS TOO RISKY.

You can thank Third Wave Feminism for this.



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189,852 Some women abuse men.  Not all men abuse women.



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189,851 I count myself lucky to have never been victim to sexual harassment or assault, but I know what it's like to be threatened and beaten by a man. I've been pushed, shoved, punched in the face, strangled... had my and my pet's life threatened. I'm still dealing with post traumatic stress almost a decade later. I want to show solidarity by saying "Me Too", but I also don't feel like explaining myself because my scars are slightly different.



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189,850 There's a woman I know who is on a diet. She was about 50 pounds overweight at the start of the year. Now she is looking great. I bumped into her the other day. I wanted to say something but I didn't want to embarrass her in front of others in the room. When I got back home I tried to send her a complimentary email. I wrote something up. Deleted it. Wrote something else. Deleted it. I'm afraid to say anything. The news has my head spinning. I'm male. She's female. I don't want to say anything that could be spun as sexual harassment. What a shame though. I want her to feel good about her weight loss. I want her to know that people like me noticed all her tremendous effort and stick-with-it-ness. In the end, I told myself to hell with it. I wrote that she looks really good. Sue me.



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189,849 So I've recently found out that telling a woman "You look pretty today" or "I like your hair like" that is sexual harassment. What is this world coming to? In my brain..these are simply compliments meant to show someone your appreciation. I'm so glad I work mostly with machines and rarely have to talk to anyone but my family. The world is getting more and more stupid as time goes on.



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189,848 i think i'd miss you even if we'd never met



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189,847 With the women who are finally coming out of the shadows and bringing legitimate  sexual assault, harassment, and rape into the open, it's been very interesting watching the various reactions from people.

Many are loving and supportive. Some feel  that the women and men speaking up about what they've been through just need to get over it and move on. Some claim they're just blowing things out of proportion. I saw one person tear a women down who spoke about the trauma from being raped. He told her that she was just making herself a victim by talking about it. Thank god the majority of men are not like this. But the ones who are cruel and criticizing sure are loud.


Some of the people I know really showed their true colors with their responses to women using #metoo. These women were their friends, colleagues, family!  Some of these men were on my social media accounts. They are not anymore. I don't need someone deciding whether or not he thinks my assault was real or just me making myself a victim. I am not a victim. I'm a survivor.



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189,846 I am a man who was accused of stalking and harassing a woman back in high school. It was a very unusual experience. Me and her were close friends; she usually invited me to places and we talked on the phone quite a bit.

All of a sudden she did a 180 and claimed I was stalking her; being at her home odd hours of the night, making phone calls to her constantly.

It got even more bizarre as she kept showing up by my house watching to see if I left. I would catch her following me minutes after I left the house to go on a run to either my mom or dads since my parents were divorced. Usually to scream at me and call me a creep or stalker. She got her friends to do the same and eventually I barely left the house.

The police got involved and my father got me a lawyer. It was determined that I did nothing wrong and I didnt even come close to actually stalking her. She was crazy and wanted attention. I had to change schools however and she and her friends got served a cease and desist order before they would stop.

The police told me later on that they have caught her and her friends snooping around my dads house and one of her friends admitted they were looking for me to see if I would leave and look for them.

Very bizarre I know. She claimed she was being stalked but yet ended up stalking and harassing me.

This is my #me too story



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189,845 The mothers in my super rich town (Darien, Connecticut)  are out of control. They try to avoid any sort of family chores. They hire a cleaning lady and a yard person. They buy pre-made dinners so they don't have to cook. They bring in tutors to help with their children's homework. Now the latest fad is they get Uber to drive their kids to sports practice and playdates. The moms don't even bother contacting Uber. The kids do it themselves. We're talking kids as young as 10 are on their phones to arrange an Uber pickup to get to the after-school soccer match. The moms are freed up to sit around all day to play tennis or drink wine or cheat on their husbands. What ever happened to the pride of being a good mother and wife?



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189,844 All the behaviors that heterosexual men claim are just friendly/playful/flirting immediately become inappropriate and harassment when a gay guy does it to them. If it's as innocent as they claim, why do they freak out when they are on the receiving end instead of just saying they aren't interested?

M/31/gay tired of hetero hypocrites



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189,843 Theres this beautiful blonde who works on the night crew at my job. I work weekend shift. I often see her looking at me and she smiles at me pretty often when im in on ot. I wonder if i have a shot. I wish she would give me a sign that its more than friendly,as ive just been heartbroken earlier this year and still recovering and my confidence and self esteem took a big blow



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189,842 Overheard at lunch today, "She's a Widow? cool, i'll ask her if she wants her empty hole filled!"
wow, people.



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189,841 There's a big difference between flirting and sexual harassment, when I think about sexual harassment i think about a man/women trying to touch inappropriate (breast/butt/private parts/putting their hand under your skirt /legs)  or trying to sexual assault you , flirting it's just someone giving you a nice compliment, ask you out for a drink, lunch, etc... it's hard to believe that some people cannot tell the difference especially women and over used the word sexual harassment.



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189,840 Women play the he-sexually-assaulted-me card too often. I don't believe them. I think they make it up because they are mad about something else. It's a crappy shot by crappy people.



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189,839 I just started at this job.  There's a very attractive Asian woman who works here.  Nothing will happen because she's half my age, I'm way too old for her, and I like to keep things professional.  All I've done is smiled at her when I passed her in the halls and said hello as I walked by, which is the same thing I do with everybody else I pass in the halls.  She's not in my department and I don't want rumors starting, so I'm not doing anymore than that.  

However, what I can't understand is why she doesn't even look at me when she passes by.  One day she smiled at me when I held the door for her... only to shut her smile off after two seconds, look straight ahead, and walk by without saying anything.  Today we almost bumped into each other when we rounded the corner from the opposite direction.  She looked at me almost like she was afraid of me while she said, "Excuse me."

Maybe she's just scared of older men in general.  I hope that's all it is.  I don't think I've done anything "creepy," given that I never really said anything to her, and I don't leer at her in anyway.  Anyway, I'm not bothering to find out anything else about her.  I don't want to one of "those guys" in the office.



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189,838 -826, don't be surprised if one of your exes' girlfriends gets in touch with you.  There's many women who'd kill for that.



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189,837 When I was younger in the 1990s there was this phase where it became cool for young women to have "stalkers."  A "stalker" apparently meant that a guy wanted the "victim" girl so much that he couldn't control himself around her.  What young lady wouldn't like being wanted so badly?  I know several guys who got accused of "stalking" a girl when the guy was only doing the silly shit young men do when interested in a girl.  Unfortunately, being accused of being mentally imbalanced and violent affected these young guys.  It was fucking ridiculous.



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189,836 Harvey Weinstien: Now, here is a sick bastard. No doubt. He clearly used his power to subjugate, sexually assault, and hurt women.

But here is the really fucked up part I keep thinking about.... this creeeepy guy made all those women famous, gave them great career boosts and many of them have fantastic lives because of him.

It's a strange paradox. Hard to grasp.



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189,835 I doubt that you are an evil molester who "raped" your girlfriend, yet there's a possibility that she was raped in the past. Possibly as a child and had unresolved issues surrounding that experience. All women encounter some form of abuse from predatory males and in some cases, predatory females. She possibly didn't feel comfortable enough to share that with you yet as she may have been waiting for the right time to share that information.

Mind you, this is theoretical and may not actually be the case- yet, having been with someone who was violated, as a child, by a predator- a fucking monster, it steals their innocence and ability to trust anyone, including those they love.  Especially the ones they give themselves to. I've been there and I never, ever made sexual advances while she was asleep because I knew it would have triggered a violent response.

It's difficult enough to show a person like that is safe with you. Their alarm bells have a lower threshold than someone who is completely healthy and secure. Soulmate is just another word for a toxic/narcissistic relationship scenario. Sorry for your pain brother, been there, done that. Empathy and understanding in the future will prevent further damage to you and your next lover.



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189,834 somebody is meddling in my life... I know it. I just can't figure out who.



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189,833 So sad that people don't understand consent. If you don't have consent, don't do anything to a person. Wish that wasn't a secret. We need consent education classes



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189,832 Sometimes I think I should take my husband last name , it will make life easier but part of me wants to keep my long, hard to pronounce last name not just that but  my Basque great - grandparents sacrifice a lot and sold all their possessions to start all over far away from home and would be an insult to them to get rid of my last name especially since I'm a female and won't be able to past the family name .



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189,831 If a woman is with a man and they are sleeping together and she decides to wake him up in the morning by giving him a blowjob (something not unheard of and actaully done to me once!) is that rape?  By today's standards it would seem to be. Sad.



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189,830 Im almost postive that I have become addicted to cyberporn and chronic masturbation.  FML!

M/50.



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189,829 My new puppy peed on my bed. I don't think I can ever sleep in the bed again.



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189,828 I'm a really good person, morally and character-wise. I worked very hard for many years to become this way. Of course, I'm not perfect, and there will always be room for improvement, but as of now, I can say I'm very proud of who I am. Not a lot of people can say that.



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189,827 Red headed women are always oddballs.



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189,826 I'm a guy. Apparently I'm also one of those evil molesters who prey upon vulnerable women. Here's what happened. I was living with a woman. We had been living together for about 6 months. We were a good couple. I genuinely liked being with her. She was my soul mate. One night we went out with her friends. There was drinking and dancing. We get home late and collapse into bed. Next morning I wake up before her. She's splayed out naked. I think it would be fun to wake her up by licking her pussy. I go at it. Eventually she starts to stir. I feel her stretch. I keep licking. She starts moving to the rhythm. She has one of her hands on my head. I know she is awake. I know she is enjoying it. She orgasms.

Immediately afterwards, she accuses me of raping her.  WHAT!!!!!!!! She says she was sleeping the entire time and never gave consent. She says I had no right to touch her. There are tears. She is screaming. She gets on the phone with one of her fri4ends. More tears. She goes out to meet the friend. When she comes home I'm given the cold shoulder. By a few days later she moves out. I am branded as the guy who raped his girlfriend while she was sleeping.

It was completely unfair. I was being playful and fun. I truly liked this woman. It was a gesture meant to please her because I liked her so much. But no, I was labeled as the worst kind of bad guy.  It was totally fucked up.

Honestly I think she made a big deal out of it so she could say ... me too... oh pity me, I was raped. I'm in the club. Men are evil and I was abused...

It gave her something to talk about with her friends. My feelings, my reputation, nothing about me mattered. She got to be the center of attention in the women's circle and that's what was most important.



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189,825 Does it mean all the actresses that slept with Weinstein are now famous and therefor will not accuse him?
Or does it mean the ones accusing him slept with him-but did not become famous.
What a dilemma?



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189,824 Sexual harassment use the be called flirting- in the good old days- when women were women and men were men.  Women's lib has killed the sexual flirting in this country so much so that when I cam here for the first time I thought all American men were gay. No men would look at you or flirt or make eye contact.In Europe men would look at you and compliment you and women loved it.The man was the hunter and both sexes enjoyed the hunt.Men are now castrated by women who view any compliment as sexual harassment.I have never been sexually harassed as I will not allow it.I will not be put in a situation where I can be.Women should stop being victims- take control of your actions.



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189,823 I wish saying no could have stopped someone who I thought I could trust from sexually assaulting and almost raping me. I said no. It didn't work. I cried. I begged. I struggled against him. That didn't work either. It didn't work the other two times he assaulted me either. Funny thing about sociopaths, they do horrible things to you and manipulate you into forgiving them, and then they do it all over again. You feel stupid, and you don't report him because you're afraid that other people will call you stupid and blame you.

Some men don't take no for an answer. Ever.

My friends are posting #metoo and candidly discussing their experiences, and even though I've gotten therapy for the times he violated me, I'll never tell anyone out of that same old fear...



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189,822 I got raped too and I still can't talk about it 5 years later. I need help



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189,821 Just say no? Yeah I did that. Just saying no didn't stop me from being molested at 8 by another girl, raped at 13 by a 24 year old man, as well as my boyfriend at age 19 who thought it was cool to just take what he wanted if I was sleeping. Wake up to that, asshole. I've been leered at, creepily complimented on my clothes by strangers, been the butt of jokes in an all male workplace, and I'm scared to be by myself without my mace with me. How's your existence, white male?

41/f



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189,820 I'm not understanding why people get hooked on Percocet or why they even like it. After ankle surgery (I had a really messy accident where my ankle broke at several places) I was prescribed Percocet. I took it for a week because I was in pain, but The entire time I was super drowsy. And was also super constipated. I didn't like taking it at all...  i wish I could report that it was a great experience, but it wasn't...



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189,819 I mock minorities but only when I'm with close friends. When I'm in mixed company like at work I get on my soapbox and say anyone who makes racial jokes is an prejudiced ass.



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189,818 i seriously love watching TV / netflix / shows etc in my bed. i would rather not do anything else honestly........ i don't think i'll ever find love at this rate



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189,817 i like a good poop. i like a a good pee. i like a good sneeze. i like picking my nose. i like cleaning my ears. there's a pattern. i like when things come out of my body. sexual intercourse is the opposite. he wants to put something into my body. no wonder why girls dont want to do it!



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189,816 I tell ya, that Percocet, how could I describe?  I know now why it is addictive.  I don't think I ever got high, BUT, it sure got me sleepy, and man, I LOVE sleep.  I would take a couple of pills because of the pain, and within half and hour, I would get sleepy. MAN, I LOVE THAT FEELING!!  I MISS THAT FEELING!!!!  I was also having issues falling sleep at the time, this was one of the side effects of the pain medicine, it would make you drowsy.  Therefore, I would use this pain medicine to go to sleep at night.  I don't take Percocet anymore, but I sure do miss that feeling.



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189,815 When we were first married, my wife and I both enjoyed sex. It made us happy.

Somewhere along the way my wife decided that denying me sex made her even happier. She derived joy from me asking for sex, to the point of begging, and her saying no.

I've taken it a step further. Once I realized how much she enjoyed turning me down, I stopped asking. That put a wrinkle in her plan. I got her good.

So now we are both happy again. I'm happy not ever asking for sex. She's happy knowing she has the power to turn me down. Yay, we are both real happy. Sorta.

Marriage is weird.



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189,814 Why do women take nude selfies and send it to a boyfriend? What do you hope to accomplish? That he will drop everything and propose marriage? Has that ever happened? I'll tell you what you do accomplish. The nude selfie gets posted online and one million perverts jerk off to the image.



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189,813 The issue is that when some of these women said no to Trump and Weinstein, they were blacklisted from the industry. That's the harassment part.



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189,812 I'm part of Karma's Army.



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189,811 I'm a grown man, and I think my father stalks me.



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189,810 I'm not sure of the difference between sexual harassment and men simply showing an interest in a woman. I'm hearing some of the "sordid" stories from Hollywood.

"The actor said he'd like to take me out to dinner sometime."

How is that harassment? It sounds like he was asking her on a date. Is asking a woman out now forbidden?

A little stronger:

"He asked me to come to his hotel room."

Sure it could be he's asking her to come over for sex. Is this really terrible? Men and women get together for sex all the time. But when convenient, women claim this is over the top rude of the man to ask. Consider, if men stopped asking, the species would die out.

Ladies, if you don't want sex, just say no.



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189,809 Every woman has been sexually harassed.

Every single one.  it starts around age 12 until 40 or so. Then it quiets down.

I'm so fucking glad I'm older now. I have some peace.

50/F



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189,808 I try to keep me and my friendships strictly friendly but the men always try to take it further. I am friendly, attractive, and communicate well, guess that is my problem.



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189,807 A museum I work at has some guy who thought it was ok to tell me I had nice legs and how beautiful and sexy I was. I'm an only child... shy. Never knew what to say. It always made me feel so awkward. I didn't really want to be told these things while I was at work. Actually, it was total bullshit. At first, I thought that if I worked hard enough, I'd be valued. Maybe I just wasn't doing enough to make an important difference.

But, eventually I learned it was all fucking bullshit. Then I start getting bullshit texts about how he wants to spend all day in bed with me. Fuck it. Fuck people.

This is why I'm going back to school in Janurary. Tired of dealing with this absolute sack of crap.



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189,806 I know why you're beautiful and yet can't get a boyfriend.

You're a vegan.  Nobody wants to put up with your bullshit.



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189,805 I am convinced that my in-laws cannot be exhibiting mentally healthy behavior.  They're visiting this weekend, my wife's parents, her brother, and our sister in law.  These are not stupid people - three have advanced degrees, and my brother in law was his high school valedictorian and is finishing up a PhD.

But I do not know Republicans who gather around and constantly rehash why they hate Hillary Clinton, night after night after night.  It can't be normal.  They talk as if they believe: 1) everybody secretly agrees with them; 2) everybody actually hates Trump; 3) there's only a small group of people who actually like Trump, such as the uber-wealthy and the morally obtuse; and 4) Trump is THIS CLOSE to having everything collapse around him.  And it's rarely about any specific policy, and when it is, it's more about Trump than an actual policy position.  

And when I walk in on them, they shut up... as if they know that my input will force them to give up their fantasy and return to reality.  It's not stupidity, it's some sort of fantasy they're trying to keep up.



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189,804 -769, I just started a new job a month ago.  One of the older married women there and I have compatible personalities, and one day we were talking about all the younger people in the office.  I told her that as an older man, I will not say anything to any unmarried, young woman under about the age of 26 other than "hello" or  "good morning."  If I don't have a project with them, I will not speak to them.  I will not get personal with any of them in any way.  She smiled and nodded her head because she knew exactly what I was talking about - young women's default mindset is that men who talk with them want them sexually.  It's safer to ignore them.



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189,803 Watching the morning news together is going to start a fight. How fast does a gas balloon go? I don't know why don't you scream it at me until I get irritated and full blown fight is in effect. Best part about it, though, is the part where he doesn't talk to me for the rest of the day. Yes, please disappear so my life can be worth living again.



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189,802 788!!! Do not be hard on yourself! Let your son do hos thing. He is probably inventing a new ers of Facebook. Be glad he doesn't do go to parties and do drugs. He's a nerd and that's what we need in life. I am sure he is doing good things.



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189,801 The world is in an undertow, I'm drowning in it. It's come to the point where I'm almost too exhausted to keep swimming. I don't want to be taken under, but I see no more options.. no life line. Fuck I don't want to give up. :'(



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189,800 My wife views every kind thing I do as a slap in her face. I clean the car, she thinks I'm rubbing it in how she didn't clean the car. I make dinner, she thinks I'm trying to say I'm a better cook. I paint the shed, she thinks I'm trying to make her feel bad for not helping. How can all these kind gestures be spun as me doing something wrong? I can't live like this.



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